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We have dealt with this and we just shut it down. I think you're dh just has to tell them it is not up for discussion now or ever and if they bring it up again you will be leaving/not responding/etc. Now they don't bring it up to us at all. We just had to set a very firm boundary about this issue

My mom used to do this stuff. My family/parents were super super super religious when I was growing up, and I think it was quite a blow to them when I started moving away from that. I recently posted on another thread about one of the super messed up things my mom did in church in that time period.

She did other things, similar to your inlaws--like giving me wrapped christmas presents that were books like "The case for Christ", and giving me books with insane titles like "The dangerous side of Islam" (because my BF at the time was muslim). She was pretty ridic, and I just trashed that stuff and stayed firm in my beliefs. Now....I'm 35, so it's been about 15 years, but she's basically over it.

She doesn't even bring that stuff up any more. She still does small things, like gives LO a Little People nativity set, but I don't mind that small stuff. As far as DH goes (he's Hindu, btw), I think she learned her lessen back when I was in my early 20s and dating that other guy--that kind of behavior is going to endear the Christian religion to no one. And people aren't going to give up their entire religion because you gave them a poorly edited book from a Christian book store.

Eventually, your in-laws will get it. In the mean time, your DH needs to stand up to them and call them out on their rudeness when it happens. The group chat is over-the-top disrespectful.

Yes. My mother in law. She hasn't been too vocal about it with me yet, but she definitely disapproves of us not raising our kids with religion. She has been vocal with my step son in the past about religion, and if she tries the same with my daughter there will be limitations on her seeing her.

Wow, that's tough. My in-laws are uber Catholics and are very involved in their church. They pretty much keep their opinions to themselves, which I appreciate. We're not very religious, although we baptized our DS (Protestant). We do not go regularly at all. When my in laws stay the weekend they do bring DS to church with them, which I'm not too psyched about, but figure it's not worth a fight. Plus it only happens because I'm on bedrest and they are helping us by staying the weekend.

My ILs are super religious, but they do not push it. If anything my family have been more vocal about their disproval of us not being religious or raising DS in religion. Sorry though your ILs are being so aggressive about it. We don't care at all if LO goes to church or anything like that. Our ILs watched him this weekend and they took him. My stance on religion is that I want LO to be educated about it and to also think there is nothing wrong with being religious. Going to church a handful of times isn't going to make him believe it overnight.

So...my parents are both quite religious and we went through a pretty rough patch where he was constantly emailing me about God, writing about it on my FB page, tagging me in things, and calling me to talk to me, or I'd be talking to my mom on the phone and all of a sudden, he'd pop on to read me a verse, and tell me that I'd listen if I cared about him. He'd ask me nicely to "just sit and listen to this, for me" (which is so manipulative, and i know this is in hindsight) and he'd end up pacing around the room, waving his arms, preaching. We reached an impasse--i said it was respectful if he didn't talk about the stuff to me, and he said it was respectful if i listened. Finally, i had to start hanging up on every conversation that it was brought up in (after i had warned them i would no longer listen to it) and walk away, in person, and after awhile, they stopped. I had to, more than once, threaten that I would walk out of their house if they couldn't be respectful about it. It finally came to a head when I had to "acknowledge" to my father that I was "going to Hell" because I would not listen to him "handing me the word of God". It is one of the main reasons our relationship is crappy--it veered into religious abuse. It really doesn't come up anymore, aside from passive aggressive comments in person, like, "I tried to give you the word of God, but you wouldn't listen. I tried to save you!" He thinks he's doing his due diligence as a Christian, basically, and considers himself a huge failure that I do not share his (extreme, cult-like) beliefs.

Anyways, for me, putting up that boundary of "You will not discuss this with me, or we will not talk at all" was what worked. Otherwise, it keeps coming up. At one point, I even told my mom that I wouldn't talk to her until she stopped being the middle man, which broke her heart, but it got my dad to stop.