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I feel for you. My son didn't sleep in his own room til maybe 8 months, through the night at 9. I just want to say that the early days are hard and unpredictable, so give yourself permission to do whatever you need to get some sleep. Good luck!

I agree that you should do whatever will maximize your sleep. I would rather not cosleep most of the time because I sleep better without my son in bed. But I will choose to sleep with him than stay up in the middle of the night!

@junebugsmama: Sorry, I want to clarify because I fear I offended you and that wasn't my intent.

The AAP states that:
"The baby should sleep in the same room as the parents, but not in the same bed (room-sharing without bed-sharing)."
https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/pages/AAP-Expands-Guidelines-for-Infant-Sleep-Safety-and-SIDS-Risk-Reduction.aspx
https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/sleep/Pages/Preventing-SIDS.aspx

I only meant to make the point, and I guess I wasn't very clear on it, that many who are against bed-sharing are fine with the baby sleeping outside of the room, while many who are against sleeping outside of the parents' room are fine with co-bedding. Both of which contradict the AAP's recommendations. So its all a little contradictory/hypocritical, but I actually meant it in a positive way for us parents. That unless you're doing something blatantly dangerous (for the record, I don't think either safe co-sleeping OR baby sleeping in their own room in a safe crib are blatantly dangerous), you can't make a "wrong" decision. Which is where I meant to say that everything has upside and downside and real or perceived risks and we all just have to choose what works for us.

I really wanted my son out of the room because he was so, so loud when he slept, so even when he was sleeping and I was supposed to be sleeping, I couldn't sleep. And it was having a severely negative impact on my mental health (I had ppd and ppa). So knowing that him being in a bassinet next to my bed was recommended, I weighed the options and decided that him sleeping in his own room was best for us.
However, I would not co-sleep because of the risks I've read about. So my point is even I was contradictory in my reasoning for wanting to do one and not the other.

I think that we both said the same overall theme, to do what works best for her. I didn't mean for it to be a debate on sleep habits. I actually meant quite the opposite. That you can always read pros and cons for every single parenting decision, and in a way that should give us comfort that there's no "right" answer.

For awhile DS and I coslept until DH put his foot his down about rollover risk. DS sleeps in his crib and wakes 2 times in MOTN for a quick change and nurse. His first sleep stretch is about 4-5 hours.

I sleep right next to him on the floor every night. My back is sore, but this way I am close by when he needs me.

Do what feels right for you.