Lo is almost 10 mo and still waking up 1-2 times at night 
I can't do it anymore. I'm so exhausted and can barely function. We did cio for bedtime and she goes to sleep easily it's just the motn that is brutal. Do I just stop going in there? We tried sending dh but he just ends up getting me anyways. How do you know if how you feel is normal, ppd, or just sleep deprivation?
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Just wanted to send good thoughts to you! I find that I can manage if the wake ups are only a few minutes and he goes back to sleep quickly. We are on the tail end of a sleep regression and wake ups went back to an hour for a week or so. Even though it was just once a night, it was brutal.
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I'm so sorry. My son is 12 months and has been waking up 1-2 times for the past couple weeks. He's had awesome stretches but they never last. It is exhausting and the difference in how I feel based on his sleep is huge. Have you tried cio in the middle of the night? I did that most recently in September, he was 9 months and had just gone through a long teething phase so it seemed like a good time and it did work for a long time. Not sure what's going on now. I just don't have a child who sttn at 12 weeks and never woke up again.
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We ended up cold turkey CIO in the middle of the night around 12 months at doctor's urging. We had previously been up 3-4 times a night (nursing most times). It was really only one rough night and then got much better. We still had occasional wake ups after that, but not every night, an rarely more than one. Good luck Mama!
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We stopped responding to every cry and instead would wait 10-15 mins to get him. He figured it out around 8-9 months and then would not wake up unless sick.
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LO was waking up at night until I kept her in bed with me. Then she slept all night. Obviously it's not for everyone but just adding my experience. Good luck - it's so rough when they won't sleep!
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I completely understand. My LO is still waking up most nights at 16 months and I've been at that breaking point you describe so many times. I also become very depressed when I am tired - full on out of my mind miserable - but as soon as I get a decent stretch of sleep I feel better. I think that's how you know its not PPD - because with PPD I didn't feel better after a nap!
Do you SAH or work? I work and when I feel like this I take a sneaky day off work to sleep! I've never been able to fix E's sleep so I have to create other opportunities to sleep myself!
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@MOMTOLITTLEB: @Jess1483: by CIO do you mean just wait it out completely until they fall back asleep or going in there & telling them it's time to sleep, singing a song or whatever & then letting them cry? We still have one wake up most nights at 14 months. It's always short but I'm ready to kick it especially because it's the only nursing we do at all these days & it lasts no longer than a full minute so I know it's just habit
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@Mrs. Sunshine: For us, the absolute was that I wouldn't feed. Occasionally I'd go in and talk to him, but that was rarely the right move. When we had to CIO again around 15 months, I did a lot of going in and reminding him to sleep, that he couldn't come to our bed, etc. But at 11 months, we mostly didn't go in. But if we went in, we did it right away, not after crying, because that would undermine the message.
@MrsLilybugg: My little guy was AWFUL in bed with me. I was okay with having him in bed in theory, but none of the three of us slept when he was in bed at that age. But we did co-sleep when he was younger and occasionally do so now, and it works.
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@Jess1483: thanks for sharing! It's so hard to bite the bullet but I think we may try sleep training in the MOTN this weekend.
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@gotkimchi: apart from the interrupted sleep are you taking care of yourself? Are you eating good food, drinking water and taking a multivitamin? Do you have a support network that could mind your lo during the day so you can catch up on sleep or get out on your own? Sometimes we can't fix LO's sleep but life gets better if we can look after ourselves
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@Cherrybee: thanks, I did get a little nap today and don't feel so desperate. I'd love to take a day off work but unfortunately my husband and baby would be home so I wouldn't get any rest. Although, I could tell my husband I'm gonng to work, tell work I'm staying home, then get a hotel or something lol!
@Mrs. Sunshine: let me know how it goes! I think we'lol be doing it as well, and if it matters, I agree going in rarely helps! It gets my lo more pissed like HELLO!!!! I CAN SEE YOU!!!
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@gotkimchi: Oh no, that's awful! On the rare occasion my DH is able to get up with E and offer me a lie in I can never sleep because my LO is so flipping noisy!!
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Does she eat a lot at wakeups, or only enough to soothe her back to sleep? If she's hungry in the MOTN I'd try upping her food during the day. If she gets bottles then slowly make her water or BM more and more watery (for night feeds). I'd also give her 10-15 minutes of crying before going in to rescue her.
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It's definitely sleep deprivation that you're feeling. 12 months here and still getting up at least once (was 2-3 up until last week). I have no advice just empathy.
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@gotkimchi: That was me, LO was same age, and he was waking up at least twice, some times three times. I knew I finally had to put an end to it when I went in there one night and yelled in his face to shut up
I was slowly losing it.He also had no issue going to sleep. We had to do CIO for wakings. It took about a week. A couple nights were bad, most weren't. I stuck to my guns, though, hard as it was. I haven't been back in there before 5 am since we did it, though. LIFE IS SO MUCH BETTER. Short term pain = long term gain.
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Sleep deprivation is rough, my son at 18 months is still 50/50 with motn wake-ups and at 10 months was up 1-3x a night. It was BRUTAL. So sorry you're going through this. CIO eventually worked for us!
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I know how awful that can be. With DD1, it took her 13 months to finally start STTN regularly. (But at the time, I was ok w/ it because it was SO much better than the 4x/nt that she had done until 8 months old).
DD2 isn't doing much better and she will be up anywhere between 1 and 3x a night. My husband and I have a rule that he will handle all wakeups until 1am (since he's up later than I am) and I'll handle everything after 1am. It works really well for us so that we each get a good 6-7 hrs of sleep.
ETA: I have always had a high sleep need, so I understand how much it wears on you when you don't get good, uninterrupted sleep. However, I also found that if I just accepted that I wasn't going to get sleep, it was much easier for me to get through that stage.
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