Ok, so I have decided the time has come to get LO3 on a schedule and sleep train her.
For background LO1 was naturally a terrible sleeper that puked with any sleep training that included pretty much any length of crying so he was up 5+ times per night until he weaned at 16 months old.
LO2 was a magical unicorn who STTN and had herself on a great nap routine by 4 weeks old and each sleep regression we just dropped a nap.
LO3 did great until 4 months. Nap schedule was pretty all over the place because, well, 3rd baby. Now she is struggling more. Wanting to be rocked down, sleep is all over the place etc.
I want to get her on a 2 nap, 3/2/1 schedule. It should work well for my morning trips to drop off kids, go to the gym, do pickups etc. I also need to sleep train her because she wants to be rocked to sleep 24/7.
Which would you tackle first? The schedule and rock her if need be to make those 2 naps happen properly, OR the sleep training (we are most comfortable with controlled crying with checks/re-assuring every 5 minutes).
cherry / 235 posts
Sleep train at night first, it's easier because their sleep drive is stronger. Naps do after that. Highly recommend Precious Little Sleep (book, blog, podcasts, facebook group). And just be aware that for some babies, checks make it worse. I'd start with that approach and hope for the best, but if it doesn't seem to working after a while, maybe tweak a little and cut them back. Good luck!
grapefruit / 4361 posts
I see from your profile that LO is 6 months? I think 2 naps is understandable at that age.
We prioritized a regular schedule first before sleep training. I felt that if her body got used to sleeping at certain times, then it would make sleep training smoother. I didn't want to be faced with a situation in which LO was screaming his head off for 20+ minutes bc I was trying to get him to sleep at a time that wasn't natural/habitual yet to him.
pomelo / 5554 posts
We did a schedule and a nap/bedtime routine first, and then dropped rocking to sleep.
grapefruit / 4056 posts
@DesertDreams88: Yes! She is 6 months old - I totally forgot to put that in my post. See ... sleep deprived
@starchild: We are definitely doing night sleep training as well as working on the schedule. Its a lot all at once!
Thanks everyone - I was leaning towards working on the nap timing first before "nap training" so I'm glad that sounds like the consensus on what makes sense!