I don't. I'm super shy. I only have a few close friends and have difficulties connecting with people IRL and online.
My husband, on the other hand, will talk to anyone and makes friends easily.
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No, I'm also shy. It's really difficult making real friends as adults!
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I'm very shy... and have been told that I come off as standoffish or snobby because I'm so shy. That makes it worse because now I'm also self conscious of seeming nice!
My husband makes friends with anybody and everybody. He is super outgoing.
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Nope, I'm pretty shy, too. Once I get talking to people, I'm ok, but I'm not good at initiating conversation at all.
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@grizz: My husband always says I come off as stand-offish! I'm not. I'm just self-conscious and never know what to say. If you approach me first, I'm quite friendly!
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@grizz: Same here. It's difficult for me to make friends and initiate conversations with people I don't know.
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Nope. I'm crazy shy and awkward. DH is the same. It's a miracle we are ever social lol.
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@rahlyrah: @grizz: me too! I'm really not snobby - just shy!
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@rahlyrah: not at all. I think my problem is I never know what to suggest doing if I want to hang out again
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@grizz: I am the same way & people have thought this about me too!
I'm not super outgoing naturally, but I have a few friends I'm very close with, rather than tons of acquaintances. I'm just quieter by nature & I don't like making small talk
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@yellowbird: Yes! Me too! I feel like a teenage girl who is all like, "what if she didn't like me?!" So, I wait to see if they initiate the second "date." I met an awesome bee IRL and was too shy to initiate a second hang out.
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This is something I'm really working on especially as a new mom who will be staying at home. I don't think I come off as stand off-ish anymore-- I know i used to and have worked on it-- but I have a hard time moving from acquaintances to friends who make plans just with each other (as opposed to hanging out when a whole group is getting together or something.).
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I feel like I'm a little shy, but my friends tell me I don't come off that way. But I think I feel awkward talking to new people, but I force myself to do it out of politeness or genuine curiosity about the other person.
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@rahlyrah: hah that's exactly how I am... I always figure I made a horrible impression and then I don't want to impose for a second hangout
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@rahlyrah: :((( its so hard!! I need some bees that live around me. I have no friends since we just moved here in june. So lonely!
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@grizz: I'm the same way.
We are going to start doing baby groups this week and I'm pretty nervous. I'm actually going to have to talk to people. I have a hard time approaching someone I don't know.
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I have trouble with this and worry that I come off as snobby
@ALV91711: forcing myself to get out and go to groups with M has been really hard for me but turned out to be the best thing! Babies are great ice breakers. I've met friends who I actually get together with outside of groups. I never thought I'd be able to do that. I think when it comes down to it a lot of new moms are feeling the same way.
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i think it depends. i can click with someone one on one or in a small group if we have stuff in common. But in larger groups i tend to stand back and am more shy so it wouldn't be easy for me.
@grizz: my husband too is so good at making conversation with anyone anywhere anytime! But he is terrible at making plans and maintaining friendships which i am really good at - i've stayed close friends with several people since elementary and high school.
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Same situation. I struggle to make friends in real life and online. I'm not sure what is holding me back.
DH can make friends with anyone in about 5 seconds. I don't know how he does it!
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I seem to make friends pretty easily, I just have a hard time choosing wisely and finding friendships that are worthwhile/lasting.
ETA: that sounds weirder than I meant it to. Maybe I should say I'm good at making acquaintances?
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@rahlyrah: I'm the same way! Let's hang out again and start a shy girls club!
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I can find common ground and get along with pretty much anyone and I make friends really easily. DH is the same. What Im not good at is being at home for long periods of time - Im too social for my own good!
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@Katrocap: yes!
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I think I can connect to people pretty easily. I'm not very shy and I feel like I have a pretty easy time chatting to new people. Where I really fall down is the next step. I never really know what "friends" do together as adults or like, how to set up a "friend date" when you're first friends with people. Especially since I don't really like going out and doing stuff that much. My idea of a perfect evening with a friend is getting some take-out and watching honeybooboo in my living room in sweats. Which is kind of awkward to invite someone to that first time haha.
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Not really.
I think it is hard to make friends as an adult.
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@Katrocap: @rahlyrah: Can I come up to B-more to hang out with you guys? I'm shy around people if I think THEY think they're too cool for me (I probably need to remember all of the awesome ladies posting here that they may come off as snobbish but it's just shyness!), but otherwise I can talk for hours
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not at all. i'm far too shy, and just think people wont like me for some reason.
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@rahlyrah: same here. I'm more shy and reserved. DH is super social and can make friends with anyone and everyone. That's one thing I love about him.
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No I am also shy. If I go to a new group I usually will not approach anyone. I am just not a good conversation starter and keeper going.
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I socialize really easily in pretty much any situation, but have alot of trouble connecting further than that & have very few irl friends. Even those I call "friends" I don't usually see outside of situations like small group or church, no coffee dates, shopping outings, playdates, etc.
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@Bookish: coulda fooled me lady!
I can be pretty awkward at times and usually end up thinking the person didn't like me much.
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@.twist.: bahaha I'm good at emailing, I'll admit that.
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What cracks me up is that some of my favorite people on HB are the ones writing here saying its hard for them to make friends, and that they are shy
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@grizz: the internet is a mysterious thing!! Haha I'm also not sure how you could possibly be considered snobby!! Crazy talk!
@Bookish: true! It's ok if we are awkward, we would just play video games to make it better!
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@Lozza: Of course! Any time!
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I can be awkward/sometimes my humour doesn't translate to all involved.. but I tend to make friends fairly easily.
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