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I did oh crap at 25 months with my son successfully, but definitely didn't keep him inside. It was a modified oh crap method- I would say he was just bottomless most of the time. We actually were on a beach vacation! I sort of do believe in the window but your DD is showing great signs and she's only 20 months! Maybe go for it pretty soon?
ETA: a lot of my friends trained their kids more gradually when they thought they were ready. My godson refused til he was like 3.5 but it went pretty well actually, it just took weeks and weeks. His sister trained in 2 weeks when she was 3 with no problem.

I did the "wait till they are 100% ready" aka no training with my first, and currently doing that with my second as well. DD1 was also interested by 20-24 months, but went back & forth with the interest/willingness. We always model & encourage, plus she had always been in daycare so they also helped there. But she didn't do it till she was 3.5. Yet it was so easy! One day she decided she was ready for underwear, and that was it! She's almost 5 now and had less than 5 accidents ever, all more-so related to being in new environments/not remember to ask to go. Same thing with night training. She did it herself some time around 4, just decided she was done with pull-ups at night, wet the bed maybe 2-3 times, and that was it.

My second is almost 3 now and we're taking the same approach! So to answer your 2nd question, I don't think there is a window to be missed

@graceandjoy: Co-sign this. We did the "wait until they are ready" approach with both of our kids and it was very painless.

There is no way I could stay home with my kid (or even by myself) for even 24 hours straight, so I never considered doing Oh Crap.

ETA: My first was 2.75 when she was "ready," and my second was more like 3.25.

We didn’t follow any guidelines or methods in potty training. We started both our boys around 3 years old though. They were fully able to take on and off their clothing and articulate their needs. We went cold turkey into underwear (or just pants). My kids also love peeing outside so that was helpful.

For my first, it took him a long time to get pooping and there were many many accidents. For DS2, it was so freakin easy! He woke up dry overnight very quickly too.

With my first, we did all-in OCPT by the book at 21 months and it was a bit of a struggle. For us it was definitely not the magic solution like the book makes it out to be, although I know it works for a lot of people. Our second is now 22 months and we've been taking a more gradual approach. For the last 6 months she's been super interested in the potty on and off, so we set up our little potty again and have her try before bath time and any other time she asks - this ranges anywhere from 10 times a day down to never for 2 weeks straight, just depends on her mood, haha. We're planning on doing the OCPT "bootcamp" type weekend over New Year's and go with undies after that! I'm considering going away from the book a little and doing small rewards like a sticker or gummy bear. My girls both respond well to rewards.

@graceandjoy: I did the waiting method with my first two who are January bdays so didn’t have to be trained until 3.5 for preschool. It was great for my lazy self Definite downside to having an August bday now so I’ll have to do it before she’s 3!

I’m personally opposed to Oh Crap so we were very gradual and relaxed with my 1st. It was just about the only thing we were relaxed and gentle about, haha. Will do it again for our 20 month old.
My ped said many aren’t truly ready till 3 and that was true for ours. But once he was trained there was ZERO regression or accidents and I think that’s because he was actually ready and we didn’t force him before he was.
You can always try just letting her sit in the potty and see what happens. She may see that it’s easy and prefer it to a diaper or it may be sporadic that sometimes she does sometimes she doesn’t, or she may freak out. Whatever does happen it’s ok. Just follow her lead.
FWIW my older son seemed ready a few times but then he just would freak out or change his mind. Poop took the longest (he was pee trained for 6 months before poop). We just kept gently trying and suggesting and then one day at 3 he was cool with undies and peeing in the potty, asked for a diaper for poop. Which, who cares? Then at 3.5 he pooped in the potty and never looked back. Zero poop accidents. Nada. And pee is like maybe a little drip because he’s playing and then he rushes. Like not even enough to change underwear.
My ped said that the window for potty training thing is bullshit, FYI. Kids are just ready at different ages, period.

@JJ2626: for us, I've learned my kids signs for when they need to use the bathroom before it becomes an emergency. My oldest will do this side to side sway and my youngest just grabs at himself hahaha. Plus most of the places we go, we know where the bathrooms are. And if it's a new place, the first thing I look for is the bathroom!

My 2.5 year old pretty much potty trained himself. It's been a month and we've only had a handful of accidents (mostly right after nap at daycare. He can't get to the bathroom fast enough!).