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I am so sorry.

I had the same situation, and all I can say is that it really sucks.

Some might suggest you have betas taken to see if they're rising or not. But I would caution you if you do that. My OB didn't want me in limbo for the whole week so she did betas but they were still rising so that made the limbo even harder because we thought things might be ok.

I went through stages of being hopeful (my SIL had this happen and she just had bad math) and being defeated (I started spotting right after the US). Remember that whatever you're feeling is ok. You're allowed to feel however you feel.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. My sister thought she was 7 weeks and there was only a gestational sac and she measured 5 and a half weeks. She thought she would be due around August 15 but her due date is actually September 2nd and she is having a healthy baby! The baby is 13 weeks today. There is always hope and ovulation is very hard to pinpoint. Wishing you good luck in te coming weeks.

@My Only Sunshine: I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope the next week goes by quickly and you can get some more definitive answers.

I'm so sorry you are going through this and you have to wait. I don't have experience with blighted ovum but I have had a loss and I second what the ladies above have said. It's ok to feel however you need to feel in the moment.

Lots of good thoughts and prayers for you

To follow up on @Tidybee: and keeping busy...that's what I did and what was best for me at the time. Because it was so ongoing and drawn out for me, I kept going to work and school and just missed the days of appointments.

Looking back, even though it would have been hard and sucked, I do wish I'd taken a day or two to fully process and feel my feelings instead of staying as busy so I could be distracted.

I am so sorry...hoping for the best For me, it was helpful to have bloodwork done (even though it wasn't actually that helpful) just to feel like i Was "doing something", and the extra appts made the week feel like it went by faster. I would just try to keep busy.

@My Only Sunshine: first of all, I am so so sorry that you're going through this, no matter what the outcome is. I had a blighted ovum back in october/november. When I had my ultrasound at 6 weeks, there was just a gestational sac. Two days later I started bleeding, I think mostly from the stress. My beta hCG numbers were all over the place for 3 weeks, which was difficult but helpful- I knew there was no hope based on the numbers, but it was frustrating to wonder what was going on because they kept going up and down. I ended up having to take misoprotol because it was an incomplete miscarriage.

I avoided the D&C because it would have cost me a couple thousand dollars, and the loss started on its own. In retrospect I wish I had just done the D&C anyway because my bloodwork made my doctor question some things and she ordered me to go to the ER, which ended up costing me just as much as a D&C. I feel like personally, if i did the D&C, it could have helped me heal and move on more quickly. From what I remember reading, blighted ovums miscarry naturally only 66% of the time. I sincerely hope that you end up with a joyful surprise the next appointment, but if you don't, I hope that it resolves all naturally and quickly.

Again, I'm so sorry that you're going through this and please feel 100% free to reach out to me on my wall or keep posting here in the support section. This place is one of the main things that got me through on some of the darkest days.

I had a blighted ovum pregnancy in August (first pregnancy following IVF). FX that you might still get some good news, but I agree that your dates sound solid. Sending lots of hugs and good thoughts! Feel free to reach out if you have questions or if there's anything I can do for you!

I had a similar situation, as well. My betas were rising but low. At a 6 week ultrasound there was basically nothing. I was in limbo for a long time with my betas, but the ultrasound actually helped me accept what was happening. For me, releasing that last bit of hope was what I needed. I started a natural miscarriage at 6 W6 days.

I am so sorry that you are in this situation. We went through the same situation two years ago when we were trying for #2. DH and I went to my OB for a dating scan at what I assumed was 6w4d but knew something was wrong when the OB remained quiet after starting the scan (with DD1 he found her right away). After a couple minutes he informed us that the gestational sac seemed empty and that it could be one of two scenarios: we are too early in the pregnancy or it is a blighted ovum and I am miscarrying. He drew blood to test betas and my progesterone levels, and also gave me a prescription for progesterone suppository as an enforcement until the results came back. His explanation is that if it is, in fact, earlier in the pregnancy than we thought and progesterone levels are low that the supplement may be the boost I need to keep the pregnancy. I stayed on the progesterone for about 3 days before my results came back - both my betas and progesterone was low. My OB felt that this pregnancy was not viable and said I would likely miscarry. I pushed for another ultrasound and went in a week after the first one but, again, we only saw an empty sac. I decided that I wanted to miscarry naturally and left. Part of me was actually hoping this was all wrong and if I waited a miracle would happen. I waited for 3 weeks, even traveling for a family vacation to visit family, before DH and I decided that I was just torturing myself by waiting. We scheduled a D&C just shy of what should have been 12 weeks. On the day of my scheduled D&C, the tech performed an ultrasound as part of pre-op and confirmed that it was a blighted ovum. My gestational sac had continued to grow and measured around 12 weeks, which explains why I was still experiencing pregnancy symptoms. I don't think I was able to properly grieve until after the procedure.
Like @marym, my DH put on a strong front which made it even harder on me. I explained that it felt like he didn't care (I know, not nice of me) and I couldn't understand why this didn't affect him. After a long heart to heart, I understood where he was coming from and it helped. I encourage you to be open about your feelings with your SO and do what you need for yourself during this time. It completely sucks to be in limbo waiting for results. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and hoping this works out for you!

I'm so sorry

Hugs to you- having just been through this (actually still going through it), I know how awful it is both physically and emotionally. It's really an emotional roller coaster that no one else can understand unless they have been through it.

I went in for my 8 week ultrasound in January and they found the empty sac. I had been keeping track of my dates so it wasn't even a question if the days were off. I had another loss before this one and even though that was an awful experience, I think this one was worse because with a BO your body is acting like its pregnant. I was starting to have all of the same symptoms I had with my 1st pregnancy so I wasn't expecting there to be anything wrong.

I had hoped that the MC would start on its own but after 2 weeks I hadn't even started spotting. My RE encouraged me to go the natural route with the misoprotol- I was also trying to avoid the D&C for money reasons knowing that there may be fertility treatments and possibly IVF on the horizon. I took the pills at the end of January and after almost 4 weeks I guess I'm technically still miscarrying since my HGC levels are still around 1000. I was around 10 weeks along and my HCG levels were at around 21,000 when I started so I knew it would take a while but I never expected it to take this long.

I really hope things end up working out for you but if it ends up being a loss I would recommend doing the D&C. I don't regret doing the misoprotol but I will never do it again. It has just really prolonged the healing process for us. My husband and I had already grieved the loss of this pregnancy and have been mentally ready to move on to the next steps for a while now. Whatever happens you will get through it- large amounts of wine help :).

@My Only Sunshine: So sorry for your loss. Wishing you a quick recovery and lots of peace and healing.

@My Only Sunshine: I'm so sorry for your loss

@My Only Sunshine:

@My Only Sunshine: hugging you closely and tightly. I'm expecting to hear back from the dr today with my Wednesday blood work to see how it compares to Monday then go from there. The wait sucks!