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You know why she's holding out and keeps screaming? Because she's learned that if she goes long enough, you'll give up. That might be a bit harsh, but its true. Sleep training is all about commitment and sticking to a, plan. Whether that plan is CIO or whatever else, it doesnt matter. Consistency is the absolute key.

At this point, you're going to have a rough few nights because she's got plenty of bad habits already. You need to do some research, decide what method you're going with and what she might respond to best, and just do it. Don't give in anymore. It wont work if you're wishy washy about it.

If cosleeping and nursing work for both of you, just continue doing it. This is what mothers all over the world do and have been doing forever

However, i know how nice it can be to reclaim space in your own bed... Where is her crib? Do you think you could start out with it next to your bed?

Also, nothing that you are doing is a "bad habit", nor will uou form any. The "bad habits" that people talk about are normally things that babies are biologically & anthropologically designed to do (for example, sleeping with their mothers, nursing to sleep, rocking to sleep, sleeping in-arms etc) but that are seen as "inconvenient" to adults in our culture. Also, I don't think a 7-month-old is manipulating you by screaming for ages. She's emotionally distressed and needs her caregiver to regulate her stress.

You could also try sidecarring her crib.

Sleep training or cosleeping - whatever works for you is what matters. But if sharing a bed long term is not something you guys are okay with then you probably need to train. The only thing is it's not fair to let your baby CIO if you won't be consistent because it's just leaving her to be upset for no reason.

If cosleeping works for you then go with that - kids learn to sleep on their own eventually - but if she falls asleep in your arms and wakes up in a different place, that's gonna be jarring because they learn object permanence at this point.

I feel for you!! My son was an absolute horrible sleeper his first year of life. I just could not handling letting him CIO so I just dealt with it. The easiest thing was just letting him sleep next to me in bed so he could nurse easily through out the night. There were many times where I got to my wits end, but I truly believe he was not a baby that I could do CIO with. I believe a lot had to do with him not dealing well with teething and getting 4-6 teeth all at once. Those were the times where his sleep would be horrendous even with giving him tylenol. That was around 8 months and 12 months.

Anyways, he went to a floor bed early for naps so I could just nurse him and roll away. Then after he was one, we moved him to his own room with a floor bed and my husband took over nighttime wake ups. It was rough at first and took a few weeks before he adjusted. My DH basically slept with him in his room for awhile. But he's over 2 now and puts himself to sleep for naps and nighttime. So definitely didn't develop any bad habits by letting him nurse / rock to sleep. It just took time.

Hang in there and you just have to do what feels right for you and your family.