I had DH and a Doula as my support team both times. I kind of wish I would have had my mom there for the second one... It would have been cool to share that with her. Probably would have caused a 'thing' with MIL though
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nope, i was thrilled it was just me, DH and my doula.
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I wanted just DH and I but was pressured into MIL.
I don't regret it and I'm not upset by it but I really wish it had just been us.
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It was just me and DH. No one else was there when we conceived and so I figured no one else not medically involved needed to be there at birth. That's the plan for this pregnancy too.
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It was just dh and I there which I enjoyed. It was a really special moment for the two of us. This time maybe I would have my mom too, but probably not.
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DH, doula and hospital staff--will be same for #2.
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For the active labor part it was just me and DH. My mom was driving in with my sister and my nephew. They made just as I was hitting 10cm. My nephew stayed in the waiting room (he was 16 at the time). My mom and sister were only going to stay in the room while I labored down but then I ended up wanting them there for support! I don't regret it at all. They both had c-sections (my sister had 3!) so my birth was the first vaginal one either had attended. It was a really special moment for all of us.
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My mom was there (along with DH) and I wouldn't change it.
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My mom and DH. I waffled on whether to have mom ( I knew she'd be great, but worried about MIL, didn't know if I'd want it to be an experience for just me and DH). But I'm so so glad she was there. Was great to have her on one side and DH on the other. And it meant so much to her - I am really glad we shared that experience together.
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No regrets. I just had DH in the room with me, and I don't think I could handle anyone else.
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Just dh, no regrets!!
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No, and I had a crowd....D, my mom, MIL and FIL, plus a labor nurse, and several residents were in and out (it was a teaching hospital, and I had okayed it).
It wasn't planned, and I don't know if I'd want the same next time, but I was really grateful for all the support.
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No regrets, just my husband. I am not at my best during labor, ain't nobody else need to see that.
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I've only ever wanted my DH, and he was the only one both times. So, no.
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Nope, I had DH, my home birth midwife, and my doula with my first at the hospital (we had to transfer care after 36 hours of labor) and that was perfectly fine!
Only had DH the second time and that was awesome, too. I would never have more family in the delivery room.
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It was just DH and the hospital staff and that's exactly what I wanted. My mom is pretty old school and I don't think even wanted anyway (not to mention that she lives five hours away). I love her and was happy to have her stay with us later but I only wanted Dh in the hospital, much less in the room.
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No regrets. Just M and my lifemate @littlejoy.
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No regrets either time.
With my first: it was Myself, DH, my mum, my dad, and FIL. Plus hospital staff.
With our second: it was myself, DH, my mum, my dad, and N.
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No. I had my husband and mom and my dad (he left for checks of course). I was strapped to a bed though because I had to be monitored and every time I moved they lost LO's heart rate. If I'd been up and moving around I might have wanted a bit more privacy but I was happy for company and distraction.
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I wanted a super private, intimate labor with just DH and my doula. MIL and FIL barged into the room 6 hours into my labor, without my permission. This was before my doula and DH arrived so no one was around to stop them. I was mid-contraction when they arrived but didn't want to stress myself out by asking them to leave, so I just kept my eyes closed and waved. It makes me quite angry in retrospect! I understand that their intentions were good, but what the hell!
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Just DH, no regrets. I didn't want a spectacle for labor and delivery. My parents stated that they didn't want to be a part of it early on.
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So I haven't had my LO yet but the plan is to just have DH and my sis. My sis is my best friend, has delivered 4 times in every circumstance (vaginal, cesarean, vbac, med free, epidural, etc.) So she is a wealth of knowledge. Plus, DH is squeamish.
Eta: I have also stipulated no parents, etc in the waiting room. They all live pretty close to the hospital and I don't like the idea of people waiting in a room for me to give birth. -
I had dh, my mum and midwife. They were an amazing support team for me.
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Just my husband was there, and I don't regret it.
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Nope. I had DH and he was amazing.
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No, not at all. I had initially wanted to hire a doula because I didn't know how DH was going to cope supporting me in labour. He loves to make fun of me and when pushed to be serious he often gets over stressed, which in turn makes him snappy. He's terrible when I'm ill! We didn't hire a doula because DH refused to meet her, saying the whole thing was "ridiculous". Cut to my induction - DH was amazing! He was a tower of strength, supported me, fought my corner with the medical staff and counted me through every single contraction. Turns out when shit gets real, he's a bit of a gem!
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I had my husband and both of my parents. I don't have any regrets. My husband tried his best to support me, but was consumed by his own medical problems at the time. My parents were a great support, and it was a special experience to share with them. My dad stayed in the far corner of the room at an angle where he couldn't see much. My husband stayed by my head, and my mom and the nurse held my legs.
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@lemondrop: haha, seriously!
I just had DH and the hospital staff. It didn't even occur to me that anyone else needed to be there.
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Me, DH, one nurse, one midwife. No regrets.
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DH, mom & sister. No regrets! Honestly, by the time the show is on the road, I didn't really care what was going on anymore!
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No regrets! DH and doula were both great.
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Haven't given birth yet, but plan for a nice size crowd at least for labor. I think I will like the distraction and conversation. I have warned them all that I may change my mind at any point and kick them out!
I have had the opportunity to participate in a lot of births earlier this year. We would "enforce" a hospital "policy" that limited the number of guests present at the actual pushing/birth to 3. Sometimes that meant kicking 10+ extended family members out to the waiting room!
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DH the whole time. Parents came in once I got the epi, left for checks, and left for pushing. After birth, when I felt up to it, we texted them that they could come back (maybe 10 minutes after). It was perfect. This time, my parents will have LO1, so I assume it will just be me and DH. I'm looking forward to that experience as well.
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This is going to sound awful but my hubs was quite unhelpful during my most of labor and delivery. Most of my labor was boring and he's not a good conversationalist, so i was glad my mom was there for that part to keep me occupied during the longest stretch. Hubs was great when it came to the really hard contractions, and getting me to focus through them and was awesome when they had to give me the epidural. As for when I was pushing, my mom went to the waiting room. The nurse had my hubs hold my left leg while she held my right and my husband was very much not into taking that much of an active role in the pushing process and was quite squimish for a biology major. He would have preferred just standing near my head and encouraging me from there i guess. I dont think he was prepared for what delivery would really be like (we never took a class, he didnt read any books, it wasnt really discussed at the appts with our OB, and I really didnt know what i would "need" it terms of support to prepare him) I'm not sure how we will work this out when it comes time for baby #2. Not sure if I will discuss my husbands level of comfort with my doctor to arrange for 2 nurses or if we will hire a doula or have my mom stay while I deliver.
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It was just me and DH and I wouldn't want it any other way!
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Nope! I had DH and my photographer in there. That's all I wanted and am happy with that decision. I only want both of them there for all future deliveries too!
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Nope. Just DH and the hospital staff. I was actually relieved because I wasn't sure how to tell my mom I didn't want here there and/or what to do about my MIL, but LO came a few days early (and I was CONVINCED I would be late). So my mom was actually in her plane en route when LO was born and the ILs didn't show up for a few days later. It was great! The only downside was that we didn't have a backup plan for our dogs without family in town (we moved across the country and literally know no one here, especially at that time) so DH had to keep popping out to go let the dogs out, which still makes me sad when he left after LO was born during that golden hour while staff left us alone. But the hospital was super close so it was fine. Much better than family drama!
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First DD, my husband and then my mom came in (I was having a tough time) second DD was a scheduled CS so just DH. No regrets.
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It was just DH and the hospital staff, which is all I wanted. I really enjoyed it and I will do the same next time.
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No regrets--my husband and my mom. My labor was pretty quick, so at first it was just my husband until my mom arrived probably 2 hours before she was born. It was great to have them both there, they were both a really great support system! My MIL did come in when I was pushing, which I told my husband I did not want her in there, but luckily they kicked her out since there can only be 2 people.
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