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No he didn't and I have mixed feelings about it now. At the time it didn't even occur to me to bring him along, but when I got there almost everyone in the waiting room was in pairs. My appointment went just fine, he didn't NEED to be there to discuss the treatment, but afterwards I had some regret about not bringing him.

That night he asked me a million questions and I couldn't answer any of them which irritated him a little. Turns out he doesn't like hearing the information second hand, even if it's exactly how the Dr. said it to me. Because I would repeat something the Dr. said, then he would immediately have 10 questions and I had no idea what the answers were. I don't blame him, especially since it's such a big deal. So he is definitely coming to the next appointment!

@kentuckygirl: I started a thread about this topic and gave a synopsis of my appointment at the end of it, so definitely check it out! A lot of Bee's gave great feedback and my appointment ended up being pretty much the same as everyone else's.

In breif though, I filled out some paperwork in the waiting room, met with the Dr. in his office (fully dressed) to talk about my history and the treatment plan I will most likely take, then I had some blood work taken before I left. It would have been totally fine for him to attend, he might have waited alone for 5 minutes during my blood work but otherwise he would have had the chance to ask questions, etc.

I will say though, that ultimately it's not important that your SO come to the first appointment, especially if it would be inconvenient for him. It's preliminary for the most part, so you will for sure have follow up appointments that are a lot more informational and specific to your treatment plan. I just should have known that my DH would get frustrated not hearing the info first hand and insisted that he come. I'm also a little too practical for my own good and assume it's better not to inconvenience both of us with a work-hour dr. appointment when only one of us has to be there.

@kentuckygirl: I haven't been to an RE but hubs has come to all of my OB appointments with me and I have had internal exams and internal ultrasounds. There is always a curtain up but I have never felt even the slightest bit uncomfortable.

I think if I were you I would want my husband there. Similar to what @ModernDaisy said at my OB appointments hubs will often ask follow up questions that I wouldn't have asked so it's nice for him to be able to get all the information he wants first hand.

My first appointment with the nurse he did not (medical questionnaire) but the firs tone with the doctor he did. It was important for him to be there (to me) to hear the heartbeat and what not, and then we ended up needing an ultrasound, I would have been even more of a ball of nerves if he wasn't there to support me!

@kentuckygirl: My husband was there for all of those visits too. We didn't have a curtain. He sat just a little off to the side.

It was really important for DH to be at our first FS appointment. 1/2 the appointment was about him, his history, instructions for his testing (bloodwork and semenalysis).

Once I was pregnant, he only came to the important appointments (the early ones, and major ultrasounds).