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HB has been good to me
So I try to pay it forward the best I can!
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@daniellemybelle: Hi!
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@brownie: I think there are a lot of people here who think it's rainbows and unicorns all day ever day. And lots of people have, in the past, mentioned that there's not enough acceptance of other view points. I think there are definitely meaner places on the internet, though...
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@Ajsmommy: Sorry no one replied to your post. Stick around, there are some really helpful people. I think the sunshine and roses is a bit exaggerated sometimes, but I'm sure your post just got lost in the shuffle.
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@IRunForFun: oh, hey there!
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Yes...when I lost S, this site was so therapeutic for me. I definitely feel supported here.
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HB is definitely supportive. In particular the Spring 2012 mamas and the Feb '14 mamas have been the most helpful for me, mainly because they are going what I'm going through at the moment.
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I love HB. Everyone here is really supportive. I really don't post as much as I used to or would like to so even though I feel like I know most people, I am not as tight with folks as I used to be or would like to be.
I do feel like IG adds a wonderful level of closeness to my bee friendships.
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This is a genuine question and not meant to be judgemental or anything: I am seriously curious--do you think having gold/not having gold makes a difference in how close-knit the community feels? I don't have gold (can't really afford it right now) and I wonder if that affects my feeling kind of like an outsider. Of course, I am also a relative lurker and don't put in nearly as much as a lot of posters do so I definitely get out what I put in, if not lots more--I have gotten lots of support and help, probably more than I deserve from being mostly a lurker and blog reader!
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Thanks to this thread I'm now craving tacos, margaritas and some candy corn, lol.
I have definitely felt supported here. Not every thread I start gets a hundred replies, but usually I get at least a few helpful responses. I feel like if you can fall in with a group of people in similar situations, then everyone supports each other. I found that to be true when I was struggling with IF, and also true with the November '13 mamas.
I think that's why you get the same people responding to the same people. The ones who "know" each other from certain threads (IF, Due date twins, sleep training, etc) tend to respond. If you're not part of that given group, it's hard to understand what's going on. But I know when a November mama starts a thread, I see 3 or 4 other November mamas respond too.
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I saw someone said margaritas. I'm in!
I think so
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@plantains: totally agree about IG, defiantly makes me feel closer to some HBers more so than others
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@ILoveLettie: It might be part of it. But I also think it depends how often you are on and how involved you get. There are many posters that post their question, and respond to that thread and don't get involved in anything else. The more you are around, the more people are going to know you.
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@blackbird: Margaritas and Tacos! Yes I'm joining too. It's five o'clock somewhere, cheers to happy hour and TGIF!
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@Smurfette: That makes sense. And then like a pp said, things like Instagram/getting to know people on sites other than Hellobee I'm sure definitely makes an impact too
Thanks for answering my ?!
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@ILoveLettie: For me, I don't feel like having Gold plays a part. I've been around forever too, but I really don't feel THAT close to many Bees... only a few, so I feel left out of the "clique" a lot, despite being very active on the site. It might be a personality thing, or maybe an external thing. I think some of the Bees have exchanged Facebooks, cell numbers, etc and maybe that makes them closer to each other than others?
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@ILoveLettie: I guess being able to see what the content of every single thread is has been nice. My personal feelings on Gold are that I haven't really noticed a difference. The content in Gold is not secret or special or pretty much any different than any other thread on HB. I think the main reason people use it is for photos. At least that's what I've noticed.
I haven't posted many Gold threads though, so maybe that's why I feel like it hasn't made much of a difference in my HB experience.
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I haven't weighed in yet. I think of Hellobee as being a supportive community as a whole. I came here after some time after a bad experience on another forum. At the time, I was following along on WB with some of my August 2012 mommies. I feel like I'm really close to some members that I've known now for a couple of years now.
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@Adira: I do think personality has something to do with it. Just like at work, there are certain people I get along with better then others. Some people get your humor and then some don't.
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@Smurfette: I also think some people are more "social" and more inclined to have LOTS of friends than others. I've always just had a few select friends in my real life and I feel like that has translated to HB as well. Even though I'm on here all the time and post a ton, I feel like I've only really gotten to know a few people really well and consider them friends. But other types of people have lots of friends and that's probably true for them both off-line and on!
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@Adira: Very good point!! I am on here all the time, but there are a handful I talk to a lot off HB. But like IRL I tend to have more quality over quantity friends.
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@plantains: I agree. I feel like I know HB families so well from IG. I look forward to my feed every morning full of beautiful babies, mommies, and daddies who I feel close to through this medium.
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@Smurfette: haha, your handful still seems like a lot to me since you're the only HBer I talk to off HB!!!
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@illumina: I agree with everything you said about the main groups.(edit).I was pregnant before the due date threads and HB in general got bigger so I don't have a huge "group" even though some are still around and I know who they are and like them, it's not the same experience I think. Hoping I make some new HB friends the next time around.
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@googly-eyes: FWIW, I love all your posts and constantly nod my head when you've commented!
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@cascademom: Me too! I adore all of the gorgeous and cute little IG faces from HB mamas (even food pics and furry friends). Hope IG is here for the long haul and free always.
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Yes! You guys are always so supportive! There are a bunch of you I want to get to 'know' better, but I
the friends I've made already!
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@Kimberlybee: I love all of the pictures from my HB IG friends. I like the food and pets ones too. Seriously, I drool at those all of the time. Sometimes I'll mention something from IG to my DH and show it to him. His best comment about my HB/IG crossover is that there's a lot of babies in my feed. I agree and love it.
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@cascademom: DH is always looking at my feed like 'who are these people?' I always say they are my HB fam:)
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@plantains: haha, that's sweet! When we had our HFM scare last weekend, I was frantically searching through my feed for @autumlove:'s pictures she posted as a reference for what to look for. I mentioned it to DH too. I love my HB IG fam.
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@MoonMoon: Well...maybe not more supported but it's been easier to forge connections since I'm going through the same things with a group of women and we're all keeping track of each other via our thread! It's just fun to feel like I'm not the only one doing this pregnancy thing -- especially since the majority of my friends had babies last year (like we did!) and no one got pregnant as quickly as I did.
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@cascademom: I agree about IG!
@petunia354: also this! I try to,pay it forward
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@Ajsmommy: Noooooo! I'm so sorry!!! If I had seen your question I would have replied, even if you say "I don't know, good luck!". I live in the UK and the time I usually post threads - kinda mid morning here - everyone else is asleep and my threads can sit there for a couple of hours before someone gives me a sympathy reply!
@ILoveLettie: I don't think Gold makes too much difference to the relationships people have, to be honest - although you do get to see pictures of people and their LOs so I maybe you do start to feel a little closer. Face to a name and all that! What made a real difference to me was hanging around here a lot more, getting involved in thread after thread, sticking my sticky beak into everything!!
You should give it a try for a little while and see how you feel then? And if it's not for you then fine!! Certainly, from now on, I will remember your name and avatar, and I will think "ooh it's Ilovelettie" whenever you comment on something!! For me - HB is a very supportive community. You guys have helped me through asking my DH to TTC, TTC, my miscarriage, pregnancy, GD, not being able to breastfeed, PPD, sleep regressions, relationship issues, work dilemmas..... you've told me when I need to seek help, you've told me when I'm being dick, you've told me when other people are being dicks to me, you've comforted and laughed with me. I have made some great friends and added several people on FB..... but my FB address is on my profile and I'm open to any new friends! Somebody even gifted me gold! I
HB.
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@.twist.: thanks! Sometimes I go back and read all the other comments and I feel like I am totally off track!
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@Cherrybee: Thank you so much for your insights. Definitely sticking my sticky beak in as much as I can from now on! *applies syrup to beak to make it extra-sticky*
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@ILoveLettie: Looks like you're gilded now!!
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@IRunForFun: I am! I feel very special...and now I get to figure out if gold makes a difference or not. Of course, if I'm purposely trying to get more involved, then that kind of makes my experiment less effective as I'm changing multiple variables...
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HB has been very supportive to me. I do get the cliquey vibes sometimes but that's anywhere I think...
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October 20123 moms such as @avivoca, @daniellemybelle, @KJpugs and others have been amazingly supportive. There are also quite a few women I relied on during our loss and IF journey. They were incredibly sweet and supportive.
So I try to pay it forward the best I can!
the friends I've made already!
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