For my first I only had DH in the room.... of course the nurse and doctor too, and a student nurse. Our family was in the waiting room. I have no regrets and will be doing the same with #2.
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I had such an overwhelming amount of support from DH, my mom, MIL and FIL and would have no problem with the same crew, or some combination. Or maybe just DH, who knows?
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I think my family might expect us to allow more people/visitors next time since our first went so well (I only had DH and my midwife and one nurse). But I am doubtful we will change anything. Who knows, maybe just having DH there was a big part of why it went so smoothly!
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Same. Before I had Sadie I thought I would want my mom in there, but it was so perfect with just me and Dan. I want it exactly the same next time!
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I will be MORE strong about telling my family to go to the waiting room.
They knew they couldn't be in the delivery room with me and DH, so they stayed in the hallway right outside the room door.
Well, the door was open! But, the curtain was shut so they were basically in the doorway with a curtain separating us. Never again...
I could hear them whispering and praying and then crying when he baby was born. They were all on skype with other relatives and ugh...just distracting
Anyways---they will be locked up in the waiting room next time. -
@TurtleDoves: Wow, I'm surprised the nurses allowed that!
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I had DH and my mom the first time. This next time it will be just DH. My mom kind of stepped in and try to take over and I really wanted DH to be the one helping.
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@artbee: They didn't really "allow" it, I think. See...they were further down in the hallway and inched closer and closer. By the time he had crowned, I could see their feet on the other side of the curtain but was panting too hard to tell DH. And then after the baby was born, everyone was s overjoyed that, we just let things go wild. I wasn't upset or mad...just very distracted. I don't want to be distracted! I was in be focused and in awe after #2 is born
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With DS1 we had family in the room while I had an epi but kicked them out once it wore off and kept them out til after he was born. With DS2 only my SO, DS1, and my mom were there. My mom took DS1 out while I pushed and brought him right back in when DS2 was born. I loved not having everyone there....its much more relaxing. Though, at the time I didn't mind everyone there the first time.
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@TurtleDoves: We told our families that we wanted to do skin on skin for an hour after she was born, just our little family was allowed in at that time. So they knew ahead of time they'd be waiting an hour before they could come in the room. Maybe you should try that!
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I did. My parents, oldest sister and DH were in there when DS was born (my dad was in the corner, not looking but cheering me on like it was a track meet lol). Just my husband was there for #2.
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My mom was in the room for M but I think we might choose to just have me and DH the next time. She was great at blending into the woodwork, but it might be nice to have just the two of us. Of course, I also hope that the next LO and I are a little healthier so there aren't so many staff in the room. It was crazy!
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Same - I only want DH in there. I'm still modest, even after having one.
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I was so nervous and self-conscious about being naked and vulnerable, I didn't know if I'd poop or puke or both, that I didn't want anyone there with DS but DH.
But now, if we were to have another, I would totally have one of my girlfriends in there with me! -
I had DH and our Doula along with the Doc and nurses. Next time I kinda really want to have a homebirth but DH is not on board.... we'll see.
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My mom and my sister were both at the hospital, in and out of my room during labor, and kind of in the back of the room for the actual birth.
I didn't mind having them there for most of labor, and sometimes it was handy, but I don't think I want them in the room for the birth next time. I actually doubt either will be at the hospital- my mom will probably be watching my older son, and I think by then my sister will have moved out of state and probably will come visit soon after LO#2 is born, but not for the birth itself.
The main thing I'm changing is that FIL is not allowed to come up for the first few days. He drove up when I was in labor last time and was there at the hospital, which I really did not appreciate when I was all gross and in pain and trying to breastfeed with my boobs all hanging out. I know he doesn't mind but I do. -
Just DH and hopefully only DH for #2 as well!
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Nope, just DH! There were probably 5-6 nurses and the doctor and I couldn't imagine having anymore people in the room.
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@rachiecakes: me too!
DH was adamant that he was the only one in the room - but has since said he was way overwhelmed. DS was posterior and stuck. He wasn't the best support but he tried. Next time I also want one of my BFF's (maybe both if they take turns) - they've been there and get it!
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@HLK208: awww that is so cute about your dad! LOL
For LO#1, it was the hubs and my mom. I'm thinking of having MIL replace my mom for LO#2 so each of them could have the chance of seeing their grandchild born (totally up to her, though).
I wouldn't care if a girlfriend wanted to come (I have no siblings), but I pooped last time and I'm not sure anyone would want to see that!
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