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If all BC seems to affect your drive I would make DH get snipped. No more babies and he gets laid more, win win!

@Adira: yes that one and another similar named one that I think was low dose and long lasting.

I would do condoms until you are ready to move forward with the vasectomy.

Sort of a personal question, but has your sex drive ever been normal? I would just caution you from thinking that changing birth control will fix the issue. You described 3 very different in nature birth control options that all seemed to result in the same thing: low sex drive.

What about temping? Would that work?

@Adira: I thought my cycle wasn't regular as well, but I did begin charting and realized that i just had a longer cycle. My husband and I were successful in using it as birth control for three years, and basically, at that time, we decided that I wouldn't use hormonal birth control over again. The thing is that for it to work, both partners need to "study" the charts and abstain during the fertile time.

Another option is uterine ablation, but I understand that to be permanent, so if you're not ready for your husband to have a vasectomy, that probably isn't an option either (yet).

Before we had babies, and I was on birth control, I took Seasonale/Seasonique for years. I didn't notice a decline in sex drive (though mine is naturally lower than DH already). I really liked that it was a 3 month pill so, so only 4 periods a year. It really controlled my menstrual issues (cramping, moodiness, and heavy periods). I've been fairly unhappy with things since my tubal ligation two years ago and have debated asking my OB about putting me back on birth control for all of my menstrual miserableness.

I think you need to do something non hormonal for a few months. Condoms, NFP, etc. You need to figure out what's normal for your body when it's left to its own devices.

I'm happy with depo. I've been on it and off for 10 years. I have to be on two years them off two years.

That said I'm team snip snip.

I would guess based on your past experiences that anything hormonal would have the same problem. I know it's annoying to have to track things carefully, but what about NFP + condoms? We did this for awhile and once I was sure I had ovulated, we had about a two week period every month where we didn't need to worry about condoms (which my DH doesn't like either). Hah, eventually maybe they'll be effective male hormonal birth control (short of getting snipped!)

well, i wasn't cool with the IUD, so we're doing the tri-phasic pill until DH get snipped

I have skyla, which is the lower hormone version of the mirena, and I'll say that I have a lot of the same side effects that I did on Mirena. It's not a deal breaker for me though, the pros still outweigh the cons. Just letting you know even with less hormones, I suspect you'll have the same problems. I was on yaz prior to kids and really liked that.

Otherwise I agree with others that you should go hormone free for a while and figure out what your normal is.