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I agree that sucks. Maybe the groom doesn't have many friends?

Unless the dynamic of the relationship has changed drastically since your husband was asked to be in the wedding, I'm guessing that the friend only asked in the first place because he needed a spot to fill to match up with bridesmaids. I think once you've committed to be in a wedding, you need to follow through outside of things like pregnancy, or some sort of terrible action by the bride/groom.

DH was in a wedding of his coworker who he is not particularly close with, but we would have gone to the wedding either way and the only additional expense for us was the suit rental. i kinda think once you say yes, you don't back out unless it's for extraordinary circumstances and if he wants to burn the friendship bridge.

I think it's ok to say that he is happy to be supportive, but he had a limit on his monetary contribution and tell his coworker what his budget is. I had bridesmaids with tight budgets so we did a simple, in home bachelorette party, I certainly didn't expect them to also give us a wedding present.

I think it'd be pretty rude to drop out for that reason. Mens relationships are different...I'd leave this up to your husband.

I agree that I definitely think it's different with guys.
BUT I would never commit to a wedding with someone I was not close with, especially not now with a child. The cost, the time commitment. I could never give the amount of care and attention and enthusiasm to a distant friend's wedding.

I think guys just work different than us. Have you asked DH why they don't hang out more?

@Bao: Boys for ya lol!

Yeah, I say don't back out but draw a line in the sand about finances. Only go to the bachelor party if it doesn't require travel and make it clear he is only paying for the tux rental and not pitching in for a shower or large group gift.