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Sadly, I'm a better friend to my friends than they are to me. I was just talking about this to hubby because I think I'm ready to drop one of my friends for this reason. We'll have a 30 minute conversation, only about him. His work, his appartment, his relationships. Meanwhile I have a baby, I had surgery, my husband was going to have surgery, etc. He knew this, but didn't ask me about it once. I feel like friendships are supposed to be between two people, and this just seems very one sided. So I think I'm done.

I think I am its sad because most of my friends are ones I've had since elementary/middle school, so its hard when they ignore me/blow me off. My closest friends now are 1) a roommate I had before DH and I got married, 2) my friend I met through DH's family (she married his cousin), and 3) a very good friend I've had since 1st grade who always makes an effort to see me.

I've noticed that my close friends/bridesmaids/college roommates/friends since 3rd grade are at completely different places in their lives than I am (ahem, one friend keeps telling me NOT to have a baby...), which is fine but I wish they would realize that we all don't have to live our lives the exact same way!

i think i am and definitely there's been some disappointing moments esp. during special times and holidays where i think i put in way more effort.

For hte most part I think my friendships are pretty equally, however I have noticed in recent years my best friend doesn't seem to put as much effort into our relationship as I did. I did not receive a wedding gift/shower gift from her at all, when I spent quite a large sum of money on personal gifts for her that I knew she would love (and did). It did sting a little to not receive a card or anything when she was my maid of honor.

I think with my best friend, we're ALMOST equal, though I'm probably a better friend than she is. She has a tendency to swap between friends - she has trouble keeping up with all her friends at a time, so she'll be a really good friend to me for a month, and then not talk to me for another month. When she IS around, she's a wonderful friend, but it's those times that she just drops off the face of the planet that I think makes her not quite as good a friend as I am.

And with my ex-bestfriend, I think I'm definitely the better friend. I used to think we were equal, but I've begun to realize just how selfish she can be and how mean she can be if she doesn't get her way, so in that, I'm definitely a better friend.