One of my dear friends is starting a trial separation with her husband this month. She's looking for a supportive community of other newly divorced moms, in real life and also online. If anyone knows of such a place online, could you please send me the info? I'd love for her find her a place with the same warmth and sense of community as HB.
And, if you have any other advice about ways I can offer support, that would be wonderful too. 
Thanks!
pear / 1703 posts
I'm sorry for your friend
What a blessing that she has someone like you on her side. I don't know of any online forums but in our city, and probably most, there are these meetup groups. Like minded people plan get togethers and in the case of divorce and newly single parents, they offer support from others who are experiencing the same. Maybe Google your city + meetup + single parents
As far as support from you, lots of texts and calls to check up on her and if you live nearby then try and plan play dates together? Divorce can be very isolating and your whole world is turned upside down so maintaining connections with friends is really helpful.
Best of luck to her.
pear / 1718 posts
@Autumnmama79: That is a great suggestion. I'll try to search for a local meetup group.
We've been having a lot of playdates and also getting together for a glass of wine after the kids are asleep once each week. You are totally right about the feelings of isolation. I really want her to stay a bit busy, so she doesn't feel lonely each night in the quiet house.
Thanks for the advice!
apricot / 452 posts
@QueensBee: I don't know of any in-person groups or anything (I'm looking myself), but as someone who is also going through a painful divorce, just having friends who invite you out or over or come over to hang out is invaluable. Making sure your friend feels loved and supported and like she's still a fun person. I joined some closed divorce groups on FB, but have yet to post since I'm still in the process of my divorce and am afraid that my ex or someone he knows might join groups like that to spy and report back to him (paranoid, I'm sure, but better safe than sorry!!).
At the risk of outing myself, the FB groups I joined are: "Divorced & Single Moms Support Group" and "Divorce 101 - Support, Recovery, Parenting & Resources". There are lots of others, but the titles of those appealed to me, and so far the people in the groups are wonderfully supportive of each other, and I've gotten some good info from them.
You're a good friend!
apricot / 452 posts
@snowjewelz: Thanks It's been painful to go from TTC / IF to blindsided by divorce. I'm still following the girls in my 6+ mo & IVF boards, but it feels weird to be on HB and no longer a TTCer or wife. I'm not sure where I fit anymore.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
@ballerinabee: I am so so so sorry 
I know for sure that this community will still have their arms wide open for you! You also have another LO right?
apricot / 452 posts
@snowjewelz: I have a 4 yo son and had stepsons who are 11 & 13. We had been trying for another baby for over 2 years and were a month away from our first IVF when DH left.
@QueensBee: I am so sorry, I didn't mean to threadjack! Eep.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
@QueensBee: Me either!! Just saw her post and wanted to send her some love
@ballerinabee: 
In order not to further thread jack.. Wall me if you want to talk about anything!!
pear / 1718 posts
@snowjewelz: @ballerinabee: No need to apologize! Glad the thread helped you two connect!
@ballerinabee: Thank you for reaching out and opening up about your own experiences. I'm so sorry that you are also in the middle of this painful experience. I will definitely mention those FB groups to her. And I'll continue to plan activities to keep her busy. We are trying to plan a little moms getaway at the end of the month so she'll have something to look forward to.
And I'm sending you some love too during this difficult time!
pomegranate / 3398 posts
@ballerinabee: Oh honey I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I've been divorced over 10 years now. I had a 14month old at the time. I've been in your shoes.
I am here if you'd like to talk. Please don't hesitate to wall me.
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