When your kids are awake/around?
As a stay at home mom, I make sure I take some time for myself, even if the girls are awake. I used to feel guilty about it but I really think having some time to read a book, browse my phone, chat with my mom is important.
Do you take time for yourself when your kids are around?
honeydew / 7444 posts
Yes, but i usually can't do it for a long time if it's just me. I'll enjoy a coffee and read through my phone while the kids play or are watching a show. If DH is home then i'll go to the studio/gym or meet friends.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
In very small ways. Like I'd watch her play on the iPad for 10 minutes so I can browse FB for a little bit too 
But since I'm next to her I can still interact with her throughout and not feel so guilty.
cantaloupe / 6171 posts
If she's awake and we're both home, lo rarely lets me have any me time, especially since we cut screen time in December. But over the summer and fall, dh took lo to swim classes alone on Sunday mornings, so that was nice "me" time--I either used it to work if I needed the extra time or veg out! We're starting a Saturday ballet class instead in a couple weeks and dh will take her sometimes, though we'll have a newborn soon too so I won't really have me time then either!
pomelo / 5791 posts
If everyone is awake and home....it's almost impossible. We really need to find a way to though!
eggplant / 11861 posts
Latley I take a nice hot shower before their bedtime routine....DD thinks it is "cool" to babysit her brother with a book in the bathroom with me. I could wait for DH to get home, but it gives me 10 mins of down time and a hot shower soooo score in my book!
And I know it won't last .....
papaya / 10570 posts
Not really. It's frequently just me with the kids and they don't let me have five minutes to breathe. I do sometimes stand in the kitchen with my coffee, but that only lasts a short while before E comes to find me. It's actually harder when DH is home because he is in a lot of pain at the moment (artritis) and gets super stressed with the children, particularly S's crying, really easily; I hear him losing his cool within minutes of me walking away and I feel I have to come back and save him.
hostess / cantaloupe / 6486 posts
Totally. I used to not. No nap days would literally ruin the entire day for me. But I've learned that my needs are important too and they are important to the rest of the family. So if I end up not waking up before the girls, I'll hole up in my bedroom for 3 to 10 (those are the lucky days) minutes to read my bible/pray. If they don't nap, fine, but mommy still needs to exercise (I will cut it shorter if they're awake) and complete at least one chore. I've also set boundaries with them now that they are older like, once I've sat down to my breakfast, I'm not getting up again until I'm done. I warn them before hand, try to fill all immediate needs prior to sitting down but then I want to eat and I'm not getting up. Its really helped me a lot as a parent and I think it's good to teach the kids that hey, people other than you have needs to too.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
My son calls me out when I use my phone when we're together, so I do try to leave it alone unless I need to look something up urgently.
Other than that, I am not sure what it would require, really. For me, taking time for myself means going to get a hair cut...my son usually comes with because the owner has a dog. If I am getting a pedicure, my son likes to come and pick out the colors.
eggplant / 11716 posts
Kind of. I mean, it's not 100% relaxing to read or do online stuff when I'm in charge of the kids, just because I always have to keep one eye on them. But if both girls are playing, then I don't feel guilty at all checking FB or dreaming about Disney trips or playing on HB or whatever. It usually only happens in 10-15 minute spurts, anyway. And then they need me again.
GOLD / nectarine / 2884 posts
Hell yeah! We have a playroom so I don't even feel bad about it. I'm just like, get thee to the playroom. I also have rules like others have mentioned, I don't do seconds until I'm done with my meal, etc. And when my 4 year old whines about taking a walk in the stroller I am in the habit of telling him that although I know he is bored, these walks are for my health (aka not his entertainment!).
cherry / 172 posts
Yes!! DS gets to watch one half hour show a day and during that time, I relax , have a cup of coffee, or pinterest. Etc. Also, when DH gets home I also get some more "me time" 
nectarine / 2987 posts
I think talking on the phone to my mother or reading reading a book is modeling good choices, just like eating my veggies at family dinner. When I used to SAH DS knew that I would sit with a cup of tea or coffee and a book for a few minutes most days and I taught him to check my cup. If mama's cup wasn't empty, then he had to go play and leave me alone. So if he came up to try to engage me I would hold out my cup for him to peer in and then just keep reading
persimmon / 1147 posts
Me time is essential through out the day as a SAHM. I wake up an hour before the girls do (age 2 and 4) to exercise, shower and if I'm lucky pour my first cup of coffee. At various points through out the day they are finally at an age to play together so they don't need my full attention or to entertain them at all times. So these times are my times to eat breakfast in peace, do some chores etc. The tv goes on around 5 for an hour so I can listen to a podcast and cook dinner in peace. Days are long and presently cold and snowy stuck in the house. Time to myself is essential to get through the day!
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts
I have to! Otherwise I would go crazy. I try to do it when they are more engaged with each other so it's more enjoyable for all. Or, if I really need a moment they get some TV time.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
it's hard doing anything somewhat constructive and relaxing while watching LO. I am able to chill when he plays in his bedroom and I use bath time as a mommy break. I put on my swimsuit and get in there too. Thank goodness he takes after me and likes a warmer bath.
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