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@travellingbee: I'm sorry that your sorry that your still waiting for something to happen, but at least it isn't an ectopic. FX that your body just makes up it's mind already.
I'm kind of excited, I think I may have ovulated yesterday. Hopefully my temps keep on rising and my body gets back to normal.
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Ugh now she's saying, based on the labs, she still thinks it might be ectopic and wanted me to do the methotrexate. She thinks she can't see anything in the ultrasound because it's so tiny so she can't rule it out. I begged her to wait a week and see what happens because if I do the shot, we can't TTC for 3 months. I'm so frustrated. We are waiting a week...
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@travellingbee: ugh I am so so sorry that you're going through this!!! I really hope things start happening naturally for you ASAP.
Man, talk about adding insult to injury--I had to see an orthopedist today and they wanted to do an x ray but needed 100% confirmation that I'm not pregnant. I'm 99% sure I'm not (expecting AF tomorrow) but since I"m not 100% they wanted me to take a pregnancy test in the office (after I had already taken a negative one this morning!).
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@travellingbee: Oh, no! That sucks. Hopefully you don't have to get the shot!
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@travellingbee: Bloody hell. What are the bloods saying? x
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@jaguar: still rising slowly.
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@travellingbee: I'm so sorry you aren't getting a definitive answer. Waiting is the worst part of a lot of this. Why would they think ectopic instead of a blighted ovum? Did they not see the sac at all? With my b.o., my numbers rose appropriately. They got up to 50k normally, but nothing ever formed in the sac. At any rate, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Hugs.
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@ValentineMommy: right they couldn't find anything in my uterus, and they couldn't find anything in my tubes. But my hCG was only 515. So it would be hard to see it anywhere. I think she's just being overly cautious. But I'm glad that she's letting me wait a week before doing the methotrexate.
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@travellingbee: Ugh, I'm sorry. Taking methotrexate was a possibility for me too and I was worried about going that route. Thankfully I haven't had to go that route so far. I'm glad your doctor is letting you wait a week. Lots of prayers for you, I really hope this resolves naturally for you
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@travellingbee: Ugh I'm so sorry. I'm glad they're letting you wait a week at least. Hugs and prayers.
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hi ladies.
Following this thread. Getting through my mc and dealing with a ton of work pregnancy announcements. It's been a rough week so far.
I know a lot of people who have had mc but honestly...I didn't realize it would hit me so hard.
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@babycanuck: I'm so sorry for your loss and that you are joining us. But this is a great group of ladies. I find pregnancy announcements hard still sometimes. I just made a rule that I wouldn't get mad at myself for being upset because its normal and we all need time to grieve. Hope you find this group as beneficial as I did.
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@HappyBluebird: How's your countdown going? You're down to about a month, right?
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@babycanuck: I'm sorry you're joining us too.
It chatting with @HappyBluebird: in the past, we came up with the slogan to "respect the funk." Those who are announcing lose none of their joy if it hits you hard (most of them won't even know), so feel free to feel your feelings and focus on taking care of you for a while.
About a month after my MC, a coworker brought in his newborn baby. As soon as they came in the office I heard a baby noise and lost it. Thankfully I work in a corner office and was able to shut my door before they visited everyone.
It's hard to know what will trigger you, but I've found the best thing for dealing with emotions is to recognize them and feel them instead of trying to push them down and hold them in.
Major hugs to you dear.
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@babycanuck: I'm so sorry you're joining us as well. These are the best ladies around and will definitely be there to support you through the hard days. Hugs.
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@MaryM: I get my blood drawn on Jan 14 then again on Feb 11, as long as it stays negative, then I'm done!! It's looking like cycle wise, we won't really get to try again until March but I'm staying positive! Thanks for checking in
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@babycanuck: Yes the "respect the funk" motto @MaryM and I came up has been very important.
Also this "Those who are announcing lose none of their joy if it hits you hard (most of them won't even know), so feel free to feel your feelings and focus on taking care of you for a while." - I couldn't agree more but I had a hard time making myself understand this after my SIL had her babies, its a work in progress but every day is a step forward
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@HappyBluebird: That's great! I thought were down to about a month.
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@MaryM: The holidays helped move the last month along pretty quickly. I'm hoping the next 5 weeks don't drag on. I'm going to try and eat healthier and get myself to a little better weight. I'm not proud of the weight I've gained post m/c and through the holidays!
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@HappyBluebird: I'm hoping to do the same too. I was on Weight Watchers and canceled it last year when I got KU. I've maintained since then, but I'm still not happy with how my clothes fit. Even though I haven't gained any pounds, my pants are way tight in my midsection so I feel like stuff is just relocating where I don't want it to be!
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@MaryM: I've heard so many people say that Weight Watchers worked for them. I had a hard time (but to be completely honest- I'm sure I wasn't doing it 100% like I should). Maybe I should look back into it again. As for clothes, I've gotten to a size that I do not want to go past and I don't want to shove myself into too small clothes, so something has to be done! I'm just SO lazy about exercise, I'm not one of those people who feel better once I'm done at the gym, I hate it before I go, while I'm there, and after!
It's another thing I need to work on!
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@travellingbee: Oh hon, limbo is so, so hard.
@babycanuck: I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
@MaryM: Wise words, lovely lady. Wise words.
@HappyBluebird: Not long now!
As for me... ladies, I just want to curl up in a corner and cry. After waiting and waiting for the next chance to do my FET, my period is still missing. I've finished Provera, nada. I've had two days of drinking Parsley Tea (barf) and Vitamin C tablets, hot baths, all the tricks in the book. Not even any spotting.
If my period doesn't arrive in the next few days, I won't be able to fit the FET in before we go away... and that HAPPY trip we were anticipating is now going to be full of frustration, since we're now missing out on a shot at transferring because of it.
I just don't know how our luck can keep going from bad to worse and back again. It's like... did we do something to piss someone off? I can't see how we deserve the constant sadness and frustration, without even getting a freaking CHANCE to conceive. I don't even know. Struggling with my faith right now... it was on shaky ground before the losses, and now I'm barely hanging on by a thread. I just don't get it. We are GOOD people. We already suffer with infertility, then the losses, now back to the infertility again - I'm so freaking tired.
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@jaguar: I'm so sorry. You've been through so much...
So last night I started spotting after a BM. (Sorry about the TMI!) It was pink and scant. This morning, a little brown when I wiped. Even though this doesn't rule out ectopic, I'm just hopeful that something is happening. Sitting and waiting sucks!
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@jaguar: I'm so sorry you have had to go through all of this. It just doesn't seem fair. I understand the struggling with faith part. I will keep sending positive thoughts, prayers, vibes, whatever I can your way. 2015 has to turn around for the better!
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@travellingbee: Fingers tightly crossed that this is finally something happening. Waiting certainly does suck
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@jaguar: I'm so sorry that you are having to go through all of this.
@travellingbee: This was how my spotting began when I MC'ed. Unfortunately I had brown spotting for over a week before it happened. Hopefully you don't have to wait as long.
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Cramping but no real blood yet. Hoping this is it…
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@travellingbee: I hope things happen for you speedily. x
@auggiefrog: & @HappyBluebird: Thanks guys. I'm sorry for just offloading, it's just so ridiculous. I can't believe how many things, one after the other, have stuffed up our chances at having a baby. It's almost laughable!
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@jaguar: No problem! You're in the right place to vent!
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So- feeling good after the hysteroscopy! I stopped the birth control the day before; so now I believe I have officially started my period. Not supposed to use tampons- so that part is miserable !!!! Hopefully this doesn't last too long!! Can't stand the feeling of leaking like I'm peeing myself
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Still just spotting with mild crampy feeling. Maybe tomorrow something will start. I hope my levels are at least dropping a bit....
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@mrs bunchy: Ugh that's the worst isn't it?! Glad the hysteroscopy went well!
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@travellingbee: *hugs*
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I'm here reading along, just checking in after reading the last few posts.
@travellingbee: thinking of you, hoping this is it and things get moving for you.@jaguar: xox how long are you on holiday for?
@MaryM: I went to costco the other day, and in the queue was a woman with a brand new little newborn... screaming its little heart out. major heartache that moment seeing that.
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@jaguar: I agree. Vent away! That's what we're all here for!
@mrs bunchy: I hope it is AF for you and things go well!
@travellingbee: Have you gotten your last betas back? Are you scheduled for another follow up?
I hope things get moving for you soon too. Your MC has started a lot like mine (except that as long as my betas were rising my doctors were still optimistic and I was still in limbo). I hope yours moves along quicker than mine did. I feel like my doctor sort of drug his feet until he offered a D&C. When I made up my mind it was too late, and I don't wish that long of a wait on anyone
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@MaryM: I go back on Tuesday for another ultrasound and betas. I bought some cheap answer tests so I am going to see if the line is getting lighter while I wait. Yeah with HCG at only 515 at 6 weeks, we knew it couldn't be viable. The only worry is if it is actually ectopic since my levels keep rising instead of dropping. But I am hopeful that things are starting happen now.
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@travellingbee: I'm hopeful for you too.
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@TravellingBee: I really hope that this spotting means things are moving along! But just a sidenote- even if it does seem to become a full-fledged miscarriage, make sure you still get a HCG test a couple of days into it, and maybe a week or two afterward. Unfortunately, bleeding can be a major sign of ectopic pregnancies as well, and if the HCG level stays basically consistent even after the bleeding has stopped, that's something you and your doctor should figure out
Maybe I just have an abnormal fear of ectopic pregnancies after having that possibility hanging over my head for 3 weeks, too...
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@Jaguar: I'm so sorry that you are stuck and it is having ripple effects towards your future plans
You're right, it simply is not fair. Many things in this world are not, and it sucks. I was at my church small group last night and made things all super awkward by wondering out loud why God makes babies and then takes 1/3 of them away before they even get to be born, and what will that mean for Heaven, etc. The people were sympathetic and didn't offer pat answers but.... still. I "know" all the "answers" - trials make us stronger, they help us empathize with other people, we don't understand the purposes of sorrowful times until much later, these earthly struggles are small in comparison with eternity, etc. But still, my heart has a hard time trusting all of those truths. I will be praying for all of our hearts.
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@DesertDreams88: yes, my RE will test me down to zero. Thanks.
It's another thing I need to work on!
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