What do you say when people ask you inappropriate questions like "Are you planning to have kids? How many kids are you having? Do you want to have kids? When are you having kids?" etc.?

I really don't understand why people think this is appropriate. I just went to meet DH for what was supposed to be a nice lunch date to celebrate a friend who's retiring. But the lady next to me at the bar (who DH knew from when he worked there) spent about 10 minutes going on and on about how we really should consider having kids and how much of a blessing they are (really?? No shit! I didn't realize that!)

We never want to say "Yes, we're trying to have kids" because I feel like that sort of makes them asking the question acceptable, and gives them license to ask us down the road how things are going. We usually respond with something like "We'll see what happens" or today DH said "Anything is a possibility."

But seriously, the 10th time she said they were a blessing I was so tempted to turn around (yes, she kept talking even though my back was to her) and scream "Yes. I know very well they're a blessing. I'd love to be 32 weeks pregnant right now but my baby died."

But alas, I know when something is inappropriate.

Any advice on how to handle these situations?

(I ended up scarfing down my lunch and grabbing my purse and telling DH I had to get back to work)