I feel like I'm at a dead end for potty training my daughter (28 months). I need a fresh perspective and some new techniques, because what I'm trying clearly isn't working. We've been at this for almost 2 months and she's very inconsistent with some weeks doing great and other weeks awful. A few notes - she does awesome at her daycare (10 hours a week) - she's only had 2 accidents there the whole time! She is mostly poop trained, only a few accidents, but pee feels not even close. She does better when we're out of the house instead of relaxing at home, even though I prompt her frequently at home. This seems so backwards from other toddlers I know that I don't know what to do! Any tips appreciated!

Before starting - she understood what the potty was for, and would ask to use it periodically which we encouraged. Mainly for pee, but occasionally poop too. She 100% seemed ready

Week 1 - We switched to underwear for everything except nap and night. She caught on quickly, didn't stop accidents in time, but clearly understood what was happening and would exclaim "uh oh!" and tell me as they were happening, made quick progress. We rewarded all potty action with a fruit loop.

Week 2 - Awesome, scattered accidents here and there, but overall good and started telling me when she needed to go before hand. I thought I had this made, lol

Week 3 - she ended up in the hospital for a few days and we had to revert back to diapers since she was connected to so many monitors and pumped full of IV fluid.

Week 4 - back home, went straight back to underwear and regressed. Lots of accidents and often no acknowledgment that they had happened, but understandable considering circumstances. Gradually improved, down to one or 2 accidents a day by the end.

Week 5 - She got it! doing awesome, we had family visiting and we went all over town, big excursions, etc and very few problems, only a few accidents in total all week! She still wouldn't tell us beforehand like she used too, but I thought we finally were back on track

Week 6 - the day after family leaves she had 12 accidents in one day. 12. The next few days were more like 3 each, but clearly we lost our progress and I don't know what else to try.

As of now we:
-If panties are dry, get 1 fruit loop for pee, 2 for poo, but none if panties are wet
-I remind her periodically to go, I've given up on her telling me for the moment
-she has to help clean up the mess
-pull-ups for night and nap

I really don't want to give up and go back to diapers because she clearly understands what's going on and I still think she's ready. But at the same time, we're going on a plane flight in 2 weeks and I'd really like to get her back on track before then.