I have an awkward situation that I'll have to address soon. My BFF just invited herself and her FI on the trip that DH and I are planning for a Baby Moon.

DH works offshore, so he is gone for 3 weeks at a time. When he is home, our time together is precious to us. We still do things with other people, like my BFF and her FI, but we are both protective of our time together.

Due to some schedule changes for DH, we haven't been on a trip in a while. We had planned to take an anniversary trip for our 1yr, but dates never worked out. So we decided a few days ago that we are going to go on a BabyMoon to Charleston, SC, which is our favorite place in the world, and also where we plan to move in the next 1-2 years.

My BFF is awesome and I am so lucky to have her, but in my favorite quote from The Wedding Crashers, she can be a "Stage Five Clinger." She LOVES when we all do things together, and she is a very VERY good friend. But I feel like, because she sees her FI every day and travels with him ALL the time, she doesn't realize that she can sometimes be intrusive on our precious little time together.

I told her yesterday that we are booking our Charleston trip finally, and she said, "FI and I were saying that we want to go to Charleston because we've never been, and you guys are always talking about it, so we were just talking the other day that we might go in September! Let me know when you guys are going and we should all go together! That would be so much fun!" I was stunned and I don't even know what I said, but I definitely called it a BabyMoon at some point, but she still didn't get the hint.

So now I'm going to have to address this with her, since obviously she is going to know when we go to Charleston. I'm just going to be honest and say that basically we get so little time together that we try to make the most of the time that we do get. We don't get to travel a lot together because DH works away so much, and so we're planning on this being a Baby Moon...Like a Honeymoon, since it will be our last "alone" trip before the baby comes. I know it's hard to always remember that our situation is a little different, and I would die if I EVER hurt your feelings, but we are just trying to do something that we never get to do, and celebrate this special time. I think that if DH came home every day and I spent every day and every weekend with him, things would be a lot different, and I wouldn't think twice about making a couples trip. And I definitely think it would be fun to go on a couples trip with you guys, but I just don't think that this Charleston trip is the one to do that for. This trip is about spending some much needed time alone before the baby, and we're also going to be doing a lot of neighborhood searching and trying to get more familiar with what are we want to look for a house in...." Or something to that effect.

Is there anything you would add? I HATE to make her feel like I don't want us to all be together, I just don't think she totally understands. I think she just thinks the more, the merrier. But DH and I don't feel that way!

Any advice?

P.S. This girl brought me to the ER when I had my first cp/mc and DH was gone and spent the whole night with me at my house so I wouldn't be alone., pumping me full of wine and wiping my tears away. She had just gotten back literally an hour before I called her from a week in Jamaica and I know she was EXHAUSTED, but she was there for me in a flash. She is such a dear friend to me, I just want to address this as nicely and gently as I can! I'd die if I hurt her!