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Truthfully, not great. I don’t resort to name calling but as a lawyer and someone that just likes to talk, I tend to think that if I just keep explaining and debating I’ll ultimately convert someone to my perspective. Not my finest quality and it drives my husband bonkers.

It depends on what it is and who it's with. I'm pretty good about seeing multiple sides, but I'm also a researcher/academic by training and it's literally my job to gather evidence and then use it to make a thesis-driven argument, and argue against other interpretations of that evidence, lol. In my personal life, there isn't much that I disagree with dh, my parents, or my close friends about that I feel super passionately about.

Not that we don't argue, but if it isn't something major it just blows over. Like, yesterday I was furious with dh--the water in our apartment building was turned off during the day for maintenance, and he assumed I remembered, but I had forgotten. I went to the gym after dropping the girls off at daycare and then came home (we both work from home, btw...). I went to take a shower and there was no water, of course, but I had a meeting later that day and needed to get dressed professionally. If he had reminded me before I left with the girls, I would have taken my clothes to change at the gym. He saw me wearing gym clothes and imo, he should have reminded me about the water. I was *pissed* and neither of us really conceded the argument but it's blown over now, lol

Depends. If I just plain don't agree with them, I can put it out of my mind, or argue with them but without too much venom. If it's something where I think their opinion will get someone hurt, I'll have a very hard time staying calm, and can do anything from having a month-long argument with them to crossing them out of my life for good.

It depends on the topic, if it is something very near to me (like anything anti cop because my husband is a cop) I get angry. I don't resort to name calling, but I just can't handle the things people assume.

Almost all of my friends have drastically different political views than I do, and we just don't talk about it. We talk about our families and books and movies and the bullshit at work and just have all agreed to not agree on politics.

My husband and I see eye to eye on almost everything, he is a little more passionate about some things than I am, but I get where he is coming from too. The only thing we have had differences over is some of the stuff with our son. Like we co-sleep, which he was fine with in the beginning because it was best for everyone... 2 years later and he's still not in his own bed. I know he needs to, but it's so hard to make him sleep in his own bed when most nights my husband is at work. I like knowing he's close if anything happens... sooooo that should probably be resolved sooner than later.

In terms of DH and I, we have very few things that we agree to disagree on. Politically he leans more GOP and I lean more Democrat, but we're basically right on the other side of the fence from each other and we would probably consider ourselves more independent than anything else. We have come to agreements completely on family matters, raising our children, finances, etc. I say this because we have worked aggressively on getting to that place over the last 7-8 years because we are both people who literally cannot focus if there is discord or disagreement at home. We don't sit around and stew in our resentment and literally everything gets put on hold until its handled, probably mainly due to my anxiety and I can't deal otherwise. Sure each of have preferences for one thing or another, but we talk about it and either agree to a compromise or we just let one person have their way for the sake of peace. For example, I refuse to have guns in the house and I don't buy my kids toys that look like weapons. DH never kept a gun, but he's from a culture where its not a big deal, but he has accepted that I am just not okay with it and he's gone so far as communicate with his family my position and that we will not be bringing our kids over to any house with a firearm present. So that's our "agreement" on the matter, even if he doesn't think its a huge deal personally.

As to other people outside our household, I think we can't really learn from each other and evolve without sharing our viewpoints. So I generally lean more towards sharing my views respectfully, let the other person say what they have to say, then gauge whether or not they are going to be disrespectful to me and then either just shrug and end the conversation, or I might engage them further if I think they are going to be civil about it, because we may each learn something from each other.

For example, I work as an attorney and people are shocked when they find out I'm a serious, practicing devout Christian. That either leads to people making some really false assumptions about me based on the caricatures of "evangelical Christians" in the media, or they will be genuinely curious and want to ask me more about my views on certain topics and then we'll have some neat conversations. I think you just have to gauge the other person's motivations.

@MrsMom: I feel like could have just copied your post haha!

I try to avoid conflict. I definitely have opinions, but even though I was very good at Debate in school, I try not to get too passionate. When people get emotional about opinions is when feelings get hurt.

I disagreed with my parents about Trump and while they knew it, we just kind of skirted around it in our conversations. I'm very middle of the road politically because I like pieces of each platform and DH is the same.

DH and I don't have many arguments. In fact, I can only think of a handful in 6 years. In the end, we had to put emotions aside, come to a sensible compromise or agree to respect each other's different perspectives.

The BIGGEST contributing factors to conflicts is a refusal to listen or give credence to different perspectives.

Probably the only thing I get riled up over is gun control right now. As a result, I avoid any discussion of that because like me, people are far too impassioned on either side to compromise without hurt feelings. I value societal safety over individual rights and have a hard time understanding why someone would do otherwise.

Luckily my husband and I tend to agree on everything. With people at work I try not to get into it too much. With family/friends, if it is something like abortion right or gun control I make very pointed arguments and don't back down but I never resort to name calling, etc. That gets you nowhere. Just means I probably don't interact with them very much anymore.

I don't avoid conflict or disagreement, but as I've gotten older I've gotten better about considering where the other person is coming from and *why* their opinion is valid, like the experience @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: mentioned. But, I've also gotten really jaded about concluding that lots of people are morons, and I'm totally unbothered to let stupid people have their stupid opinions--doesn't ruffle my feathers the way it did in my 20s