Pantene created a "Not Sorry" ad aimed at women to stop of us from using "sorry" so much. Saying sorry is tied to lack of self-confidence. Do you say sorry too much?
Not Sorry | #ShineStrong Pantene:
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No. It actually bugs me when people say it too much.
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I do. I'm also working on saying "no" without feeling guilty...
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I try to say "excuse me" more often, especially in the workplace.
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@Dandelion: me too. I tell women all the time, no need to apologize and they look at me as if I have two heads. We aren't meant to be perfect and cannot control things beyond our control so stop saying sorry!
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i say sorry SO MUUUUUUCH. it might be the canadian in me? but i think i even go overboard for most canadians. and my friends make fun of me because i always say "i feel bad" about EVERYTHING. i need to stop that, probably.
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I'm Canadian.
Definitely. LOL
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@loki: oh boy! I do that tooooo. *sorry*
haha
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Yes, I'm Canadian!
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@.twist.: haha the worst is when someone points it out... "you say sorry too much"... me: sorry! ahhh!!!!!!
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I say "excuse me" more than sorry I think. I don't think I say it excessively though, and I don't apologize for asking questions or when I give my daughter to my husband!
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@loki: I'm sorry I said sorry! :'(
Hah! Totally.
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Yes, but I've been trying to stop and say "excuse me" more, since that's usually what I mean anyway!
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Yes, my husband points it out to me all the time. It's my bad habit that I can't seem to break.
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My DH will confirm....I don't say sorry enough. Lol. So when I do say it, you know I really, really mean it!
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I say sorry too much. Just grew up apologizing for everything, even when it wasn't my fault, and have thus continued that type of behavior well into my 20's. Just natural for me to apologize. I say "I'm sorry for saying sorry" all the time too.
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@.twist.: Yep! Same. I blame it on being Canadian.
I play hockey and even apologize when I accidentally hit another player!
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Do Canadians say sorry more often than others??
only asking b/c a few responses say it often and attribute it to being canadian
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@Ajsmommy: it's a very Canadian stereotype but I think it's really true! I mean, of course, there are crazy rude people here too (on the TTC grrr) but.. for the most part, I think we tend to be overly polite and I definitely don't hear sorry as much when I go down to the US.
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I used to. I've consciously tried to stop saying 'sorry' when that's not what I mean.
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I probably do, and I only mean it about 25% of the time! I think it's unconscious but I should try to be better about it.
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I have made a rule that I am not aloud to say sorry in a work email unless I am actually at fault and apologizing or expressing sympathy. Neither one of these come up as often as I had been using sorry. It's hard!
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Too many people to @: but I think the point of (not) saying sorry is what many of you touched on is when saying sorry is not really what you mean. Sometimes, excuse me is the correct phrase, or simply sharing your thought/ request/action without a minimizing disclaimer.
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It's definitely a bad habit I have. I didn't even realize it until DH pointed it out.
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I do this as well, but I have been actively trying to correct it.
I notice though, that I mostly use it when I am going to interrupt someone, so the bigger task for me is waiting until people are finished speaking, then offering my 2 cents.
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Here's what I've noticed: a lot of times if I say sorry people are more accommodating, for example if I'm trying to get through with the stroller. I don't really mean it because I have nothing to apologize for but it's almost like apologizing for the inconvenience of them having to move over and it takes their guard down; when I say excuse me people get more annoyed. So it is what it is.
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Canadian, so yeah.
@Ajsmommy: We will say sorry, if someone bumps into us. I think it's probably a more true stereotype than the one about us saying "eh" all the time.
@Baby Boy Mom: I agree with you. "Excuse me" seems to be often received as as "why are you standing there in my way", whereas "sorry" seems to be received as "I'm sorry I have to get you to move a little bit over. My apologies for being annoying".
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No, I don't. My mom does and it drives me insane. She apologizes for things that are out of her control (like my step-siblings' ridiculous behavior). My sister and I are constantly telling her to stop apologizing.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: YES you don't need a disclaimer. I could see saying 'Oh excuse me" when yo'ure squeezing by someone or making room for them. Or if you're interrupting someone. What bothered me is the woman saying, "sorry, i have a stupid question.". Girl, you just undermined the shit out of yourself.
I would never say it while handing DH the baby, haha.
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Some might say I don't say it enough lol. To me it's more about showing it than saying it.
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Yep..I'm canadian. We say sorry for everything - even if it's not our fault!
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I say it all. the. time. I really need to stop.
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I used to!! I'm getting a lot better. I'm trying to practice not saying "sorry" when I truly had no control over it - especially in the professional world!
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@ejoiner: Ditto.
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I'm Canadian, so I probably say it a lot. I agree with the PP that it's commonly a substitute for "excuse me" here.
But like others I try to make a conscious effort not to apologize for my ideas, or being an inconvenience when I deserve to be somewhere just as much as anybody else.
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Yes, I say it all the time
But not always as an apology, more like an alternative for "excuse me" like pp have mentioned.
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Way too much.
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Yes. I don't apologize to ask a question or when someone encroaches on my space, like in the video, but I do apologize when I am asking someone to move, when I interrupt someone in their office at work, and often when I need help or something, as in "I'm sorry, could you...?"
The main reason I know I say it too much is when it irritates someone (usually a woman) and they say the super helpful, "Stop saying sorry!" lol.And I am on the fence about changing it.
Part of it is just my personality. I don't like to inconvenience people, not because of some deep seated inferiority complex but because I prefer to take care of things on my own, and I wish more people felt the same way. Don't bother me for something you could easily handle on your own with a little bit of thought, you know? So when I have to bother other people, I say 'sorry.'
The other part of it is that it pisses me off when people snap, "Stop saying sorry!" How is that not rude? And I will call people out on it in a heartbeat.
That being said, I am more aware due to raising a daughter and I would like her to say sorry less than I do.
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@lizzywiz: i agree, i'd much rather someone say sorry too much than not enough! i don't think it's necessarily a negative thing and i don't think me saying sorry says anything about my value or self esteem... i'm just aware of how my actions affect other people and i want to apologize if i'm interrupting them or i have to ask them to move out of my way. i also say please and thank you excessively... i equate it with being polite, regardless of whether or not it might annoy others!
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@loki: oh, I 'please' and 'thank you' the crap outta people! Including my husband, who responds, "You don't have to thank me for doing the dishes (or whatever)." But I think he secretly feels appreciated because I do
haha
But not always as an apology, more like an alternative for "excuse me" like pp have mentioned.
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