My SIL always like to compete (especially about the kids) and I usually ignore her but I played along yesterday and spouted off a bunch of braggy stuff about the DD to unsettle her. Sometimes people need a taste of their own medicine!
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Nope but she's 5 years younger than me and at a completely different place in life than me. Not much to compete for!
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Hahahha. No competitiveness yet! I hope it stays that way.. Especially since our Los are 2.5 months apart!
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@chopsuey119: ours are, too, so this is going to be annoying forever!
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Nope. She's all crunchy and I'm not. She's teaching her 6 month old how to speak mandarin, I won't be. She and I are very different... Also we live across the country from one another! We just say nice things about each other's kids and move on. The other sil's are a lot older than me so, there's not much to compete about.
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No, were too different to be competitive. I am guilty of being inside my head judgey though, I'm terrible for that. I never say anything out loud though.
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@mediagirl: is it crunchy to teach Mandarin? Is she Chinese?
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Luckily, I don't have a SIL yet!
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I don't have a SIL yet. I'm looking forward to my BIL and brothers getting married one day. But I'm also not. I like being the only girl.
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@Andrea: Haha, no. Unrelated. She only buys organic stuff, only eats organic, etc. She is half Chinese. My brother has always wanted to learn Mandarin, so they started the nephew early.
I have learned how to say Hello in Mandarin because of it, though! Haha.
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@mediagirl: that is good! I wish my Mandarin was good enough to teach DD. Ni hao!
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@Andrea: I'm glad I didn't try to spell that...
Ni hao!
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aww that sucks. my SIL is very sweet. i think she may be a lil competitive with her own sister, but she isn't with me... at least, not that i know of.
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@mediagirl: now you can say it and spell it! I'll teach you how to write the characters some other time.
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My SIL and I get along very well. She's awesome. A little younger than me but we both work with kids and our husbands (brothers) are so alike. I worry that she will be a better mom than me and my in laws like her better than me, but I keep that to myself. She's very nice and kind and will be a great mom. Mostly I just feel lucky we will get to raise our kids close to one another. My sister is a 12 hour drive away so it is nice to have her close by and someone to talk to.
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I'm an only child and DH has one younger brother who is single. I'm excited for him to find a nice lady someday!
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no, my SILs and my sister are in way different life stages. although, my DH's twin sister can be very "all about me" so even though it's not a competition, she likes the attention on her.
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Luckily I don't have a SIL yet. I'm still hoping the one that might be will go away.
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No, my SIL is only 17. She's obviously in a VERY different place in life.
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Nope, but she is competitive/jealous of me. She has been dating my DHs brother for a lot longer than I have been with DH, and is always saying that she has "been in the family" longer than I have. Anyway, she is four years older than me and has been dating DHs brother for seven years. She wants to get married and start a family but he is very stubborn. Well, I came along (at 19 nonetheless) and within five years was engaged, married, and had a baby with DH. It has been very hard for her to be Happy for me and it has really put space between us.
Needless to say, it has always been hard for her to celebrate with me at my bridal shower, bachelorette party, baby shower, etc. We almost asked her to step down from being a member of our bridal party because she was just so unkind and melancholy at every event.I kind of feel bad for her. I hope BIL pops the question soon....she has been waiting a long time.
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My SILs and I don't compete, luckily, mostly because they can't get their lives together enough
I do have cousins that are like that... SIGH.
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Not at all with my brother's wife. I heart her.
With my husband's sister I think she feels competitive. My husband is like the shining star of his family and I think sometimes they get resentful because now that he's married he has responsibilities to MY family and can't just be at their beck and call and always be around when they want him to. Also, my SIL is the youngest of a whole bunch of cousins. For a few years now she's been the only one not married, and now that I'm pregnant she's the only one without kids. And so I think she gets jealous that all the rest of us are at the same point in our lives and she isn't.
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No, but we aren't really at the same point in our lives. My brother and I both got married around the same time, so I guess wedding planning could have gotten competitive or awkward, but we had such different styles and different weddings that there was no problems at all.
I do see it with my two nephews (my sister and brother both had kids within 8 months of each other, first grandchildren)-- it's impossible not to compare them so close in age. I used to be really jealous that their babies would grow up so close, but now I can also see it's easy to get jealous/competitive. It is starting to seem like some family members favor my brother's kid, and some (me included) favor my sister's, so at least it's split! -
Nope and thank goodness!!
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I don't think so..we're just a few months apart in age, got married 3 months apart, and are having babies 3 months apart. There are times when it creeps up in both of us but neither of us wants to have that type of relationship so we try to internalize it as much as possible and be genuinely happy for each other.
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My SIL is a very competitive person (when it comes to games, ect.) but I don't see that happening when our LO arrives. My niece will be 18 months by the time ours is born, so there is a big enough gap I hope!
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I don't have a SIL yet. My BIL has a gf that likes to kiss my MIL's butt and do lots of things for her and I'm ok with that!
Ni hao!
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