My family was surprised to hear we were thinking about TTC for a 3rd. I think 2 is so common these days the thought of 3 is weird to so many! Maybe because of the tag team approach?
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Nope, I'm the one leaning two, DH is leaning three, and EVERYONE and their mom tells me we have to have a third ("a girl"). 'Cause you know that's a great reason to have a 3rd child, AND it's controllable!
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No. At my church the norm is 4 kids. Everyone has 4!
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@regberadaisy: what do you mean by tag team approach?
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I grew up in an area where 6+ kids was the norm. A family of 4 is considered small around here. So no, people just assume we're going to have a large family.
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Well we're only planning on 2, but my SIL is currently pregnant with #6 and she gets all sorts of side-eyes and rude comments about it!
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Not really. I always tell people we're planning on 3 and no omegas said anything about it. Maybe once I'm actually pregnant with #2? I always wonder when people have 2 if they're planning on any more! I have two friends this year that have 2 and then finally went for #3 when their youngest was 4!
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Ya, some friends think 3 is crazy.
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my mom keeps telling me only to have as many kids as you have hands. I think I'd like three and whenever I say that people always so oh you'll change your tune once you have another one
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We are both from three kid families and had always been pretty vocal about wanting 3 or 4 kids. So now that we have two and aren't as sure about having a third, I think they'll actually be surprised if we stop at two!
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@Greentea: a lot of people feel that 2 is easier because the parent-to-kid ratio is 1:1. So you can tag team each kid
With 3 kids you're outnumbered!
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@Greentea: @SweetiePie: yup! 1 parent per kid.
@PinkElephant: haha I like that. One child per hand.
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Nope, we know a lot of people with 3+ kids.
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Lol, I thought you wanted 3 more in addition to your 2. And that did surprise me!
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Yes! All the time, even with my family. I get a lot of "but why??". I've always wanted a larger family and hope to have 3-4 kids. 2 is definitely the norm around here.
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Sometimes, but we are both teachers, so I think it makes sense to some people because we obviously don't mind surrounding ourselves with lots of children haha.
We do get asked if we're going to try for a girl because we have 2 boys. That really annoys me!
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No. But only because I have two boys. I always get that - are you going to try for the girl comment. I bet if I had one of each, people would be surprised we want a 3rd.
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I grew up with most families around me having 2, and I was one of 2, and I always wanted 2 myself. I personally wouldn't be able to handle 3, but lately, in my circle, it seems like 3 is the new 2!
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Yes, but I think it is because we have 1 boy and 1 girl. When we say we are still planning on a 3rd people say dumb stuff like "but you already have 1 of each so your family is perfect" or "you know you don't have to right?"
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It always makes me this if this picture
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@Aandmklover: LOL! So true
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People just expect that we are done because we have one of each. My dad told us we need to stop. Mmmmhhhhmmmmm.
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In a perfect world, we'd have 4. Not sure if we can afford it, but when I share that (especially at work!) people are like WHOA! FOUR? YOU'RE CRAAAAAAAZY!
Meh.
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Yes, pretty surprised. Mainly because everyone around us in NYC has 1 or 2 kids. Having kids here is expensive!!
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@Mamasig: I hear the same thing. People aren't surprised when I say I want more than two, and I get the "trying for a girl" comment. Like I can somehow pick how that's going to happen.
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Yes, @MsMini: said what gets said to me.
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@mrsjyw: I can't believe how many girl comments you're getting. It's cray.
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@hellobeeboston: yep, yesterday it was my eyebrow lady, (DS was with me and I told her about DS2) telling me that I have to have one more (a girl), 2 boys, 1 girl is perfection! is what she said
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Tons of ppl are having 3 in my area so I don't think people would be surprised.
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I feel like 3 is the norm for my circle of friends. They all think I'm crazy because I talk about stopping at one.
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@Aandmklover: Ha ha, I have a girl and am expecting a boy in July, and that is all I hear! "Perfect family! You can be all done now!"
DH and I are both from big families so no one would blink at us having three. It was much more surprising to my family that I waited as long as I did to have kids and that they were planned.
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Not really. We both coming from a very family-oriented background. I think people would actually be surprised if we stopped with two.
With 3 kids you're outnumbered!
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