I feel so guilty because my LO hates naps! Oh, I also worry when she has a bad day with a sippy cup.
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No breastfeeding anymore. I made it 3.5 months with the freezer supply, but I feel like there's so much pressure to breastfeed that my 3.5 months was crap.
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my 9 month old still uses a Pacifier
she seems to constantly have a diaper rash no matter what I do
some nights she only get 9-10 hours of sleep -
Sleep - both nighttime sleep and naps. My LO just isn't a great sleeper. I worry about it. A lot. Too much.
I also feel insecure about my decision to return to work. While I think in the long run it is the right decision, I don't ever want my DD to feel like I am not there for her . . . I don't need to work for income, but it will make a difference in what I can give her (fully fund college and post-graduate studies, set up a trust fund for her, etc.).
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At first, not being ebf. Now I don't really care.
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Not having LO socialize often with other babies. We go to classes and play dates but we moved to a new city when she was quite young so I don't have as many friends here, and I have a complex about it. In my mind, moms everywhere are getting together with their friends and their LO's every day while I sit at home!
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@2PeasinaPod: It is/was not crap! You did an incredible job and the best you could for your LO. My BF experience has been extremely difficult, and while I am still eeking along at 5 months, I feel like the clock is ticking (my supply tanked today and I am having anxiety about it). I *hate* that women are made to feel guilty and/or that what they have done is not enough!
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@MsLipGloss: I saw your post today about your supply tanking and felt so terrible for you! That was me...all of a sudden, my supply just wasn't there any longer. I also have an hour+ commute each way, so lugging my stuff back and forth and keeping the milk cold was near impossible.
And as for the sleep, my LO isn't a great napper either. He'll usually go down for us at 9:30 and be up at 6:30 or 7...so he's only getting 9-10 hours each night and maybe 2-4 hours during the day collectively if we're lucky!
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My decision to be a SAHM...I feel kind of judged for it in my neighborhood/circle of peers.
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@2PeasinaPod: Thanks.
I really am happy to have made it this far, but like you, I don't know that I will ever feel like it is/was far enough. *sigh* And yeah, the prep, dealing with storage, hauling around an extra bag, and constantly cleaning parts . . . *jinkies*Yesterday, LO (who is just barely 5 months) only napped for 1.5 hours and only slept for about 7 hours last night.
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@Hilsy85: FWIW, most of our friends know that we can afford for me to stay home, and I have felt similarly judged (like I went back for me, when it really has nothing to do with me, but it all about what I can do for her in the long-run). (((Hugs))).
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Yes, LOs sleep! The baby we do the nanny share can go down by herself as long as you pop the paci in her mouth. My LO hates pacifiers and doesn't really self-sooth, we & the nanny have to breastfeed/bottlefeed or pat her back and sing to her for like 10-15 minutes to get her to sleep.
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@MsLipGloss: ugh, same!
I live in a very AP/BF/BW/BLW/CDing environment and I swear, everything made me feel insecure at first. My baby hated being worn and swaddled when he was small. We don't have laundry in our building and can't afford a diaper service, so no cloth diapering for us. DS would eat a shoe if he could, so although I let him eat food as he pleased, at 4 months when he started screaming for food, I didn't feel right giving him anything I was eating and I questioned everything. Breastfeeding was the biggest challenge of my life, after all the LCs and domperidone and pumping 24/7, drinking water until I felt sick, I still feel sad that I didn't make it past 11 months.
One of my 2013 goals is to drop the mommy guilt. I'm trying. -
@mslipgloss-thanks for posting about your LO and their lack of sleep, makes me feel a bit better about my last week or so...I also have the sleep guilt about my LO who is 4 months. even though she's a happy little girl-and so calm and chill, I still OBSESS over sleep...to the point that I can't sleep!
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Almost everything at one point or another. Choosing to stay at home, breastfeeding, sleep issues, do I interact with him the right way, etc. Unfortunately a lot of the moms that I know irl can be very very judgmental about parenting techniques.
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@rachiecakes-great job on 11 months!! praying i make it that long!
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@MsLipGloss: My supply is taking a hit today too. I'm totally anxious and worrying about having enough for my LO tomorrow. I'm at a little over 5 months of breastfeeding too. Such pressure.
Sleep is a big issue too. I feel like we're doing that wrong especially since he doesn't sleep 11-12 hours at night.
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@SoccerMomma: It's always helpful to know you're not alone! I had just started to make nighttime progress with LO until the 4 month sleep regression hit, and I have been slowly climbing out of that hole now for a few weeks. But sleep has been a constant struggle, as LO is an active baby, has reflux, and generally seems to want to stay awake so that she doesn't miss anything. I always feel like her inability to stay asleep has to do with what I am doing/ not doing. Mommy guilt!
@RunningElley: I wish that weren't the case. Moms, of all people, know just how difficult every decision--even the little ones--can be. It would be easier with more support!
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Naps. It seems like all of my friends kids are perfect nappers due to perfect parenting. I'm pulling my hair out every day over naps!
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@CascadeMom: I keep calculating the timing of LO's feeds in my head to see if I can add in another pumping session today . . .and even then I might not have enough (I usually have to supplement one daytime feed, but it might be more tomorrow). It has consumed my thoughts all day today.
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This isn't really a parenting issue, but all the Pinterest (and blog) posts on the perfect birthday parties, DIY crafts, home improvement, etc kind of stress me out. I try to avoid Pinterest these days because it makes me feel inadequate and I wonder if all these people are really doing what they are pinning and how they manage to do it all!
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@MsLipGloss: We haven't supplemented feeds. I pumped about 7 oz this morning. I like to have about 14 oz available to him. For my afternoon pump, I usually do about 5 oz, so I'm nervous right now. I'm eating as much as I can. I hate pumping at home, but may do that. I haven't been sleeping well since he's teething and up a lot at night.
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@CascadeMom: I'm jealous! 12 ounces would almost cover all my LO's daytime feeds. On a good day, I pump 10-11 ounces during 2 or 3 sessions. I would try pumping at night, but LO hasn't slept longer than 4.5 hours yet (at 5 months--and she has only done that a few times), and usually only sleeps about 3 hours max at any given time.
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@MsLipGloss: I may pump at night just to be sure that he's getting enough. The past couple of days has been exhausting, so the last thing I want to do after a long day and trying to get him to sleep is pump.
I really am happy to have made it this far, but like you, I don't know that I will ever feel like it is/was far enough. *sigh* And yeah, the prep, dealing with storage, hauling around an extra bag, and constantly cleaning parts . . . *jinkies*Reply
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