I do, especially with the in laws. But I try not to be a baby about it.
How do you handle feeling left out?
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That's kind of mean.....I would feel left out, too. But maybe it's because they knew you didn't have a sitter?
My MIL and SILs always do fun stuff together and I rarely am invited along (unless my husband also goes) even though my father and brothers include my husband in pretty much every invite. I feel sad about it sometimes.
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@winniebee: they only went out to dinner and it was petty early, so it totally would have been appropriate to bring LO.
I feel like my BIL's gf has made it her personal goal to leave me out of almost all social situations. I try to be the bigger person and not let it get to me but it's so hard!
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Yes, I too get offended when I'm left out. But I have to say I'm just as guilty of forgetting to include people when making plans so I try to remind myself of that. I wish I was one of those people who didn't care when not included in everything but I'm not. I deal with it by keeping myself busy!
That's rude that the ladies didn't invite you last night. I would be hurt, for sure
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I don't have any advice, but just wanted to say I'm sorry
That must be hard. Do you think your DH could mention something to his mom? Like not say that you're upset, but just suggest that next time they go out maybe they could invite you?
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Sometimes I feel left out when our friends make plans and forget to include us. But we're such homebodies, so I can't necessarily blame them!
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I feel left out sometimes when friends neglect to invite us out places. It used to be worse, but now since I don't have very many friends in town I don't have the expectation to be included in things.
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@lawbee11: I think he will say something to her. They said the reason they went out was because their "men" were out of town, but what the heck? My man is out of town with them! I feel like it was purposeful exclusion. It is not like they could have, forgotten.""
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: That happens to me quite a bit so I completely understand how you feel. I'm sorry you have to deal with it. I don't have any advice, just like to commiserate with you.
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I feel left out sometimes since we moved to the burbs and most of my friends live in the city. But I think it's part of life! I try to be social when the opportunity comes along.
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yes. especially when DH's family sits with me and then starts speaking in a language i don't speak even though they could just speak english so i could participate, but no. once in awhile, they may stop and update me as to what they are talking about, but then they all continue on & i'm expected to still sit there and listen like i know what's going on. they'll speak in english when reminding me that i haven't made a baby for them yet... in case i needed a reminder.
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Oh yes. Mil always post pictures out having dinner with her daughters. She doesnt invite DH nor myself.
I think she has seen DD about 5 times since she has been born (3 of those is because we called her.) DD is now 7 months and she lives within 15 minutes from us and works about 5 minutes away from where we live. -
Once during Christmas week we were stuck in my DH's home state at his Mom's house for a week longer than we had planned. We ended up joining his brother (who is married with a baby) across the state on a preplanned trip to stay with their Dad and step mom. We found out that even though they had 'celebrated' Christmas with us already at DH's Mom's house, they had planned a whole separate Christmas for my BIL's family with tons of extra presents! We just sat there staring while they opened them all in front of us and I felt so mortified. I wasn't upset about missing out, but I felt so bad for DH that his Dad would do that
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Yes, I do. So I know how it feels and I'm sorry you're feeling that way.
In my case, it's with my neighborhood moms group. I feel like everyone kind of went off in their cliques and they plan things together, but I just haven't managed to make a connection with anyone. It really sucks.
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In my younger years, I definitely could feel left out. But I've made a conscious decision to not take possible snubs personally...
And a weird thing happened... I stopped getting snubbed. Either that or I stopped recognizing that I got snubbed. I think, though, that when I let go of the defensiveness people became more inclusive. Pretty cool, huh?!
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Maybe I am oblivious, but I haven't felt snubbed in a long time.
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I feel left out sometimes. Especially when the BIL & his wife are in town. They always meet up with SIL & her husband for coffee, football games, to go out to eat, shop whatever and have included us once in four years. I'm pretty sure its because my MIL said something to them. Then again his siblings are 15 & 20 years older then us, so I take that into consideration as well. Different times different lives.
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I do with my friends. I'm the only one with a lo so I understand why I'm not included.... they go out late and its past my lo's bed time and they don't do baby friendly things. But I see pictures of them all on facebook and it makes me sad that I'm never there.
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