I asked my Mom if she ever experienced MIL drama with my Grandma. She laughed and said ALL THE TIME...especially for the first 4 years of marriage!
Are you aware of any issues between your Mom and her MIL?
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No MIL issues for my mom: 1) MIL had passed away before my parents even got married. But even still, 2) my parents married in Canada and all in-laws were still living in Korea.
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Yep. My Grams was always bitter that my mom and dad's first wedding (of 3) was in the Army in Germany with no family, and the second was in Iowa with my mom's family (which Grams and Granddaddy weren't able to go to). They didn't meet my mom until the third wedding in Texas (with my dad's family). She always held a grudge about that. Plus my father is Grams' firstborn son, and he is still a huge Mama's boy, and my mom was the "tart that took him away".
That said, she did give my Grams 4 grandchildren, so they eventually got along. My stepmom has had a MUCH harder time of it. Grams just doesn't like her, period. She puts on a polite face, but they really dislike each other on a personal level.
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She still does. Now she's upset because my grandma lives 4 hours away and always wants my dad to come for every little thing (she once called during a holiday dinner saying he had to come right away because she had gas). 1) My dad works. He's a doctor and has patients, he can't just pick up and go. and 2) She should move closer to us and won't. My mom thinks she should want to live closer to her great grandchild but instead she wants to live closer to the people she plays cards with.
My grandparents used to come visit and stay for weeks. My sister would have to give up her room, they wouldn't help out with anything, they'd go out late and sleep in so we'd have to be quiet all day long. She still complains about it.
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Oh boy, does she! My Gmom is not easy to get along with and my Dad is her oldest son and favorite, so my Mom and her have never gotten along. My Dad is partly to blame since he doesn't really stick up for my Mom enough or keep my Gmom out of things in the first place.
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Yep, she totally did. For one, my grandma didn't really approve of my mom being a SAHM. My grandma had 3 kids by the age of 21 and went to college/worked until she was 65.
Also, I had a lot of medical issues as a child and my grandma didn't agree with some of the doctor's opinions and that, in turn, affected my mom & her relationship.
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No. They didn't have many issues. However, both of my grandmothers had a lot of issues with each other (my dad's dad and my mom's dad). One of my grandmothers was very generous financially and the other one wanted my parents to figure out life on their own. It was a major source of contention.
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Nope-- my parents were very lucky that both the mothers went out of their way to be nice and accommodating and welcoming. The only "problem" with my dad's mom was that she was a home maker who did everything for my grandfather and my dad (who was her only son) so my dad grew up with a bit of an entitled attitude, like, dinner should be on the table when he walks in the door, etc. But my grandmother certainly never had a critical word to my mom if she didn't live up to that standard.
My sister's MIL is another story though... -
My Dad's entire family was horrible to my Mom. (They are a highly disfunctional lot). It was a major factor in my parents getting divorced.
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Yep. She's kinda nuts. She loves Baby Bear though surprisingly. My dad's family is like @Jumpingjacks: I get it honey!
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She did.. Grandma is still alive at 93! Their relationship is a lot better now.
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She does now. My stepdad is an only child and his mom still tries to baby him. It drives my mom crazy.
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Yes. My grandmother had schizophrenia and was always making paranoid accusations about my mother. My mom tried to just remember that it was her disease but it was definitely hard.
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Yes, they still butt heads to this day. My grandma still refers to my dad as her "baby boy" and was frequently under minded my mom in her family decision making (going back to work, parenting, ect.) so it was tough on her. I love my grandma, but she is a very difficult woman to please, I have known this since I was a kid.
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Nope. Grandmother B lived 8 hours away from us and Dad was not a Momma's boy. She was also a lot older. They just treated each other civilly.
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Severe. Let's just say she was a poisonous MIL.
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Yes. But my grandmother had paranoid schizophrenia, so her issues weren't really MIL-specific issues per se.
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Yeah. My dad's parents hate my Mom, and kind of dislike us because we're her kids. They are open about having favorites among their grandchildren, and my sister and I were never the favorites!
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