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No way.
I was a bridesmaid 3 months pp, and even that was tough! If you want to breastfeed, you will be breastfeeding around the clock at that time and it will be a challenge to either step away to pump, or bring your newborn with you everywhere. Also, the baby may not even have gotten his one month shots at that time. I was also constantly exhausted at one month and still in some pain from the tearing.
Too many what-ifs like others have mentioned.
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Nope - I wouldn't do it. Physically, I was ok. But mentally, I was still crazy and sleep deprived!
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No way lady! What if baby is late and you end up being only 2 weeks postpartum for the wedding?! ugh.
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I would have been totally okay to have been in a wedding a month after giving birth AND I had a baby who was easy in the newborn days but you really can't know what your experience will be like until you're going through it so I'd probably have to say no if it were me.
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Thanks for all the input everyone.
I think I will respectfully decline being a bridesmaid. I'm just super nervous about it, especially being a first time mum. I do feel kind of bad because her sister is also pregnant and due shortly before I am and will not be a bridesmaid either. (although she's the one who insists on getting married this September).
I'm already going to be doing her engagement pics and the design for her STDs and invitations. I'll also probably throw her a shower (We're thinking the shower will be in July or early August). Hopefully she understands!
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I wouldn't have been able to. Maybe ask if you can do a reading or something like be a greeter. I had a hard time standing that long still at 4 weeks. Oh and still had limited bladder control then too. YAY POSTPARTUM (ugh! Worth it though!)
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@pui: I was a bridesmaid at 5 weeks pp(and post csection) in my SIL wedding. It was hard, mainly being away from my baby for the entire day.
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My cousin was for me at 5 weeks PP. She never had any issues that I was aware of, but it was a very busy day for me so I might have just not been aware. It wasn't her first though, and she wasn't breastfeeding, so I'd think both of those factors would make a difference. Personally, I wouldn't do it unless it was someone I was VERY close to (and that was the case with my cousin).
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No way in hell. I was such a mess until 6 wks PP. It took at least 4 wks to heal "down there" enough that I could walk without wincing, and I battled mastitis 2x in the first 6 wks. No way no way No way
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@pui: my due date was August 12 (LO was born on the 13th) and I was the maid of honor in my friends wedding September 7th. It was humbling because I felt huge and hard because I was breastfeeding but I would do it again in a heartbeat. It meant a lot to my friend, and it was just one rough day. It helped that I was able to bring my daughter with me.
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I don't think I would do it, but one of my bridesmaids was 1 week PP at my wedding
When she found out her due date, I told her I completely understood if she couldn't be a bridesmaid, but I'd still love to have her if she was up to it. -
I guess it would depend on how fussy/fancy a wedding it was, and how she would feel if I had to back out.
I been to weddings where that would've been no big deal at all (my own included) and to weddings where it would've been a crisis to have a mismatched number of honor attendants and a hole in the seating chart.
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