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@chypmunk: That's an awesome line for 9/10 DPO!

@chypmunk: That definitely looks positive! Congratulations!

@chypmunk: congratulations!!

@chypmunk: Congratulations!!!!

@Tionn3: I'm so so sorry. That is all so stressful and there is no good way around it. It's hard to be carefree when you know the reality of the situation. Just try to focus on each other's feelings and validate, validate, validate. There is nothing worse than feeling alone, on either side.

@snarkybiochemist: Yeah, it's the only way I can think of getting a third party person who isn't a therapist to get in there and tell him he's being a knuckle head...or at least maybe other men sharing their stories about dealing with their wives will give him so perspective or something, anything...

So my bleeding has already stopped (surprisingly sooner than it does with a normal period, after four days whereas it's almost always five or more) but now I'm having super strong cervical and pms type cramps. It is so weird because I'm not bleeding. Anyone else have a really weird af after a chemical?

@Tionn3: I'm sorry You're not alone in having a rough time and we're always here to listen.

I told my husband last night that our latest loss made me feel hollow again. His response was - it was my baby too and I don't feel hollow. You are enough to make me happy honey. Obviously I'm not enough to make you happy. He wasn't upset about it, he just was asserting the fact. He does make me really happy, but we have very different feelings about loss and at this point i think I'm fine with it...

I was feeling really discouraged today. I know it doesn't work like this, but I feel like we used up our luck last month and are due for another string of bfns. And now that we've had repeated loss, odds are that our chances for loss again are elevated. I actually started to think again about adoption - which is something that has always interested me but that I find a bit overwhelming given everything involved - and knowing that this is still an option made me feel better. Like each month that things don't work out, we are still getting closer to ultimately being parents, because there are other options if biology continues to be uncooperative.

@Tionn3: I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. I'm planning on heading to a support group tomorrow night for the first time. I'll report back on how it goes. I found it through RESOLVE - http://www.resolve.org/support/support-group/support-groups-list.html

I was expecting a positive OPK tonight since my follicle was mature but no such luck. Hopefully tomorrow.

I have one lonely OPK left... should I use it with FMU tomorrow or wait until the afternoon?

@bhbee: we are definitely doing it at midnight when my hubby gets home! I know it has to be positive really soon with my mature follicle.

@knittylady: I'm really sorry thinking of you. We're always here to listen, if it helps to talk about your fears... I don't of course understand what it is like to have an ectopic, but TTC fears are not in short supply on my end...

@mrskansas:

@dominobee: @Tionn3: That's definitely true for my husband, he could go either way on kids but worries about me being upset. I think we're at an ok equilibrium but still have room to understand each other better...

Ok, I'm finally caught up with this thread! Damn, we move fast!

@tionn3: Sorry about your weekend. It's so rough to walk that line of being happy for others without getting so mad and having your own feelings hurt (and without having to tell everyone your struggles). I hope things have settled at home.

@dominobee: Boo for the . I'm probably one of the your biggest cheerleaders here so my heart hurts when you hurt. I can't imagine how the 2 years have been for you, but I admire your strength and your persistent desire to become a mama. I know it'll happen for you. And I'm gonna eat a big ass piece of cake when you get your BFP!

@mrskansas: That's a nice size folly! Maybe save that OPK for tomorrow afternoon? Sounds like you have great timing regardless.

@chypmunk: Congratulations!!! Those are some nice lines for 9/10DPO! You're my idol!

@periwinklebee: DH has said something along those lines to me and sometimes that hurts more. He had no idea what I was going through this entire weekend--and I feel like not telling him made ME feel emotionally and mentally "stable." I think if I told him about what was going on and the hopes and disappointment, it would've made me go over the ledge emotionally. Mainly because I can't predict or control what he says....and a lot of the time, he says things I don't WANT to hear. "Things happen for a reason." GET OUT.

@knittylady: Good luck with the support group!

@snarkybiochemist: I'm on chapter 14 of The Handmaid's Tale...and I had no idea it discusses infertility! I might get emotional over it.

You guys, not to brag, but I just typed that entire response without going back to check your names. "Did we just become best friends?!"

And here's today's HPT.

Those wondfo evaps (4 of them!!! ) really screwed with me. At least I'm still on Prometrium so hopefully the next cycle is it!

@Mrs. Oreo: @periwinklebee: oh yeah sometimes talking to husbands is the worst ... I have a hard time opening up to my husband because it does make me break down. I was trying to explain to him that part of that is the emotional playing field being so unequal. He's never really had any skin in the game for our ttc or losses (he did want kids but it was vague esp after #1) and sometimes it feels like talking to a stranger. I'm so emotionally invested in the idea of this thing whose heart beat inside of me and he's honestly not sad at all because he wasn't invested to start with. He's still a good dad but just can't connect with ttc and early pregnancy. I'm sure so many of us could tell something similar. I just try to find a balance that works for us and honestly that is often keeping things to myself (and hb!!) but it can't always be that way and the conversations that do happen are hard and ugly for me. So, hugs to all of us ladies this is a tricky emotional road!

@bhbee: @Mrs. Oreo: @Coral: It's funny because if there is a physical thing my husband can see - like when I was lying there with an IV waiting to go in for the D&E or when he sees a giant bruise on my arm from all the hcg draws - he's super sympathetic. But to me, those physical things are the least of it...

I don't think the fact that there's a little person in there would be real to him until he can feel it move, or probably when it actually comes out. And I don't really expect it to be either, I didn't really understand what it would be like until I experienced it. The difficult moments have mostly come when I feel like he's judging me for how I feel based on how he feels. We're at a point now where we mostly accept how the other person feels, and I do still try to communicate because I want us to continue to understand each other better.