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For the most part, yes. My in-laws are great people and I am really, really lucky. I think the trickiest part is that they already have a daughter and his mom is worried about her feeling excluded or like she's been replaced with a new daughter so we're not as close as I'd like. It seems like we can't do anything together without having to work it around my sister-in-laws schedule to make sure she's ok with things.

They're also the type that try so, so hard to not be overbearing and intrusive that they almost swing too far the other way and seem uninterested in times and we have to beg them to come over for dinner and they don't generally ask about our lives. We have to force that information on them. I think the longer we're married the better things will get. Or at least I hope so.

You know, I never really thought about that! I felt completely and wholly accepted by my SO's family. My first time meeting them was at their Christmas Eve party 5 years ago, and I knew what a huge deal it was because he'd NEEVER brought a woman to meet his entire family before. I knew we were meant for each other. They loved me. And his mom has been crazzzy for a grandchild even before we got married, lol!! I wonder how that will change the dynamics!

Yes, I would say that DHs family has definitely accepted me. I was only with DH for a year when they started throwing me birthday parties and now that we're married I call them mom and dad. I am very fortunate And can only hope it will get even better after LO arrives.

Yes, I have never had any issues with his fam. He had to wait a while to be accepted by my mom. She did not want me dating a white guy but got over it after 9/11 happened (long story) and we haven't had any issues since then.

I felt accepted from the day I met them. The big kicker was when we got engaged, he gave me a family ring, the one my mil was wearing! She gave me a very sweet card to read after he proposed welcoming me to the family. Of course we're still close now that we have a baby.

In some ways yes. His mother,sister and his sisters husband (does that make him my BIL now? lol)have all been amazing right from the start, Now,a few years later, his sister,although one of my closest friends, struggles with jealousy issues (although she has never been hostile towards me) and she doesnt really like to share her mum. His FIL is...difficult. He is one of those people who Im never sure of,and Im not sure if he likes me,although he is accepting of me!Bil is one of the nicest people I know though (apart form Husband lol) and he will call me his sister and always helps out with anythiing we need. So all in all, it could be a lot worse!

Definitely! Pretty much from the day I met them. I have a Mom-in-law (not a mother-in-law), and it's hard to think of his siblings as in-laws, since we talk more than I do with my own brother. His dad is no less communicative with me than he is with my husband. His paternal grandma is sweet and spent most of last Thanksgiving holding my hand and chatting with me about her kids (she had Alzheimer's.) His maternal grandma is just plain cool (world-traveler, gardener, great cook) and basically what I want to be at her age. I haven't spent much time with his aunts and uncles, but they seemed about as accepting as my own (and half of them are more or less avoiding him and his siblings after his parents' divorce.) His cousins are AWESOME!

For the most part, no. They were not pleased with our decision to get married, even though we had been together for 4 years. I feel completely uncomfortable and awkward around them all the time. It is more than just the cultural barrier I think, but I think it plays the largest role. I'm really unsure about how things will be when we start having kids.

My husband feels totally comfortable around my family though!

By his sister, brother-in-law, and two nephews, yes.
by his parents... sometimes.

His parents are wonderful! They've always treated me like a part of the family. Even his grandmas are amazing about it!

I'm definitely accepted by my husband's father and step-mother, but his mom... not quite there yet. She's still pressuring us to have children, so I'm pretty sure that until we do, she wont' be able to accept me completely, haha.

Oh they LOVE me. and that's no understatement. His father actually thanked me for loving his son, for being there for him and for making him change his life around. He says he only has me to thank for that (well he's extremely proud of his son)

Out of all the daughter and son in laws, they've always told me that I was "normal" haha. Meaning I ROCK THAT SHIT

Yes. His Mom and his sister are two of the most caring and sweet people I have ever met. They all live quite far from us, so we don't see them all that often but we definitely got to see how welcoming they were at our wedding. It was fantastic how they all pitched in w/o being asked. I wish I lived down the street from his sister!!

Yes, definitely. My husband and I dated for 10 years and basically grew up together so his family is like my family.

Yes. I love them so much and they've always referred to me as their daughter. We started dating in high school, so they've really been a part of my life for a long time. DH and I actually lived with them for a few months until we found our house. It was a little strange, being newlyweds and all, but honestly, I felt more comfortable around his parents/family than I did my own at that point.

I am very blessed to have amazing in-laws. My MIL never thought my DH would get married so when I came into the picture she treated me like I answered her prayers. Even now years later, she thanks me for meeting her son. I've never felt so welcome in a home before and accepted by a family. It's incredible.