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I can totally relate to this. After my first loss I went to a very dark place for the better part of a year. My first successful pregnancy was my fourth, and I absolutely experienced post traumatic stress and had one foot in and one foot out the entire time to protect my heart. DD was born 5 weeks early and on our second day in the NICU, when everyone was trying to explain that the complications that put her there weren’t that bad, all I could hear is “your baby’s heart rate is dropping and we need to keep her here because bringing her home could be dangerous.” I don’t know how many times I said, sobbing, to nurses and residents and even the attending physician that she is our fourth baby, and I need to know she’s going to make it.

Pregnancy loss is trauma, no matter how early it happens. It’s crazy, as the article points out, that there’s no built in support in the management of loss. I needed help, but when you really need the help you also have the least ability to go out and find it, which is why screening and referrals are so important. If you’re in it now, I’m sorry, you’re not alone, you will get through it, therapy can help.

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@bhbee: thanks for sharing this article. I definitely struggled after my last loss. I think I’m doing well (besides anxiety that a seemingly healthy pregnancy brings after losses). I do wish more resources and talking about this was more common. It’s a reason why I’ve decided to be open about having losses with others.