Yours or somebody else?
Cause, I think I am most definitely in the throes. And I totally got the sh*tstick in my parents'.....
I'll share mine if you share yours.
Yours or somebody else?
Cause, I think I am most definitely in the throes. And I totally got the sh*tstick in my parents'.....
I'll share mine if you share yours.
papaya / 10570 posts
Bump! Because I want @lizzywiz: to share!!!
I'm not experiencing a mid-life crisis because:
a) I'm going to live longer than 68
b) I'm still super young, right?!
My mum went through a dreadful mid-life crisis (she called it her "second youth") after my dad left home. She was 43. She started smoking and going out with her workmate, getting really drunk and bringing random men home. She dyed her hair bright red and started listening to Prodigy. It was.... weird.
pomegranate / 3244 posts
I think I'm still too young for a mid-life crisis (30)
I remember my mom having her version of one, though. She got a bright cherry red Mustang convertible. She joked that she could either get a sports car or divorce my dad, and settled on the car because it would be cheaper in the long run She's since traded it in for a much more sensible VW, haha!
blogger / eggplant / 11551 posts
I haven't experienced it myself, but I definitely think it's real! Just like the quarter-life crisis I saw some of my friends go through... I think generalizations and terms like these exist for a reason, and it's because it happens to a good chunk of people!
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
I watched my parents go nuts in their 50's. Mom even dressed like a playboy bunny for Halloween. I was mortified! She wore a swimsuit and tights!!! All very cliche stuff-expensive cars for each of them, motorcycles for my dad, vacations galore, long hair, ear piercings, tattoos, plastic surgery....!!!
People are really surprised because I am so....not into any of that (except vacations, heh)
eggplant / 11824 posts
My husband jokes he had one right before we met (he was 40). He got divorced and traded in the sensible Honda CRV for a 2 door Mercedes coupe. He used to get a split of expensive champagne every time I came back to town (long distance relationship for first 9 months we were together). It was fun!
nectarine / 2964 posts
I don't think I have ever stopped having a crisis lol. When it was earlier I called it quarter life crisis and now I am older I call it midlife crisis haha
kiwi / 739 posts
I definelty had a quarter-life one! I had just gotten married, but we weren't living together due to work, was thinking WTH did I get myself in to? Couldn't afford a new car but I did buy Louboutins!
Side note: I hate those damn shoes, most uncomfortable things on this planet!
@lizzywiz share yours!
papaya / 10343 posts
Both of my parents did! My dad grew a ponytail an bought a motorcycle without talking to my mom first(!!!). My mom started bar hopping with her friend.
eggplant / 11716 posts
I think my brother kind of had one, but the timing wasn't exactly right (somewhere between quarter life crises and mid life crisis). His circumstances were kind of special though. He had two bouts of colon cancer from ages 29-34....and then when he got well, he suddenly started going out all the time (he'd been married since age 21 so this was unusual for him), then he announced he wanted a divorce (THAT broke my mom's heart), then he started dating a string of unsuitable girls (girls who were like, 21 and waitresses...that type of thing), then he quit his job, moved to Paris for two years and started a whole new career, dating a bunch of Parisian women along the way (still wholly unsuitable).
Let's just say he changed his whole life. He's having his own "eat-pray-love" moment I guess. His whole philosophy now is that life is too short to not be 100% happy.
I get it, but I can't say it's been easy on my mom or of course, his poor ex wife.
pomelo / 5791 posts
I definitely had the quarter life crisis, and while I don't think my parents had typical midlife crisis, I have seen several of their friends go through some...interesting times.
persimmon / 1178 posts
@irene: this! ha!
@Cherrybee: @LibbyLou: gossip-mongers, the lot of you!
Well, it's not exciting (yet).My parents quit their jobs in their 40's, moved and proceeded down the rabbit-hole for the next decade until my dad died from their poor lifestyle and my mom went more crazy. I would say the whole 40-60 period was a crap shoot of angst, despair and youth obsession.
Me, I feel restless and like my age is creeping up on me and, the ever popular, 'Is this all there is?'
I think it is part due to age and part due to reaching most major life milestones (job, death of a parent, bought house, had kid, marriage, etc.) and thinking, "Now, what?" I feel tempted to do some big dramatic thing, like move cross country or quit my day job or take up an exciting hobby....but I am SO tired, so maybe I'll just talk about it on HB, ha!
I talk about this stuff on HB because no one in real life would imagine me dwelling on it- I am the most practical, stable seeming person you have ever met. But In my head I am riding a roller coaster of up/down and re-examining so much in my life. Interesting place to be, that's for sure!
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
@lizzywiz: I'm seriously re-examining my career, as you know (but have been since I graduated), and I feel like a new hobby is the safest choice lol! Rock climbing?...
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
@lizzywiz: I always said that when I turned 40, I would be packing it up and moving to San Diego...well, guess what, I am turning 40 this summer and there are no plans to move but I feel like I have to mark the milestone somehow. I am way to financially conservative to quit my job but yet, when I think about it, I have been doing this work for almost 20 years, and the thought of another 20 is enough to send me over the edge.
My husband, on the other hand, wants a new car, a completely impractical one. So, do I think there are times in your life where you have to cast off the old and bring in the new, yes. I've done it several times in my life already.
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