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I wonder if this is because long-term relationships outside of marriage are becoming more generally accepted (so that the people who do commit via marriage are more divorce-proof). I also wonder what the marriage rates (per capita) in the US are doing...and maybe that would, at least in part, validate my suspicion.

Married 8 years and loving it! None of my close friends have divorced.

Are people getting married at an older age? I would think that would play a big part!
I have been married 9 years

DH was divorced
SIL was divorced
BIL was divorced
BFF was divorced
Friend was divorced

BFF and my friend both married young and then realized it was a mistake - both are remarried and much happier!

I wonder if they are including same sex marriages in their analysis....I read that same sex couples tend to stay together longer.

We'll be married 7 years in 2015.

@FliegepilzHut: That was going to be my comment, too!

I only have one friend who's been divorced--her husband decided he wanted kids and she still didn't, so that was a dealbreaker. I know "of" people who have gotten divorced, but they aren't friends necessarily.

We're on our 5th year.

Everyone I know got married late, like late 20s and early 30s. Perhaps that helps?

I was just thinking about this while catching up on Parenthood last night (i'm a few weeks behind but the episode centered around divorce). I think getting married later and having kids later make a HUGE difference. I do have a few friends that have divorced, but in almost every case, they married young. And a lot of the older divorcees that i know got married very young because that was way more common when they were younger.

There are probably a lot less shot gun weddings, also.

That is definitely encouraging! I'm only 26 so most people I know are newly married, but I know 3 divorced people from my highschool class.

I wonder if it's because of the economy. I know a lot of acquaintances that are separated but cannot afford the divorce process. However, it is an encouraging trend to see the numbers go down and hopefully healthy marriages and families.

I've been married 7 years. No close friends or siblings on either side divorced.

DH and I have been married for just over 3 years now, and none of our friends have gotten divorced.

Although both of our parents are divorced. (my parents are technically back together, they just never remarried)

That's great news! I think the feminist movement at first lead to high divorce rates as women were empowered and could speak up and have financial freedom to split. And some unhappiness prob resulted as traditional roles were up for debate. But I think now both partners are more likely to take the time to figure out what they want in life and don't feel the pressure to get married straight after leaving their parents abode.

We've been married 5 years. I don't have any close friends that have gotten divorced. The FB friends that I know who have gotten divorced seem like it's mainly been in the first year or two.

I think less people overall getting married and people not being able to afford a divorce and simply living separately might have someone to do with it....

I know several people who live apart from their spouse because they can't afford to do a divorce. I also know several people who are divorced, one girl is my age and has already been divorced twice. But that could be because she wants a wedding and babies more than she wants a marriage

@yoursilverlining: I agree.

I guess I am not putting too much stock in this. But, if rates really do go down I wonder if it has to do with how high the rates climbed with no fault divorce introduced, and a fallout from that. In other words, pretty much everyone I know has divorced parents so they approached marriage differently in our own time. Living together first, finishing college first, and also living different places first, being exposed to more first, also increased access to birth control. Theories.

I'm from the south, where everyone I know gets married either at 18 (after high school), 21 (after college), or 24/25 (after grad school). None of my friends are divorced, and I think that's especially awesome for the ones that got married right after high school! We got married after grad school at 24/25 and are right at 3 years going strong!

None of our friends are divorced. But all my friends married in their late 20's to 30's, have graduate degrees for the most part. We're in our sixth year of marriage.

In my family, there had never been a divorce as far back as I can trace (sometimes into the 1700's), then in a 5 year span, 3 relatives divorced. I don't anticipate that there will be any more though!

I feel like pre-marriage counseling and awareness of the history of failed marriages have made an impact on divorce rates. We're all looking for the relationship that will last... And we're more willing to be single if we can't find it. I didn't get married til I was 38.

We've been married 5 years. I don't know anyone that's been divorced, but we're still relatively young and many of my friends have only been married 2-3 years so only time will tell. Right now I can't imagine many of them getting divorced though.

Maybe the divorce rates are down because the economy has been down? Some people can't afford to divorce. I feel like there has to be a correlation there.

We have been married almost 9 years.

The divorce rate in our friend group is very low so far. We've been married the longest though ... so I guess we'll see how it all plays out. Hope everyone lasts!

We have been married 3 years. I only know one of my peers who has been divorced. Although we are not close friends.

I have more aunts and uncles who have been divorced, or people in their age group, thank anyone in my age group so far.

Hmm...none of my close friends are divorced, but a lot of them are in their early 30's and still not married. DH has 1 friend that just got divorced last year (and he doesn't have any unmarried friends left).

My family is another story. I have 3 siblings who have been divorced, some even more than once! Every single one of them got married at 19-20 and all 3 were married 8-12 years before divorcing. I think in all of their cases, they just married too young and in haste--before they were grown up and before their spouses were grown up and they made a lot of stupid financial decisions and had kids in those years too, and all of those things stress a marriage. I'd imagine it's not easy to be 20-21 and married with a kid, with both people not college educated and working crap jobs, and money is tight and you have so much responsibility. Not an easy recipe for success.

My parents were uber religious and really pushed my older siblings into marriage as soon as they had a serious bf/gf because sex before marriage is such a sin. And that backfired so spectacularly that I never heard a peep about my many boyfriends and never heard a negative word about waiting until I was 32 to settle down. One of the benefits of being a 5th child.

DH and I are coming up on 4 years - we married when I was 23 and he was 27. He was one of the last of his friends to marry, and I was the first of my group. In his side of the family, only his parents and step-sister are divorced. On my side, my parents are the only ones still married! None of our friends are divorced, but being in our later 20s/early 30s that's probably not surprising.

All the couples in our families who have divorced married young and/or dealt with infidelity or substance abuse issues. Those that have stayed together are the ones with higher education and are the most devout Catholics. So I think it's a combination of all those factors - age, lifestyle, education (and corresponding income), and religious beliefs.