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We didn't sleep train. I was reading 'The No Cry Sleep Solution' and she wrote about making a changes for the right reason. If you feel like things need to change, then take those steps. I really thought hard about it and I didn't mind where we were sleep wise (she was at 1 night waking to nurse by 5 months and we co-bedded from 6ish am for her to dream feed.

We did a little accidental CIO, I took to long one night to get to her for her night waking and she was back sleeping before I could pick her up. Then she was just sleeping through the night.

We didn't ..... but lo slept 12 hours straight since 2 1/2 months.

Naps were a different story though. Lo was an aweful napper, but we weren't comfortable nap training. She always needed movement, either a swing, car ride stroller, etc. Then magically at 8 months she started napping in her crib. Now she's 19 months and she's an awesome napper. She says, "night night" with a big smile on her face so I get her ready for nap and put her in the crib, she sucks her thumb and she's out for at least two hours.

No sleep training for either of my kids. DS is 4 and sleeps fine now DD is 5 months and still wakes to nurse every 2ish hours at night. It still works for me so we will likely not sleep train her.

We are in the middle of sleep training LO right now. Before, we co-slept and although he would still wake up to feed in the middle of the night, I was okay with it.

But it took a turn for the worse all of a sudden and it would take hours to put him to bed, and he would wake up every hour and we would have to put him back to sleep. I was frustrated and sleep deprived. DH and I always argued about sleep, and we never slept in the same bed. I realized I needed to do something. I was uneasy and very nervous about sleep training but tonight is night 3 and it's going great!

We didn't sleep train. He has shown us that when he is ready it will happen. When he was ready to nap, he started offering naps easily and sleeping for 2 hours. Night time sleep was affected by nursing. So once I stopped offering he stopped waking. Now he sleeps from 8 pm to 5 am, wakes to eat them goes back
Down until 7 am. This is perfect for us.

I never heard if sleep training except on HB so can't say I did it. I just followed advice of feeding more often in evening and having a routine for bed. And I didn't actually follow those things as strictly as I read but L was STTN by 8 weeks. There have been exceptional weeks/nights and lately he wakes and we give a paci and he goes back to sleep. We are ok with this. I'm even happier since I've started putting him to bed awake and he falls asleep on his own for bed time and naps. I think I just got blessed with a baby who is a good sleeper for the most part. No real complaints though he is only 4 m so I know things can change still.

No, we didn't. DS is 8.5 months and has started sleeping well on his own more recently. He will STTN a couple of times a week and usually wakes once the other nights.

DS used to be a horrible sleeper around 4-6 months but I still didn't see the need for sleep training, something told me he'd grow out of it.

We didn't. I tried once, rather half-heartedly, and found it wasn't for us. His sleep got better on its own, and after one NW for several mos he finally STTN a little after he turned a year. He is 20 mos now and I've had to go to him only once since then, when he was sick.

We never did any sleep training with DD; she just figured everything out on her own, so we just followed her cues. She swaddle weaned herself at around 3 months, and around 1 year, she night weaned herself and started STTN.

The only sleep training we've done with DS was swaddle weaning at around 4 months, but we didn't do CIO. He'll be one on Saturday, and he just started night weaning himself and STTN more consistently, so hopefully, he's following in his sister's footsteps.

I never "sleep trained" any of my 3 girls. My oldest slept through the night at 3 months, my second slept through the night 4 months. My 3rd LO is just 12 weeks and just wakes up once during the night about half of the time and STTN the other half. I have no problem getting up to feed her and putting her back in her crib or just soothing her and giving her pacifier. I'd rather spend time doing that that CIO.

Our kids still wake overnight and eat a few times at 8 months, but we're ok with it. It's usually 3-5 times between them both. I'd love better sleep but our kids are happy and healthy and the wakeups won't last forever. It's what we signed up for, imo.

Cio is not an option as my son vomits if he cries too hard. We did learn to give them opportunity to settle themselves to sleep, and sometimes thats some noise but not full out crying. Over time they have definitely figured out how to sleep longer stretches on their own...for both naps and nights. At 7 months, to the day, they had a drastic improvement in sleep all around. The previous months were ROUGH, but it was clearly a developmental thing in our case that we just had to muddle through.

Have not sleep trained... yet. We are thinking about trying something when we get back from vacation. LO is 7.5 months old, up every hour (at least) after we put her down. Sometimes she will be up for 2 hours, fighting sleep. The only thing that gets her back to bed is nursing, which I wouldn't mind doing if it weren't EVERY HOUR. We have been bringing her into bed with us around 12 or 1am and she will just nurse on and off as she wants, but I don't get much sleep that way either. She also only naps for 30 minutes at a time. Like clockwork.

I am against CIO but I don't know what else to do at this point. I'm very tired.

I haven't (LO is 6 months tomorrow) She's a pretty good sleeper and usually only wakes once a night (sometimes she'll sleep right through). When we move to our new house I'll make an effort to help her fall asleep on her own but nothing yet.

@bunnylove08: I just took a look at this because, although I did sleep train my LO, I am always interested in alternative points of view. However, the judgmental and holier-than-thou tone completely turned me off.

Well, like a couple of other commenters, I guess I was lucky in that sleep training wasn't too difficult. I mean, I guess it was hard for me in terms of being stuck to a strict schedule, but LO didn't really fight it. I started off just establishing a very tight bedtime routine around 6-8 weeks, then when LO was naturally down to one wake-up, which was around 2.5 months, we added a dream feed and that eliminated the one wake-up.

I never let LO cry for more than 15-20 minutes, especially since I know that there is really something wrong when she has the occasional wake-up. It's so rare that I always think, okay, she really is in pain/afraid/in need of comfort, etc. And so I tend to go to her in those rare instances.

I guess I just hate the implication that people who sleep train are bad parents. Frankly, it's all a matter of perspective. For what it's worth, my MIL thinks my SIL is a bad parent for not sleep training her LO because she thinks it's wrong to not help your child learn how to sleep. I don't happen to share MIL's view, but offer that example just to show that there are two sides to every story, so to speak. At the end of the day, if sometimes wants to convince me to not sleep train my next LO, they will not win me over by judging me.

awwww @meredithNYC: I'm sorry that you feel that way I think that every family has to do what is right for them. Sometimes I envy the people who have LOs that STTN! Sleep training just is not for us. At the end of the day we are all just trying to do what is best for our families and each family is different and that is OK IMO!

@meredithNYC: I don't think anyone on here sounds judgmental. People are just talking about their own experiences and that sleep training just wasn't right for their family. That doesn't mean that parents who sleep train are in the wrong.

DS is 5 months and no sleep training yet. Does establishing a bedtime routine count as training? We just went thru a rough patch where we were considering, but it passed and his sleep has improved again. We may revisit the option of sleep training later down the road. But for now, it's working for us.

@bunnylove08: That article sounds horrible to me. Sorry, I know you were sharing but the tone is insanely preachy and holier-than-thou. I agree with @meredithNYC: it is totally off putting.

I also am against routine co-bedding, I believe it is dangerous but everyone has to do what is right for thier family. My 9 month old is EBF. I let her CIO at 4.5 months because she was waking every 1.5 hours and not getting any rest. We CIO for going down at night but I responded and fed her for night wakings. By the end of the week she dropped the night wakings on her own and was sleeping through the night so she obviously didn't need to nurse every 1.5 hours.