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I didn't expect to have morning sickness right the way through and whilst that was tough I didn't think I couldn't do that again. Whilst not technically pregnancy, labour made me reconsider having more for about a week and after that I'd forgotten about it all!

Yes. Having a baby at 25 weeks (labor at 23) made me decide to never do it again! I couldn't know that it was a possibility, especially without knowing exactly why it happened.

My mom said she didn't want another after having terrible HG with me. She finally changed her mind and had my sister 7 years later.

A hard pregnancy plus a hard L&D was enough for me to say I'm done. Just have to convince my husband

Yes; I was open to multiple children, but a really crappy/hard pregnancy and rough infanthood really changed my mind. LO is 19 months and a very, very easy and sweet toddler, but I've never once had baby fever.

I don't know if my pregnancy would be considered rough - I had terrible morning sickness until 20 weeks, spotting from 13-26 weeks, and then was stressed pretty much from 28 weeks that there was something wrong and the baby wasn't growing right. I had appointments and ultrasounds 3x a week for the last several weeks. It was scary but everything turned out fine and I was ready to get pregnant again like when we got home from the hospital. I know so many people have it worse and if I was in constant pain or on bed rest or had a bad outcome then maybe my answer would change.

Yes. My pregnancy was all over awful...the only easy part was surprisingly the delivery. Part of me wonders if it was a really tough pregnancy because it was twins and a singleton would be easier for me, but, I'm not sure I'd be willing to risk it. Plus, they're 10 weeks now and haven't been particularly easy.

I can totally understand. I was worried my whole pregnanccy with Lorelei, and I still tend to view her as very fragile (crazy). When she was first born she came up as a potential positive for an endocrine disorder on a blood screen. We were also asked if we had any strange blood disorders because her red blood cells were basically self-destructing. Everything turned out fine, but I still have this sense that I'm getting her on borrowed time. I can certainly see not wanting to go through certain things again.

Being so incredibly sick with my first made me strongly consider being 1 and done, even though I always wanted 2, maybe 3. I decided that I could handle it one more time, and it's been so rough, I am done. I simply can't handle another extremely ill pregnancy involving IV hydration, vomiting multiple times per day, and being unable to care for myself or my family. It sucks that even though I will be happy with 2, the decision not to have 3 is resting solely on how sick I get.

@Mrs Green Grass: I hear ya about the "why" it happened....I had LO unexpectedly at 30 wks...had a perfect, normal preganancy and they can't tell me what happened...makes me nervous to have another (even though I really want to!)...I did NICU for 57 days...don't think I can do that again...and with a toddler...oy!

With my first I went into preterm labor at 30 weeks and was in the hospital on bed rest and then home on bed rest for 7 weeks. The constant fear of losing my child or have a super preemie was bad. It's what had caused us to hold off on baby 2 for awhile. We are TTC again next month and LO will be 21 months then. I'm petrified of another difficult pregnancy and bed rest with a toddler. If I do have complications again, we are done after 2.

I had pretty bad morning sickness, throwing up daily and then some for like 15 weeks. And thought I was going to die of chill after my csec. Didn't think I'd want to get pregnant again, but here I am, in week 7 with my 3rd baby. I do feel like I'm done now but we shall see. Lol.

@tequiero21: wow I didn't know. Congrats!

I had extreme morning sickness and threw up every day of my pregnancy, including in the delivery room while in labor. Sometimes I would throw up as much as 10 times a day! I also got kidney stones twice. This and some other (mostly hormone related) factors caused me to be diagnosed with antenatal depression - it's basically the same thing as postpartum, but happens during the pregnancy instead of after. It was awful and I really thought that I might not have another child, because I was just a total wreck and I didn't think I could go through it again.

I changed my mind surprisingly quickly once I wasn't pregnant anymore. I had an emergency c-section that I thankfully recovered from quickly, and once I delivered it was like the switch was just flipped - I wasn't depressed, I wasn't sick, and I pretty quickly decided that I did want another child. We're TTC now and I just pray that my second pregnancy isn't like my first!

I do think it might have been different if there had ever been a legitimate threat to my baby's health - as many problems as I had, thankfully my baby remained healthy and safe through all of them.

@Mae: I think I'm in the same boat as you. I haven't had anything go seriously wrong, but I have found this pregnancy much more taxing on me physically and emotionally than I had ever expected. I will "put myself through" another pregnancy because we'd like this child to have a sibling but we're definitely two and through.

@BabyBruins: what?! Yay, congrats!

Not sure. We struggled with infertility for two years, and I definitely prayed a lot, and promised I would do anything if God/The universe would just let me have one child. We were lucky in that this time we didn't need too much intervention but it was emotionally/financially/physically draining, and I just from that I'm not sure that I could go through it again.

Then, when I was pregnant, I got a kidney infection early on and was on bed rest for a week, then got morning sickness so bad I threw up every time I stood up for three weeks. My growing uterus cut off a nerve to my leg, so I had pins and needles in my left leg from week 12 to the end of my pregnancy. Our anatomy scan showed a likelihood that LO's stomach was missing or too small to measure and they couldn't get me in to redo the ultrasound until after I was 25 weeks pregnant, and didn't think to mention that it wasn't a death sentence... It turned out to be an error on the part of the tech but was terrifying. Then I got GD and had to use insulin injections to control it.

But I think if I ever had the opportunity to be pregnant again, I would do it over, but will likely be more "if it happens for us, it happens" not chasing it by any means necessary again.

With my first pregnancy, I had terrible morning sickness (more like all-day sickness) for 16 weeks. Then, I had 3rd trimester bleeding. I was on home bed rest for a week, but when I started bleeding at home, I was placed on hospital bed rest at 32 weeks. It was tough being in the hospital for 5 to 6 weeks, especially since it was the holidays (Thanksgiving, my birthday, Christmas and New Year's). I wasn't able to leave my room at all, except if my DH was there to push me around in a wheelchair. Luckily, I was able to use the bathroom on my own. I had heard that some other women were on strict bed rest in the hospital and had to use a bed pan. Fortunately, I delivered at 37 weeks, and DS is healthy.

At around 2 years old, I felt baby fever again. I know each pregnancy is different. I'm actually 29 weeks pregnant now. I did experience the same morning sickness, and some intermittent bleeding during my first and second trimester. Third trimester looks good so far (knock on wood).

I had extreme morning sickness/food aversions and severe anemia and was totally exhausted throughout my pregnancy, and previously we had discussed having 4. During the hellish pregnancy if my husband brought up another I would be like -ohmygodneveragain. But literally the first morning of her life I was like totally good to go for a second.

All things considered my pregnancy was on the milder side of rough (no appetite at all all the way through, lost a lot of weight that I struggled to put back on, threw up all the way through until minutes before he was born, lots and lots of pain when I (or he) moved, especially as I got big) but it still took months after he was born before I would even consider the idea of doing it again someday.