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I don't have any book recommendations, but you say that you've never had to do any sort of disciplining in the past - what exactly do you mean? DD is a pretty well-behaved kid, but it's because DH and i believe in discipline.

Are you guys consistent when dealing with him? We do the 1-2-3 bit. I tell her that i've already asked her x # of times, and i'm now going to start counting. If she doesn't do ___ by the time i get to 3, i am going to do x action (take a toy away, for example). And when i get to 3, i will follow through and do x action.

@SeptMomma12: Harvey Karp has "the happiest toddler on the block" which addresses ages 1-4 and is a quick read. Lots of focus on positive reinforcement for desired behavior, redirection, ignoring and consequences for negative behavior. If you want to go a little deeper, I am currently reading Becky Bailey's "easy to love, difficult to discipline". I really like it and it focuses on how we need to be focused on integrating ourselves in order to be effective, present and consistent for our kids. So far it has been really helpful although it is more thinking through things than specific techniques.

Good luck!!

I like Janet Lansbury's website for suggestions on how to approach toddler behavior (and other parenting ideas). I feel like she really explains a lot of the reasoning behind why kids act the way they do. It's http://www.janetlansbury.com

Some things I picked up from blogs, boards, moms and books: I try to give many many warnings before transitioning between activities to avoid tantrums and also counting to 10 to give dd a chance to adjust to a change such as giving up the iPhone. I use a timer to signal the end of tv time and when it goes off she knows it's the end of her tv time. I also use lots of motivators to get her to do things like change or brush her teeth. I.e. : if you want your story you need to let me brush your teeth first! Or, if you want to go out to the park we need to change your diaper first, etc....