hi everyone! ever since my daughter turned 2, she has been going through a serious sleep regression (until then since 2 months she was sleeping in her own bed in her own room). she will fight bedtime, cry and scream and if we leave her, she will get out of bed and bang on the door until we get her. When she screams, she screams as if she was being stabbed over and over again. NO JOKE i'm not exaggerating. and more often then not, she will throw up from crying. eventually my husband had to cosleep with her in her bed. it was something we really didn't want to do (i believe that mom and dad should sleep together in

Then a few weeks later she ended up getting the flu and shortly after my husband caught it from her. I had to take care of her and our 5 month old, because husband was literally on his deathbed. when she was sick, hubby was able to put her to bed and stay with her, but after hubby got sick it was up to me, but i couldn't stay with her because i had to be available for a baby that wasn't yet sleeping through the night (the baby is in a mini crib in our room) Sooooo, i did the only thing i could do. I had to bring my toddler up to my room to cosleep with her and the baby, while hubby got some rest to recover in her bed.

We did this for about two weeks until hubby finally got better and honestly we were all miserable because I just could not go to bed with her at 8:30 every night. I was about to go insane. Also even when going to bed at 8:30, I was exhausted because i was up every two hours between the two of them. if the baby would cry he would wake up my daughter, and since daughter was still going through the regression, she would cry in the night and wake up the baby. also my daughter moved around so much in the bed i just wasn't getting any sleep at all. Not gonna lie it was nice for a few minutes here and there when I'm cuddling my girl and all is calm, but those minutes are few and far between. i have nothing against cosleeping but I just knew I couldn't do this forever.

So, since last week, we've been trying to "sleep train" our 27 month old all over again. we decided we'd do it step by step: get her to sleep in her own bed, and hubby would be allowed to sleep on the floor so he can easily leave after she falls asleep. we are hoping that eventually we can train her to sleep on her own again. so far, it's been a disaster. she screams for me when i'm not there, then when hubby and i switch places she will scream for daddy. it took us 4 days just to get her to accept sleeping in her own bed. now i think she's accepted that but she still fights bedtime and it's slowing becoming a 2 hour bedtime routine of fighting and convincing and crying until she exhausts herself. this morning, hubby said that he can't sleep on the ground for much longer because it's taking a toll on his back. we don't want to regress and have him sleep with her. what we really want is for our girl to just go the F to sleep in her own bed when it's bedtime. cosleeping is really not an option. our bed just isn't big enough for the three of us, and none of us are getting a good night sleep this way, and niether my hubby or me want to go to bed at 8:30 with her. We've left her a couple of times after she falls asleep and laid pillows around the bed but she still managed to fall off a couple of times. it's just not something that will work for us.

does anyone have any suggestions on ways to sleep train a very stubborn toddler? have no problem with CIO as long as it will work. I'll try anything. reward system? i tried reward system with potty training (stickers for presents, etc) and she never showed much interest in collecting stickers and i feel like she wont care much for it at bedtime.

thanks in advance, any advice would help!!