So we've been struggling with our 14.5 month olds sleep. She goes to bed easily but around 1:45/2am she is up screaming hysterical. We've tried rocking her to calm her down and then putting her back in her crib as well as giving some Tylenol in case it's teeth(?). This can go on for up to two hours until we bring her to bed with us where even there she takes awhile to fall back asleep. I feel like it might be time to do some CIO but DH says he can't hear her cry. So we're at a standstill and I'm afraid we're creating really bad sleep habits. Any suggestions? Have you been here too?
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Do you have a video or audio monitor? That might help. Is your DH against CIO *just because* he can't hear the crying?
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@autumn865: I'm with you but we're opposites. He wants to do CIO, I don't. M wakes up 1x night around the same time and nursing helps her go back to sleep. We'd both like to get her to sttn but we're struggling with it.
How long has this been going on?
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If it's just a matter of not being able to stand hearing the crying, maybe he could leave the house during sleep training?
Bee was really bonded to Charlie and was pained by his crying, so she left the house and I texted her updates!
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I have no advice, but would also love get some tips on the sleep front. DD is 16.5 months and as soon as she turned 16 months, sleep has been a struggle. She's only started napping again now and has been waking up in the middle of the night. When we put her into bed with us (out of desperation) she literally drop kicks us. It's been better just recently. I probably jinxed myself for writing that last line!
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We're in a similar situation with our eleven month old. My husband doesn't want to do CIO. However, I'm the one who really suffers. She'll only go back to sleep for me, and usually only if I nurse her. She's eleven months old, she does not NEED to be eating at night any more. And I WOH full time so I'm exhausted and need more sleep. He tries to help but gives up after three minutes and says "she only wants you". And yet, if I let her cry in there, he gets mad at me. UGH.
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When we sleep trained, I had to sit outside on the patio with the door closed and my husband did the interval checking. I just couldn't keep myself from running in there before the time was up.
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My husband and I also disagree on CIO, but for different reasons... we are both okay with hearing the crying (as long as it's just fussing, which it usually is for us). My husband wants to let our 9.5 mo CIO in the middle of the night so that night nursing doesn't become a habit (she really does *not* need to be eating at 4:00 am). I want to just feed her because nursing her back to sleep means I am awake for 10 minutes, tops, whereas CIO means I am awake for at least 30 minutes... Sigh. No solution here, just wanted to share your pain.
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would he be up for wearing noise canceling headphones or listening to music with earphones, or is it that he doesn't believe in CIO? that's a tough one, i'm sorry.
@septca: i am in a very similar situation. my 9.5 month old has consistently woken up about 1 hour before his "real" wakeup time off an on for months. i used to CIO because i thought he needed to be "trained" to wake up later, but it has never worked. i caved and now i nurse him and put him back to sleep. i prefer it on one hand because i can go back to bed afterwards for a little bit, but i do worry about encouraging this early morning feeding. sigh. what can you do.
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@edelweiss: Exactly. I talked to my ped about this at our 9 month visit and she had no advice. In fact, she said that she had recently attended a seminar with Dr. Ferber and he also said he had no advice for the 5:00 am wake up, except to say that it's very normal and that if your baby goes back to sleep after that (versus deciding it's time to start the day), you are one of the lucky ones. Again, sigh.
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We disagreed on CIO and eventually we just decided that the person who was getting up got to be the decider. That meant me for Lala and by the time we got to M, he saw things my way. No CIO in our family.
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It was similar for my hubs and I-- he didn't want to listen to her cry for an extended period of time, but we both knew that night wakings around 1 year shouldn't be happening. We both bit the bullet and went with it... horrible 2 nights, but it's been worth it! I agree with others' suggestions about having him be away while you're doing CIO. Maybe a guys' weekend or something?
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Yes. DH didn't want to do it because he felt bad. So I did it when he was out of town for a week. It was tough doing it alone but it wouldn't have happened had DH been here.
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We disagreed on it also, but it was ultimately my choice. I'm the one who did all the night wakings, to sleep training was me. I pretty much told him I was going to do it my way since I was the one who had to face the consequences.
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