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@babyjmama: they tell me the opposite:(

It's sad because we will be TTC this summer. They're like "you don't want 2. Trust me. Just wait! Not fun..."
Um, really?

As women in our fertile years, we will never do anything how we are 'supposed' to. Babies too soon. Waiting too long. Not getting KU on your honeymoon. Not washing floors right. Like WTF?

Haha! Yes! Usually it's not to have them too close together, except for my mom, who after I said that we'd shoot for 2 years apart, said "well at most" (seemed so horrified that they'd be a whole 2 years apart). Weird.

Yes! Once J turned one, everyone and their mama came out of the woodwork to tell me I needed to have my kids close together. I was pretty set on waiting (4-5 year age difference) and people's mouths would fall open when they heard that. Turns out my kids will be about 26 months apart BUT STILL! People are so nosey!

I've heard comments on both ends of the spectrum...need to have them close/soon, need to wait so many years between.

My mom was the worst! She has pretty strong feelings that you need to wait at least 2 years between having a baby and getting pregnant for your body. Anytime I would meantion a friend was TTC again she would go off on a tangent about how they need to wait 2 years between. I ended up getting a BFP ~2 mo before DS turned 2. Luckily it was close enough that she has laid off those comments.

@babyjmama: I hate that people think they have the right to comment on my family plans! I can't believe how many people tell me "you can't have just one!" Or "you have to have another!" Ugh. I don't have to do anything, people!! Mind yer beeswax...

Yes! After Vi's difficult birth we decided to wait 3-4 years for #2. A few people have already (!) started asking when we plan to start trying for #2 and when we say "maybe in three years" they flip out!
Seriously, why do people care so much about other people's family planning?!

People have asked me when we are going to try for #2. Um, once I forget about the horrible newborn moments. I really want to say I didn't tell you when we're trying for R so what makes you think I am I am going to tell you this next time!!

@Mrs. Pen: whattt I'm a third and have never heard or felt that!

@Smurfette: ha I think the same thing. We didn't even tell our parents until we got pregnant last time and will probably do the same again

@scg00387: my mom has 3 (biological, she later remarried and got 3 more). People always asked us, "OK-who is the jealous one? the spoiled one?" Because there are three...so you've got the oldest (favorite, independent ) middle (jealous, middle child) and youngest (spoiled). People said it ALL THE TIME. Ugh...

people were constantly asking when we were going to try for #2, almost immediately after DS was born. most would say 'don't wait too long!!' or 'the closer in age, the better!' THEN when I got pregnant with #2 when DS was 6 months old(surprise!) I got the 'OMG! was that on purpose! wow, you guys are going to have your hands full!!!!' make up your minds people!!!! lol