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I didn't feel like our family was incomplete, esp since we conceived Olive when charlie was 13 months old. It was more along the lines of we wanted to have two so they had each other, and we didn't want a big age gap that was the driving factor!

I didn't feel that way with #2, but with #3, I felt like I was searching for that little soul to unite with his family.

@daniellemybelle: I wouldn't say I felt necessarily incomplete but I felt like when I watched dd playing by herself sometimes I felt like she needed a sibling to play with, argue with, etc. That feeling grew the longer we were ttc. Edit, I guess in a way that's feeling incomplete. But it wasn't in a way where we were just waiting for a predestined someone, if that makes sense.

Like @Mrs. Bee, I don't feel our family is "incomplete" with just us two and our 5-month old son. I do, however, want him to have a playmate close in age. My brother and I were best friends for years, and are 2 yrs apart. I also want more kid(s) because I love being a mom, and I really love the baby/newborn stage. I didn't enjoy being pregnant (MS well into 2nd semester), but I enjoyed giving birth, and the wonder of having a child. Q has been such a wonderful, happy baby, that I could almost see having 3 or 4 kids! So, though not "incomplete," I'd feel sad if he were my only child.

@mrs. wagon: I am the same. I don't think our family feels unhappy with just one but to me it feels incomplete because I feel like I was meant to have multiple children.

I definitely had the incomplete feeling after number two. I knew we'd have more and felt nostalgic while packing away my maternity clothes thinking about my next pregnancy.

It does feel like someone (or more than one someone) is missing, or not here yet.

@mrs. wagon: Same.

We always knew we wanted two, so even while we were perfectly happy with one, we knew we weren't done. Now that we have two, I sometimes think about having a third, but know that we're done at two. But I never felt like someone was "missing" when we just had our first. I just knew we weren't done having kids yet.

@Mae: totally agree. Right now LO is 7 months, and I always thought I'd have 3 kiddos... but its so challenging with just one LO. I don't ever want to be pregnant again or deal with a newborn!

My 1st two are only 20 months apart and I knew we would have at least 2 so at that point I never thought about being incomplete.

Now I have two and I can 100% say I feel incomplete. I feel like I have another baby out there. My family feels like it's missing a person.

we don't feel incomplete with R only, but we never questioned that we'd have more than 1. DD2 will be here in 2 months and we're planning on having 3 total, so we'll see if it's a feeling of missing someone or just what the plan is. for us, 3 kids + 2 parents equals a family because that's what we both grew up with!

My LO is almost 14mo, and I feel the incomplete feeling so strongly since about 8-9mo. I can't even go there mentally of not having one more child. Sometimes I'll mention the perks of if we only had one child, but my heart knows it's a lie and that I just cannot imagine our family not growing. We want to have another asap, and have everyone here. I love the idea that if we have another soon, they will have all the same memories growing up since they won't remember anything else.

I feel exhausted and like I can barely keep up with our son. And pregnancy was terrible for me. But DH and I KNOW there is another little person out there for us, so we're sucking it up. No idea if our second will be natural or adopted, but DH wants to try for a natural child first, so we will need to get the ball rolling soon since adoptions can take several years on their own!

Not at all. Quite the opposite actually.

It doesn't feel incomplete. It feels right with one. I'd like her to have a sibling but I wouldn't feel any less complete if we didn't have another.

Yes, it feels incomplete. When I picture us in the future I always see another soul with us, which is why we will have a 2nd even though I am terrified of 2

If I'm being brutally honest, I don't think I'll feel complete until I have a daughter. However, DH feels plenty complete with just our boys. So I may have to just wait until I have a DIL and make sure I'm an awesome MIL, haha!

I always imagined I'd have 2 kids so I don't feel like my family is complete yet, but I also don't feel like anyone is missing. We decided to start TTC again even though I don't feel 100% ready and let fate take it's course. If we have another, great, if for some reason we couldn't then I'd feel blessed just to have LO

Nope, never. Actually, when it was just my husband son and I, my family felt very complete and perfect. He was an only for 7 years. I just knew I wanted more kids (3 was always my number) and the time was finally right when we got pregnant with F, then later A.