My mom's brother has two kids in Japan, but I haven't seen them in 20 years! And even back then, they didn't seem that interested in spending time together. The language barrier was probably a big factor - my Japanese isn't very good.

My dad's brother has two kids too, and we saw them a few times growing up (whenever my dad visited his brother). But they were way older than us, and the age gap was hard to bridge. Then they moved far away, and we fell out of touch mostly.

So overall, I'm not very close to my first cousins. But my kids love my sister's kids to pieces, and they are all reasonably close in age too! So maybe we will break the cycle.

Are you close to your first cousins?