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@Crystal: I'm sorry you had to go through all of that during Christmas. I too am in dread of people announcing their pregnancies when I can't announce mine. It's not that I'm not happy for them, but it's another reminder of what I want, but have been denied over and over. Hopefully the surgery helps and you get your sticky bean soon!
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@Crystal: I'm feeling you on the whole dreading announcements thing..... 2 people I know announced over christmas, one of them with a due date very close to what mine would have been. soooo I may have just blocked seeing her posts on facebook. In person would be so much harder, I think it probably was best that you took yourself out of the situation before it got real hard
I stayed home while my family went to a big family get together, just because I didn't want to have to deal with the usual *so when is the next one coming* (i'm the youngest in the family, and "due" for a next one ugh) I would have been so nasty to the unfortunate sod that asked that doozy of a question.I may have done something stupid last night, waiting for something to happen with the misoprostol. I gave my tummy a little massage, trying to see if it hurt anywhere. Not too strong a massage, but then at 6 am I felt sore and crampy and went to the toilet to find fresh blood and some smallish clots. Passed some more this morning, but nothing solid. I wonder if I've opened a wound or something and done damage, or if the massage just helped whatever was in there come out. Yesterday I had only light pink spotting. This is driving me batty!!
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@FannyMae: I hope the massage helps to move things along!
@Crystal: I'm sorry to still see you here (in the nicest way possible) xxxx
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@auggiefrog: this exactly!
@FannyMae: I really hope it just helped loosen those last few bits and you are on your way to recovering. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Xoxo
@jaguar: you too, friend. Xoxoxo how are you holding up?
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@Crystal: I'm hanging on for dear life... trying so hard not to go into 2015 feeling defeated, but it's hard, you know?
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@jaguar: oh goodness yes, I completely understand. I already feel defeated about 2015 and its not even here yet, which I know is the wrong attitude to have. Having to deal with so many pregnant people, followed by my cousins pregnancy announcement, really threw me for a loop. My poor husband! Lol
I wish we can all have our miracle babies soon.
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@Crystal: It's hard when it's family, it really is.
I've been throwing myself into house cleaning. I made myself totally sort out our bedroom. Tossed out all these things I'd been hoarding/waiting for.. all the old pregnancy tests, my ultrasound pictures from the miscarriages, stored up my maternity clothes, packed up the doppler and just cleaned house. I hope by going into 2015 with NO reminders or hanging on, it might make my attitude a bit better and more hopeful. Fresh start.
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@jaguar: that's a fabulous idea. i really hope that gives you some peace and puts you in a good place to start 2015.
You inspired me to get rid of my old workout clothes and organize my gym bag. I really need to focus on my physical health, I totally let myself go this year. Sad, but true.
Although it looks as though our IF issues aren't health related, it can't hurt to be in shape! Plus, I think it will do wonders for my mental health.
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@Crystal: Absolutely! It's a place to start, right? I need to get back into my running again soon.
I feel a lot better after today's massive clean out. Even sorted all Georgia's baby clothes and packed away in space vaccuum bags... organisation freak! Waiting for her to go to bed, so I can have a bath with some Lush bath goodies.
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@jaguar: good job!! I'm trying to get my house clean before new year's eve.... it was a complete shambles (weeks of morning sickness, then d&c recovery). I've got a big list on the fridge that is getting crossed off, but more keeps getting added on to the bottom!!
Ohhhh a nice hot soak sounds divine! Its really hot in Melbourne today, so my indulgence is going to be vanilla ice cream with chocolate ice magic
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@FannyMae: are you having peopleover NYE? Or that's just your goal date?
@jaguar: wow! You are on a roll!
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Have you guys got any big plans for New Years?
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Ugh, I'm pretty sure AF just arrived. Womp womp.
We don't currently have any new years plans. Last year we just stayed home, so we might try to at least hit up a family party.
What about you?
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@Crystal: Boo!
I'm actually WANTING mine to arrive, I hope it's soon.We're just going to a friend's place.. she has young twins that are G's age, so we'll just lay low over there!
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@jaguar: that sounds like fun! FX AF arrives soon for you!
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@Crystal: nope definitely no parties here, I cannot even fathom having to organise/cook/entertain. I'm probably just going to go visit any friends who invite us to a party during the afternoon/early evening, then go see my mum at night and then come home, put kid to bed and have a relaxing one. it gets too much trying to keep a 2 year old from going bonkers at 10pm. In previous years we had gone to our beach house with our immediate family on new year's day but 6 kids in total and it gets to be too much.
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Hi ladies.... I'm sad to be back again so soon with another loss. But I know you ladies have been through a ton and understand.
1. What is your back story? Got pregnant with her first LO 2 1/2 years ago with no problem at all. First try. Started to TTC for our second this past June/July. Nothing happened until right before Thanksgiving, when we got our BFP. (I'm 37 so I got a bunch of testing done right before that and was told that I have DOR and some male factor issues but my RE was pretty positive about it all.) That first BFP ended up being a chemical I lost at 4 weeks and 3 days. Very next cycle I got another BFP and we were feeling much more hopeful this time. It was a few days before Christmas and I was excited to tell my parents on Christmas Eve but found out that morning that my betas where once again not doubling. So now I'm just waiting around waiting to miscarry, again. I'll be five weeks tomorrow wish my body would just get the message and be done with this thing. Then again, I'm on a vacation, so it's kind of nice I haven't had to deal with that yet. No spotting her anything yet, so I just wait… 2. How do you feel today? A mix of emotions. I'm happy to be on vacation with my family and my sweet little boy. He has seen snow for the first time on this trip. On the other hand I'm super frustrated and anxious about all of this.
3. If you have any "next steps" what are they?
I go in on Thursday for my next beta, so they can make sure my levels are going down and it is not ectopic. After that, we're going to take this next cycle off. And after that we are supposed to start injectables and IUI.
4. What coping strategies have worked the best for you? I don't know. Humor, sometimes. Faith that it wasn't compatible with life so it's for the best. -
@travellingbee: I'm sorry this hasn't worked out for you either.
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@travellingbee: I'm so sorry for your loss
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@jaguar: No big plans for New Years. DH and I are both introverts and don't like crowded places very much, but we'll spend a relaxing night at home or at my parents place.
@travellingbee: I'm sorry you are going through this again. Hugs
I'll be thinking of you
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@FannyMae: yes both July and August
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@FannyMae: relaxing sounds like a perfect plan.
@travellingbee: I am so sorry. I hope for a quick process where you can be comfortable at home. Did you share with your family what you are going through?
@HappyBluebird: that sounds nice!
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@Crystal: thank you, yes I've told pretty much everyone in the family (both parents and brother and SIL) because they all knew we were seeking fertility treatment etc. I'm glad I've told them as it isn't a secret i'd like to keep.
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@HappyBluebird: Nights at home sound amazing to me right now! Bit of a hermit.
@travellingbee: *hugs*
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@travellingbee: that's good- I'm glad you dont have to hide it on top of everything else. I really hope it get some relief soon.
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So today I am 5 weeks (21 dpo) and I took a test tonight just to see if the line was fading. I hadn't taken one since 16 dpo when they told me the weren't doubling and I'm going to miscarry. And instead, it's waaay darker even at night without FMU. Darker than the control. What do I make of this? Shouldn't my levels be dropping? Does this mean it's going to take a long time?
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@travellingbee: were your numbers still going up but not doubling? Maybe that's why? When is your next dr appt?
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@travellingbee: Bugger, chick. It could be a miracle & things might have taken off?? I saw your picture in your thread and that's a CRAZY dark line. I guess you won't know more until either a) you bleed, or b) you go for your next betas
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@jaguar: I know, and it wasn't FMU! This is stupid! I just want this waiting to be over. Not much hope for a good outcome but I guess there is a sliver.
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@travellingbee: I saw your picture in your other thread and that is a dark line. I don't have any advice but I can imagine that it's so confusing. Hoping you get some answers soon
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@travellingbee: I hope this really does turn around for you! x
15dpo and no freaking period. This sucks so bad! I have white undies, had a HOT bath last night, a little bit of action... all the usual things that bring on AF, and nothing is happening! *head desk*
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@jaguar:
it's all so frustrating isn't it?! Why can't it just be easy.
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@jaguar: Lol- I love your fool-proof AF Plan!
I'm so sorry, I hope it starts soon.
@travellingbee: how are you holding up? To second Jaguar, I really, really hope this turns around for you.
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@Crystal: I doubt it will but thanks. I'd actually be OK with just starting MC at this point. I just hate limbo, you know?
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@travellingbee: thinking of you!
Hoping you all have a good nye tomorrow...it's my birthday as well, and I am ready to wash my hands of this year, as many of you expressed!
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@travellingbee: Totally understand. Limbo is the worst.
Still no bleeding! Back aches have gone, and nothing is happening. So freaking exhausted.
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@hilsy85: Me too! I'm so ready for 2015!
@travellingbee: It sucks your still in limbo. I had to deal with that a few weeks ago, it was the worst! FX you get some answers soon.I think I might be done bleeding/ spotting from the MC! I think I was bleeding or spotting most of December, so it will be nice for it to be quiet down there! I got another set of betas done yesterday and my HCG is down to 116 from 330 two weeks ago. I'm looking forward to my body getting back to normal!
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@travellingbee: I keep checking back to see how you are going, hoping for the best.
@jaguar: I had a chuckle at the white undies, I think you might need some white jeans as well!
@auggiefrog: my bleeding had disappeared for a few days, but I just had a bit of old brown spotting before. ughh.
another friend announced a july baby on facebook..... yep, unfollowed for now
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@FannyMae: I have white undies under a black dress, best I could do before we go out! But I do have a change of knickers.
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@jaguar: I literally laughed out loud this morning when I read your post! Hoping AF is here soon!
I stayed home while my family went to a big family get together, just because I didn't want to have to deal with the usual *so when is the next one coming* (i'm the youngest in the family, and "due" for a next one ugh) I would have been so nasty to the unfortunate sod that asked that doozy of a question.
I'll be thinking of you
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