Is anyone else struggling with this? It feels like my ex blames me for every single thing he is upset about in life. I swear if he stepped in dog crap that would be my fault too. It feels like sour grapes because I moved on so quickly (I married my high school boyfriend a year after our divorce was final and am now expecting a second child. I never expected that to happen; it was simply good fortune). I did everything I could to make the divorce as easy as possible on him. I have the better job and he was in school, so I let him keep all the assets, I have been very flexible and have accommodated his constant requests to change our custody schedule, my new husband stays almost completely out of sight, etc. It’s gotten so bad that I didn’t even tell him daycare increased their rates because I knew it would just start a fight (he is unhappy with our daycare, which I picked) so I am just paying the extra myself. I didn’t ask him for any money for our son’s winter coat, boots, Halloween costume because I know he is between jobs right now, though I am not well off myself. None of it matters. He doesn’t recognize my efforts to be supportive and friendly and always finds SOMETHING to be angry with me about. Last night our son was talking to him about his new baby brother and I got angry texts about that. Whenever our son gets a cold I get angry texts about the daycare I picked and how it is not a healthy place for him because he just gets sick all the time. Last week he was angry I let our son post a wedding picture of me and him and his stepfather on the families board, he said that was classless. I said that is just reality. Our son has a stepfather now. He is more than welcome to post a picture of him and our son and his girlfriend on the families board. That is part of our son’s family too. Our son sleeps at his house 2 to 3 nights a week but he thinks I have no idea what it’s like to miss your child and suffer from not being with him. Seriously? I try to reason with him and have open and honest conversations with him and work things out and I just end up getting beaten up about all the careless and selfish things I do and how I’m lucky that he’s so easy to deal with (????) and I end defending myself and ultimately end up in tears. It’s like trying to argue with someone that the sky is blue and they insist that it’s green. I kept thinking that in time he would move on and stop being angry with me, but he has always identified as such a victim and the divorce was final a year and a half ago. I feel so depressed because I finally realized that he may just be like this forever and I want so much to have a peaceful and respectful, if not friendly, relationship with him for the sake of our son. I am going to end up with an ulcer from all this stress and it feels like there is nothing I can do about it.

I couldn’t find an appropriate board to post this on. I can’t be the only divorced bee….