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@MarieJ: that was exactly how it was for me too. Also, since we didn't have any family around, I was very alone for the first few months until I met some other moms. However, I did/do miss some of those pre-baby relationships. Some of my friends from before stayed around and some basically dropped out of my life.

We now have two LOs and live in an expat community with an extensive mommy network. It has been a lifesaver for making friends. I can't say that I'm really "friends" with all the moms, but there are some women I really appreciate. Unfortunately I have found that it's hard to have friendships like in my single days since all the women (and men) I know here have family obligations, so the spontaneity is gone. In my situation, I can't just call up someone and go for a drink since everything requires so much coordination.

I'm sure others have found a better way to balance than I have, but I have found that it is definitely work maintaining certain friendships after baby.

It's not hard to meet mom friends but it is harder to find ones you really click with. For me it has just been a function of time and opportunities. For example, I had a group that I went to mommy baby yoga with for about 6 months. We did meet a few times outside the class but they all ended up being "friends for now" and after a while I stopped seeing them. On the other hand through another mom group I met a few ladies that over time I became close with and even though a couple have moved away, we had enough in common that we still keep in touch.

I was pretty in the middle of my friends in terms of having babies, so I actually see some of them more now than when they had a baby and I didn't- scheduling is easier since we both work around babies now. I have had a few friends drift away but it was really happening even before baby. When I was the friend without kids, I don't think many if my friendships fell apart over it, but I've always lived babies so I really made a point to be involved if I could.

As for meeting mom friends, I got so lucky that I joined a mommy and me class really early on and clicked with a bunch of te moms there. Size of us are SAHMs and we still meet up weekly (started when babies were six weeks old and c will be eight months on Saturday!) Not all of them are people I would have been friends with before but some of them are.

It's a tough transition but I think it can be done!

I had just moved to a new city when I got pregnant, so I didn't really have many friends around to begin with. Luckily, the majority of people I am friends with now I met through church, and they have kids of similar ages. The other friends I have are waiting to try, and don't find it weird when I bring my daughter along.