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I've found that the moms with elementary school aged kids at our playground are very cliquey. I see the same ones every day, often standing less than 5 feet away from me, and they've yet to return a hello or smile. I don't get it. The moms with kids around LO's age are very nice.

I've noticed that some of the moms with elementary school kids have more school stuff to talk about and sometimes it gets a bit gossipy so I avoid them when they're in a group. But individually they're all nice enough, some more so than others of course.

@BabyBruins: what time do you go on the weekends??

@regberadaisy: I swear the playgrounds around us are ghost towns! I don't know where all the moms and nannies are going during the day, but I haven't found them yet!

I usually grab another Mommy friend when we go to the park, so I have someone to talk to, but when I have been there by myself I have definitely noticed that people aren't overly open to start up conversation.

I never really go by myself, but yeah, definitely cliquey. The moms always sit around in their little groups here.

oh no! that's no fun... I'm in New England too - I haven't really noticed that, but to be honest, I'm not at the playground that often.... i have actually found people to be pretty friendly, but maybe it's just the area I'm in? I haven't noticed too many groups, a lot of "single" moms with kids - so maybe they're friendlier? agree with @honeybee: too --- much easier to approach the singles than a big group!

I have never been approached by another mom at the playground, or even acknowledged really haha. DS is destined to have no friends lol

Ugh, I hate this kind of crap. This is why I'm halfway dreading being a temporary SAHM, as my return date to work is still up in the air.

Quite frankly, I already see enough of this "mommy clique" madness at the school where I teach, and it's terrible. Lots of gossip over whose marriages are on the rocks, and which eight year old kids aren't performing well in their class....it's truly sick.

I have no advice but this terrifies me! I am not a good talker & I am terrible at eye contact, smiles, or hellos. I tend to stick to myself & look at the ground. I'm going to have break out of my shell some day to help my kids make friends. I like the idea that @Honeybee: had, find the loner and strike up a conversation. I know I'd more incline to talk if I was approached first.

@Clementine: I'd be your friend. And when the ice cream truck came, I'd just elbow check the rest of the moms and get the best flavor popsicle, while sticking my tongue out at them.

It's hard to break into a group of moms that know each other! I tried and have failed miserably, so what I do is look for other moms that are by themselves. I've had more success this way. Sucks, I know, but it's just how it is. Sometimes it's easier not to make new friends when you've already got your group established.