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We just upgraded to a king size bed this week and I wish we had done it sooner. It felt wasteful to me before because we had a perfectly good queen size bed. I finally just realized that our six year old may not grow out of his middle of the night wakings for a while and for my health I need to get better sleep.

@agold: I am currently cosleeping with my 4 year old. Both kids, 8 and 4, will come in for nightmares etc. I'm ok with it. So long as everyone is comfortable/has enough room, if it works for you then it works for you.

We take turns co-sleeping with our 4 year old in her bed (double). She has always been a terrible sleeper. I couldn't take all of the night waking with have a super long commute and having to function at work. If we had to do it over again, it would be nice to have a King in our room and jist sleep as a family, but our 1930s house has tiny bedrooms!

Our 2.5 year old sleeps in our bed. He was a great sleeper as a baby until the 5-6 month mark - we tried every solution we read about to get him back on track, with no luck. Around the 1 year mark, the lack of sleep was seriously affecting everyone's mental health and we just started bringing him into the bed as soon as he woke up during the night. Now, we just put him to sleep in our bed. His pediatrician was pretty encouraging about it - he said it'll probably be a rough transition once we decide to move him but he promises DS won't go off to college a co-sleeper and said we should do what's best for our family right now.

It has honestly made a huge difference - we all sleep so much better and I don't see us changing it up anytime soon. That said, having him in the bed doesn't bother either of us - we both work long hours so the extra snuggle time kind of feels like a bonus, and so far he doesn't kick or do anything particularly disruptive.

We're expecting another little one in a few months and we'll see how it goes from there - she'll be in the crib in our room (and we won't bring her in our bed at all until at least 1 year), so not sure if her night wakings will affect DS but we'll jump off that bridge when we come to it. I will say, we just got a king bed and while it is lovely, DS still curls up against one of us like a little barnacle no matter how big the bed is I am currently sleeping with a pregnancy pillow which kind of gives me a nice little barrier when I feel like I need my own space, maybe you could try that if DD is keeping you awake. I've also heard of some people having better luck putting a cot or little mattress on the floor so kiddo is close but not disrupting you - not sure if your DDs would go for that. Good luck!

@pachamama: I agree! American sleep culture is so weird. It’s the outlier!

We have a 5-1/2 year old and 2-1/2 year old who both end up in our king bed at some point during the night. DS (older) will easily go to bed in his own twin, but is usually in ours by midnight. DD is a struggle most nights to get to sleep, sometimes we give up and she goes to bed with us, sometimes she falls asleep in her toddler bed and doesn't come in till 5 am if at all.

It is what it is for now. Most nights we don't even notice them come in so it's not worth the fight for us.

DH gets the far left of the bed, I'm in the middle, then DD, then DS (then wall). It works.

I slept with my now 5.5 and 3.5 year till before they turned 5 and 3. We did king bed plus I put another twin XL right next to it so we have a super big bed. My oldest doesn't move around that much; my middle does but I love/loved co-sleeping b/c we could all sleep.

@agold: So they moved out b/c we were expecting #3 and I planned (and did/am) bed sharing with #3 so they went into their own room with a bunk bed and my husband sleeps next to them on a mattress haha!

I really just a combo of a twin XL frame plus mattress that add up to the same height as my king bed, and got a similar looking headboard. Similar bedding so it doesn't look that crazy. My middle used to kinda sleep in the crack/gap of the 2 beds but she didn't seem to care at all.

There is def potential for ALL the kids to be in bed with us once #3 is a little older!

@agold: we decided to go for it figuring we can use the bed for someone at some point. Back then we didn’t get a bunk bed. So now we can def use this for #3 at some point in time.