I feel like I've lived a pretty lucky life and things have come fairly easily for me...
I often wonder if anyone really deserves to be this lucky and when the tide is going to turn for me.
Does anyone else think this? Or am I a nut? 
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All the time...
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@JennyPenny:
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Yes. Last year we were pretty unlucky. With S and the apartment/house issues and other things going on, we were feeling pretty awful. 2013 was just bad all around for us.
Just this past month, I have the new house, the baby and DH just found us a really nice vehicle...and everything has been so wonderful lately that I'm waiting for the bad luck to come. I hope it doesn't though!
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@Dandelion: I feel like if your lucked turned around, that would be cruelly unfair of the universe. You've already been through enough downs! I hope your luck stays because you totally deserve all the happiness you have now!
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Yes!
Lately I feel the opposite, when are we going to have some good luck!
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I think I'm very unlucky.
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@Smurfette: I guess everyone wonders about their luck whether it's good at the moment or bad!
@littlek:
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@Adira: Oh it's okay. I'm very lucky to be healthy, have a great husband and be extremely financially sound. But I never win stuff. My husband is VERY lucky, he wins stuff all the time. He won me a signed Michael Kors purse, he wins NCAA tourneys with large payouts, etc.
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@littlek: Oh, haha, that's a different kind of luck I think! I never win stuff either, but I feel lucky in life (good, healthy family, healthy child, good job, etc)!
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@Adira: Oh, I thought you were talking about
. I'm very lucky, especially when I see the struggles of my brother and others.
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..sort of? I mean I think it is natural when things are good to wonder when the other shoe is going to drop. But at the same time-- what are you going to do about it? I just use that thought to remember to be grateful for what I have. Things will either continue to be good or they won't, but I don't want to waste any energy when things are good by stressing out about what may come.
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I'm very lucky. We don't have much money at all, don't live in a brand new house, can't go on vacations and buy what we want when we want, but we are healthy, we have a roof over our head, a healthy marriage and our kids are awesome. Even when things do go wrong I think how lucky we are that it's not something worse.
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I feel so very lucky....I can't complain.
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Everyday I wonder how I became so lucky, what I did to deserve it and when it will run out! Other people may look at my life and not understand, but I feel so blessed to have what I do.
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We have good streaks and bad. Late last year was pretty bad. It's been good since. I have a very healthy family and nice family and friends so consider myself very lucky in that regard. I also think in terms of job and finances we are not lucky - we both have worked extremely hard in life and deserve whatever good fortune comes our way (does that sound bad?)
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@winniebee: I agree with that too. I don't think we are were we are financially based on luck. It's due to DH working his butt of and all the years of schooling paying off for both of us.
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I don't really believe in luck...I mean, I have done certain things to set myself up for the future, but at the same time, I've made some not so great decisions.
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@winniebee: Just my 2cents, which you're free to disagree with (lots of people do!) but personally regardless of how hard we've worked and planned (which has been a lot), I don't ever feel like we "deserve" everything we have. Lots of people work really hard and plan. It's not enough. There are a thousand things that can completely sidetrack your financial life that aren't your fault. (Company going under with no warning, serious illness, job politics, a string of bad luck with things breaking/costing money, or just the litany of friends I've had who worked really hard and yet can't find good jobs when the time comes because people just aren't hiring like they used to). I think success is always a combination of work + luck, and so I'm going to stick with gratefulness for our financial comfort because I know that lots of people have worked just as hard as us and haven't gotten some of the breaks we have (right job at the right time, being able to buy at the bottom of the market, etc)
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I believe a lot has to do with how you look at things. Here's some examples ('cause I suck at explaining
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- My DH fell of a mountain side --> I guess you could see this and the damage it did to his arm (it was broken 3 ways and his hand was limp for over 6m) as him being unlucky, I like to see it as he was so lucky he came out alive
- I was diagnosed with lots of "weird" things in my life (one of them being celiac disease) --> I could be pretty bummed about it, but I'm just happy it is nothing worse/life threatening and it was diagnosed really early -
Not even a little bit- I have horrible luck! I have had a really hard life... however it oscillates with very good luck so I get by
I have also had a really amazing life. .. so...
But I have been through so much!!!!!!!
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@Mae: I think you're right to a certain extent but I hate it when people say we are so lucky because my husband is a doctor. There have been so many years of self sacrifice and working insanely hard and never getting a thanks or getting paid well. So now that he's actually going to be paid well (soon!) I don't feel that that is luck. I think he deserves it. But in his life he has been very lucky to have been able to pursue his dream. And I am very grateful for the way that things turned out.
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@Mae: I agree with you. I've worked really hard in school, college, internships, and my job to get where I am today in my career, but I also think I was really lucky. The job market happened to be booming for software engineers when I graduated college and I just got lucky to be assigned good projects at my company that I've enjoyed and got me where I am today. Yes, I work my butt off, but some of it is definitely luck, in my opinion!
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I feel like that ALL. THE. TIME. When things are going well I worry when the bad stuff is going to happen. But I think that has more to do with my crazy anxiety than anything else.
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I was just thinking this yesterday! I am so blessed with two healthy children, a supportive, giving husband, a good career, etc. I have definitely had "down" times in my life (nothing majorly traumatic though) and I wonder if/when it will swing back in that direction or worse. I wish I could freeze this point in time!
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This is a two edge sword for me. DH and I are very lucky to have found each other and to have a healthy child with another on the way. We have a roof over our heads and food on the table.
But yet we have also been through a lot with our families. My father's death when I was young, my husband finding BIL dead, MIL dealing with cancer. sometimes I wonder if this is is this the universe 's cruel way of making us pay for having found each other.We do ask ourselves often when is the shit ever going to stop piling on. But yet we are also very blessed in many ways.
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@winniebee: Right. I mean I think it is (almost) always both. Very few people are very successful without any hard work. But I also think very few people are very successful without an element of luck. I think its just an issue that always stands out to me because I have some wealthy family members who love to spout off about how anyone who doesn't have money is lazy/etc and it's their own fault because anyone willing to work hard could be wealthy. I just don't think that is true, and I don't think lack of financial security is a character flaw (or always the symptom of a character flaw). Everyone is dealt a different set of cards and hard work is definitely necessary but I'm grateful that the cards I was dealt had some advantages that a lot of people don't have (even things as "simple" as having parents who really valued education and told me from the time I was a child I was going to college-- lots of people don't have that support!)
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@Mae: @winniebee: luck has a lot to do with it. What if you (heaven forbid) suffered a disability for example, let alone the reality that you were lucky enough to be born into a situation that supported you in meeting your goals if only by some financial force aiding you in your ability to attend school in the first place. To me saying luck doesn't play a part in finances is not very different than someone saying something along the lines of, "I'm not lucky in love, I work hard not to be divorced." While that may be true, the nature of the sentiment is inaccurate because there are many factors beyond control in finances, in relationships, in many things.
I understand feeling like you deserve it when you have worked hard and it has payed off for you, but there isn't necessarily a correlation. Lots of people work hard and are smart and have bad luck that does negatively effect them.
@Mae: totally agree!
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@Mae: I agree with you. Hard work is definitely involved. But we all don't begin life in the same spot. Some of us have supportive families who gave us a huge boost in life. Others had to find their own way. I can't stand when people who had everything aligned for them just choose not to take advantage of the opportunities they were given in life. The most impressive people are those who overcome their circumstances through hardwork and a little luck
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I think this a lot, and sometimes can't really "enjoy" life when things are great because I start to get anxious about when the tide will turn
I'm a nutjob. @Mae: totally agree with you. Sometimes I feel like the only reason I was successful in life is because I have an amazing, supportive mom who valued education and her kids over everything else. Totally luck of the draw who I was born to, and if I hadn't been lucky enough to be born to her, there's no way I would have this life.
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@winniebee: I totally get where you're coming from. My husband and I often hear that we are lucky to be in the financial situation that we are, and we feel that it's not luck, it's hard work that got us where we are today. That doesn't mean we aren't grateful that we were put in a situation where our hard work paid off for us, it just means that we don't appreciate our work being marginalized to just "good luck".
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I don't really believe in luck/karma. However, I do sometimes feel like things are just way too good in my life. I think that is more an attitude thing though... some people don't have it too bad but they only focus on the negatives. Bad things have happened to me and those close to me, but I count my blessings.
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I feel lucky sometimes and unlucky at others. But, for the most part I am a lucky lady
But I never win anything lol.But seriously, we are not well off but we can pay our bills, I have some health issues but nothing detrimental, we are pregnant with our first child and even though we have had some complications LO is looking healthy and active. I got into grad school when I had my doubts. DH is looking for a better job and isn't having good luck there, but at least he is currently employed and I have a job, too... even though I've been out for almost 2 months with the pregnancy complications. I take the good with the bad and just try to learn from it. We are healthy, happy and have each other.
Sorry for the novel, I think I needed to see this to kind of recenter myself. Thanks for the insightful question!
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Right now, I see myself as extremely lucky. We have a beautiful son and a great little family of 3. Our extended family is currently healthy, we're healthy, we are financially sound and have great prospects for the future in our finances. I'm definitely feeling very blessed. I'm afraid of messing it up!!
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I used to be the kind of person who waited for the other shoe to drop until I realized that it was such a pessimistic way of approaching life. Now I just feel lucky to have what I have.
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Oh my gosh, yes all the time! I grew up poor, no health insurance and at one point, my dad and I dumpster dived for food. We washed our clothes by hand and line dried (I hate line dried clothes--too crunchy).
I graduated from college and own a condo with my loving husband in a wonderful town. I HAVE HEALTH INSURANCE!! I go to the dentist twice a year, I receive wonderful prenatal care, I make enough to save up for 401K, I'm able to go out to eat at restaurants on a regular basis. We have our health **knock on wood**.
I'm terrified that something will happen and my children will have to grow up the way I did.
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I feel really fortunate with my life. We do pretty well financially, we have a wonderful little boy, and our marriage is one of the strongest I know. But life hasn't always been easy and I guess I figure that karmically, I've paid a lot dues so I'm not waiting for the other shoe to fall.
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I think we all go through good times/years and bad but a lot of it is attitude. I feel pretty lucky overall, like my life has worked out pretty well. But I could list a lot of negatives if I wanted to - husband laid off for 2 years right after we got married, infertility 2x, lost my father at 19, things like that. But aside from the infertility round two I feel like we're in a great place right now - have a healthy LO, financially in a good place, DH has a new job that gives us more financial freedom, found a house we love, etc.
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Yes I think this often. I have had a pretty easy life. I do think that a lot has to do with your perspective as others have said. But I have to say that in my life, everything really has worked out in the end even when things were a little rough in the middle. I've never really had to deal with a whole heck of a lot and it makes me worried that some day it will all come crashing in! Yikes!
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I do believe that life goes through cycles of good and bad. I went through a particularly bad one in my late 20s, most of which I had no control over. No matter how hard you work for things and how much you plan and dream, sometimes unseen forces can rock everything that you know.
. I'm very lucky, especially when I see the struggles of my brother and others.
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