I don't really ever feel lonely these days... I think though that if I didn't have the Internet, I'd feel more isolated!
Also, having kids helps with loneliness!
Do you ever feel lonely? How do you manage those feelings?
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I don't know if I would call it lonely but sometimes I miss my friends!
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Yeah I don't like being alone, so when DH isn't around I get lonely. I usually distract myself with TV and Internet, and I call my mom to chat!
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I do. I'm not good at being isolated, and while I've been on leave I haven't interacted much with other people. I have 2 friends who've helped me, and of course I seem to live for DH coming home, even when I'm resentful and grumpy towards him.
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Yes. When I feel like there isn't a *soft place to land* with regard to transitioning into motherhood, I feel lonely. HB is a huuuge help (!), but sometimes (pretending to) keep(ing) it all together can be a lonely prospect.
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Yes. Always.
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@MsLipGloss: I have a hard time with the pretending. The more sleep deprived I get, the more melt-downs I have.
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Yep! All the time. I am especially this week since DH is traveling and I am home alone at night. I could call girlfriends for dinner but after the gym I am just tired and I have to pack.
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@MaisyMay: I have had a few meltdowns, although most of them have been in private (a couple in front of DH). I resent the pretending because it is solely for the benefit of people who seem to be unable to grasp the concept that at least for right now, that my (emotional) needs trump theirs, and that I need to take care of myself before I can take care of anyone else.
In so many ways I think people miss the mark in terms of what needs to happen pp . . . there is so much emphasis placed on the baby that nobody *mothers the mother,* and that she is left to fend for herself.
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@smurfette: same here this week! it's lonely being home alone at night with an infant, right? DH is gone for a week (and over the weekend, UGH) and I'm just not a phone talker.
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Sometimes. I was lonely a lot when my DH and I first moved to Texas. His work schedule and my school schedule would overlap, so we were never home at the same time. I finally got used to being by myself so I wasn't as lonely.
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@Buffalove: I'm not a phone talker either . . . it's one thing to talk to DH on the phone, but with anyone else, it just feels like I have to re-live the loneliness to explain it, which just seems to amplify the loneliness (if that makes sense).
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I get lonely during the day when DH is at work, because I have no one to talk to. I would die without the internet though! I feel connected with it.
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I am missing having a good close friend that I can chat with. Not even necessarily on the phone, but even via email. I just feel like a lot of my IRL friends aren't on the same parenting page/life page and/or would judge things I want to vent about.
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