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Even though my dad was much more strict, i favoured him a lot more than my mom. My parents say it was because after my sister was born my mom was so busy with her that i grew closer to my dad. I found that my dad just "got" me better.

I don't think so?

All of us (4) favored my mom growing up. Apparently we were all pretty quick on the uptake as young kids, because none of us speak to our father now that we're adults.

I don't feel like I did but my mom always thought I favored my dad. I think that was just a function of him not being around much though (he worked long hours) so when he was home that was fun time. And he'd take me to do fun stuff. My mom was the 24/7 caregiver and disciplinarian so we had a more complicated relationship.

I don't think I favor either now either. I'm probably closer to my mom I guess because I talk to her almost every day, but I love and enjoy my dad equally we just don't have cause to talk so much. I'm lucky I actually like both of my parents!

@yin: Same. I was a daddy's girl from the get go. I didn't really get along with my mom at all until the past few years.

I definitely favored my dad because my mom was overbearing and didn't know how to pick her battles. I was constantly avoiding her nitpicking over trivial issues. I still do that today, but I am also less close to my dad now due to a certain experience I had 3.5 years ago. My dad has a fairly extreme personality, and for the first time I was the explicit target of his irrational control freak tendencies. It gave me a lot of perspective on other aspects of our relationship and has enabled me to be much more comfortable in my own skin, but it has definitely taken its toll in terms of my relationship with my parents.

I favored my dad. I was scared of my stepmom. I saw my mom every other weekend so I don't think I was around enough to favor her.